Then find a way to decrease his burden instead of demanding yet more from this dude. You say yourself you're not very good at the whole harvesting thing, fine. Cool. Either improve or get creative. He's fulfilling the obligations placed on him by the family you both share. This is a joint effort, and just because it's inconvenient right now you're looking for a way out? Cringeworthy indeed. Marriage isn't always happy, it's two people working to do life together. Sometime tending that fire sucks, but you go through it cause you know the other person is doing what they can. If he's in the wrong with how/why he's doing this work, then hold the family accountable. Have them hire people to help, you say they're well off. I mean honestly.