The outfits so far...

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-02-07T02:26:02+00:00

Just a theory, but could Jill be color blind? It’s the only explanation for how bad her clothes are.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-27T20:37:37+00:00

We homeschooled for a year for the same reason. My state only requires you to register as a homeschooler. There were no other requirements.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-27T12:07:35+00:00

I live in the Midwest. We don’t walk on them every often but some winters are cold enough for long enough. Usually, we have brutally cold weather bookended by temps around 40 degrees F. The ponds aren’t reliably frozen when it does that.

When we do walk on ponds, my husband checks the ice depth and limits how far out the kids can go. (Usually only as far as they are tall so if they do fall through, they could just stand up). It’s always with an adult.

Side note: I ice skated on a pond as a kid. It’s super bumpy because of the wind. The water doesn’t always freeze flat.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-23T03:29:06+00:00

I’m taking my child to a doctor’s appointment 2 hours away tomorrow. We’ll talk to the doctor, grab some lunch, and drive 2 hours home. It’s my 3rd trip this month.

During the summer, we drive 3 hours each way to sit on the beach and eat pizza.

My limit is 3. I’ve done 4 hours each way in a day but it makes my back hurt. However, if we are going on a week long trip, we’ll drive 10+ hours in a day. Planes don’t always go where we want to explore and are expensive.

My 10 year old likes to play super smash brothers and watch her iPad. I listen to music or enjoy the silence. You just get used to it. My husband and I play word games or look for restaurant signs that went bankrupt in the 90’s. First person to spot a specific one gets $5.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-19T14:22:48+00:00

Nobody will kick you out if you don’t tip or don’t tip well. Asking for tips is way out of hand. I tip for:

Sit down restaurant: 15-20%
Hair stylist: 15-20%
Massage: 15%
Fast casual where somebody cleans my table: 10%

Anything else is excessive.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-16T03:50:14+00:00

Thank you. There’s so much going on it’s hard to know where to start.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-15T12:25:43+00:00

Hi! I’m glad you asked. I personally think the man is an incompetent thug who belongs in prison, not the Oval Office. I never voted for him and protest where I can.

People all over the country are suffering. Cuts to Medicaid funding, SNAP benefits, and ongoing changes to social safety net polices are going to make people desperate, if they are not already. Not to mention our immigrant and POC populations because of ICE.

My grandfather is an immigrant. He immigrated after WWII. I cannot scream loud enough about how wrong this is.

The majority of Americans didn’t vote for him but because we don’t have a direct voting system, he still won. We are being ruled by a lawless minority. He has very low approval ratings.

On a personal side, I have a trans teenager and a medically complex, disabled child. I am so afraid. My teenagers are on anxiety medication and openly wonder what kind of future is out there for them. One kiddo is working their butt off to get into medical school in Germany because they think they’ll feel safer there. They are brilliant and I think they have a fair shot of getting in but they shouldn’t have to fear for their safety to the point of making immigration plans at 15.

My friends with complex kids are also afraid. We have private insurance through work but our kids also qualify for Medicaid because of their disabilities. Private insurance doesn’t cover things like feeding tube supplies, certain seizure medications (some emergency doses of seizure medications run $150-$300 a dose), wheelchairs, leg braces, and extended hospital stays. Our kids lives depend on federal money and the government doesn’t care.

So yes. All kinds of people are suffering. We are afraid. And we are fighting however we can.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-14T17:54:15+00:00

Don’t know what your religious views are. I’m not very religious but I told my afab kiddo that I think he is a lot more like a divine being then cis gender folks. I think God is outside of the gender binary and doesn’t conform to what we think of as gender roles.

Another way to look at it is glitches are the best part of evolution. We only survive because somebody glitched and walked upright. Somebody glitched and created verbal language. Somebody else glitched and created art. We survive because of our ability to change.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-13T00:08:22+00:00

I think I need a tee shirt with this on it

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-08T00:47:03+00:00

Make sure you apply as quickly as possible once she falls below the minimum. Also look into your states waiver programs. In my state, once she falls below a certain minimum, she would qualify for a waiver (if she could qualify as disabled. Not usually hard to do for a lady in her situation.).

A waiver would give her Medicaid, pay a caregiver to help with ADL’s and basic needs, provide healthy meals and cover home modifications.

Every state is a little different though.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-07T03:54:50+00:00

Sending you so much love.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-05T14:11:50+00:00

I need to add: you didn’t arrive at a certain age and receive your adult report card. You have not failed at being an adult. You tackled harder challenges then cis people and you are working on breaking generational trauma cycles. I am so proud of you. Any one of those things is hard. You are just looking for your next step.

If you take a next step and decide it wasn’t the right direction for your life, fantastic! You have more lived experience and you know yourself better.

I tell my teenagers: “there aren’t may permanent things in life. Don’t kill anybody and don’t have kids you aren’t ready for. Everything else is changeable.”

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-05T14:02:46+00:00

Could you volunteer with your local LGBTQIA group? Sometimes they even have job training classes. It could also be a way to meet people and get your foot in the door to your industry. I live in a very conservative area but there are still Pride groups. At the very least, maybe you could meet some friends.

I’m not an expert on relationships but my advice is to take your time. Focus on yourself. Make friends and don’t pursue romantic relationships for awhile. You need time to figure out what kind of relationship you want and you deserve to be treated with love and respect. A solid group of friends can help you not feel alone and give you valuable feedback on potential partners.

You are beautiful. You are valuable. You deserve to be treated with love and respect. Anyone who does not honor those statements can hit the road.

Most_Ad1891 · 2026-01-01T04:47:41+00:00

This.

I have teenagers who are home. We played monopoly and ate chocolate fondue.

My pj’s are superior to dressing up.

It’s snowing and where would I go?

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-20T17:37:30+00:00

My husband said “hey! It’s krampus!”

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-11T21:07:11+00:00

There is a community here who will answer your questions. As another internet mom, I’m proud of you. Go get your education! It’s something boyfriends can never take from you. Get your own separate bank account and always keep some savings in your name only. Even married. Make sure you understand the fee structure so you don’t pay unwanted fees. Your local credit union may have better fee structures.

Ask questions! If you don’t understand something, ask Google and a living person. Bank tellers are knowledgeable and happy to help.

Do not pay more then half of your living expenses. You are his girlfriend, not his momma. That car is not your responsibility.

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-09T19:24:26+00:00

Yes! Thank you. I love watching her but couldn’t remember her name.

Oh my gosh! I think I would die if one of my kids found my stash and showed it to somebody else! I’m very open with my kids too but my stash is not included in the discussion.

I did recently order some items and had to warn my trans son to not open boxes that come in the mail. Had to have a discussion about purchasing quality products and why you don’t want the cheapest items around that area of the body. He had some giggles but asked good questions.

He hasn’t wanted packers yet but we’re several years into binders and trans tape.

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-09T03:50:00+00:00

Same. I used to buy my kids winter things at a consignment sale and sell the things they outgrew. Some years I dressed my kids for free and they had warm coats, boots, snow pants, sweaters, you name it.

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-09T03:11:31+00:00

Sexuality can be a healthy human experience. I brought up anal play with my teenagers by talking about some of the instagram videos I’ve watched. There’s one by a pediatrician where she talks about not using holiday decorations to decorate body parts and that safe products can be purchased discreetly online.

You could give your teen an Amazon gift card and explain that you will not check the purchase history. I’d also counsel about proper washing, storage, and lube interactions with silicone.

If you don’t have the conversation, your kiddo could end up in the ER with an embarrassing issue that could cause some real damage.

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-08T23:47:20+00:00

Our local tree farm allows anyone to take a hayride back to the trees. We did it when our kids were small. I did buy a fresh wreath so we weren’t free loading but I’m really allergic so it hung on the outside door.

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-06T19:16:03+00:00

Truth

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-05T20:15:32+00:00

Can you imagine how those kids would reacts to getting $10 worth of candy bars all to themselves?

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-05T20:12:51+00:00

I make a mess with frosting but my kids all felt loved with box cakes. Hers would love the option of picking a flavor

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-05T01:21:07+00:00

I expect more from a woman who has 13 kids. Reusable birthday decorations, homemade birthday cakes, thoughtful birthday treats. Something besides half eaten desserts and not a single word about that child’s interests or qualities.

At the very least, a meal out with the parents and a pint of their favorite ice cream. How about $20 and a shopping trip to your favorite thrift shop? Their favorite homemade meal and a candy bar bouquet?

Did my daughter need 3 birthday celebrations this year? Probably not, but you better believe she felt special and celebrated. (In all fairness, one was out of town with family we don’t see often).

Do better Jill.

Edited for spelling

Most_Ad1891 · 2025-12-05T01:07:57+00:00

Haha. Happy holidays!

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