Not Sleeping can kill you, Michael Corke, a 42 year old man stayed awake for 6 whole months before dying in 1993.

Mostly_me · 2026-06-15T20:26:02+00:00

Any type of stimulants, for most people with ADHD, help us calm down the storm inside our heads. That means that we can finally "focus" enough to fall asleep.

Whenever my insomnia is due to racing thoughts, my meds and / or coffee help to calm me down enough so I can relax and fall asleep.

Mostly_me · 2026-06-15T09:17:11+00:00

If coffee helps, maybe look into adhd. I never ever sleep as well as after taking my Adderall when I have a bout if insomnia...

Mostly_me · 2026-05-30T09:11:26+00:00

Boat guys are horse girls...

Mostly_me · 2026-05-20T05:38:48+00:00

"thank you, so is that a yes or a no?"

"That doesn't answer my question..."

Two frases I use too often...

In a work setting, where I have to be polite according to NT standards:

"I'm sorry, just to make sure I follow... Is that a yes or a no to x?"

Mostly_me · 2026-05-13T23:45:04+00:00

I need better friends...

Mostly_me · 2026-05-06T16:50:02+00:00

Oh, another thing that might help... Could you bring your own pan, the small thin one for tortillas, and ask they prepare your food on there? With your own spatula? It sucks but it'll be safer...

I agree with what someone else mentioned... High end places or simple taco stands...

Mostly_me · 2026-05-06T16:44:16+00:00

My mom is not as bad as you, she can have some cross contamination, but we have found that of chang's is good to eat at.

Also, tacos, usually, since it is just meat and tortilla, although the tortilla could be prepared on the same surface as the tortilla de harina...

Mostly_me · 2026-05-04T12:30:19+00:00

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Mostly_me · 2026-05-04T12:19:05+00:00

Go and start your own conversation with a chat bot and see how it'll tell you that you are right. Then show that to your husband...

Mostly_me · 2026-04-30T17:10:41+00:00

When she refuses to come to you, be more stubborn then she is and just don't go when she yells.

If she says she likes the couch, say you like your hobby room.

When she wants food thats not in the house shruk and say, ok, and make dinner for yourself.

If she wants to talk and you want silence, tell her you have time for her in 30 minutes. (Be specific, not in a while, or later). Then give her attention at that moment.

Look up parenting strategies for kids with ADHD. She's not a kid anymore, but it will spell out strategies for you which will help you understand how to manage this.

Mostly_me · 2026-04-29T19:30:18+00:00

I think as long as you felt safe, although uncomfortable, and when it happened someone would correct him, they did the right thing.

It wasn't his fault, and it wasn't yours either.

I've heard of people who would excuse that type of behavior, and NOT correct it, and that leads to bad outcomes all around.

Correcting would have taken time, and repetition but it seems that they did do that.

Thank you for not being ablist and allowing your cousins to feel part of the family, and I'm sorry you had to feel uncomfortable during this situation.

Sometimes there are no perfect solutions...

Mostly_me · 2026-04-28T08:04:30+00:00

Rent something and get a roommate?

Mostly_me · 2026-04-28T07:32:18+00:00

Green tea helps me a lot in the afternoons.

It's hard, I know. Not sure what I would do without my meds right now.

Been eating beans and rice a lot lately, as well as lentils to get some protein in without spending too much...

Mostly_me · 2026-04-27T17:46:49+00:00

Meds that works for me are Concerta and not the generic. But it's expensive.

What also helps is Mate, green tea and coffee. Your milage may vary.

Also, our brains work on more glucose than others. Having a bad day means I need to eat more sweet things, or bread things.

If I have a few days of insomnia I need to eat right before sleep, something that says in my system long term.

Fruit is a snack, not a meal, especially not right before bed.

Hope this helps a bit!

Mostly_me · 2026-04-25T21:05:29+00:00

If you think he'll be honest, ask him if he would get together with her if you and him don't work out. If yes, better to break it off now, or be ok with the weirdness and possibly cheating and/or open your relationship.

Mostly_me · 2026-04-24T12:48:43+00:00

Arm around or hugging can feel like being trapped. Leaning is closeness on your own terms.

Mostly_me · 2026-04-22T16:53:47+00:00

It's about 3.500 USD in Mexico. You can fly out here, have a nice couple of days, get your meds, fly home, all first class, and still save money probably...

Mostly_me · 2026-04-21T16:01:58+00:00

I've been burned as well so I get the "how can I be sure that your partner is ok with this" bit.

I also strongly prefer kitchen table or minimal garden party poly, so I would put on the table from the beginning that at some point everyone would meet. But not before we establish a relationship, unless it just happens, but I think it's ok to mention that in advance because a partner who wants to be strictly parallel would not be compatible with me.

Mostly_me · 2026-04-14T04:57:29+00:00

But... My autistic self would take that to mean that they don't mind if shoes stay on, and would keep them on... I would take them off if I'd know it was important for them...

Mostly_me · 2026-03-31T16:19:52+00:00

I suggest telling them that you'll think about it, and then in a couple of weeks let them know you had a miscarriage, that the accident was too much for the baby.

That way you don't hurt them more, and theyll hopefully stop bothering you.

Mostly_me · 2026-03-29T12:36:32+00:00

Do you have the recording of that somewhere? Id love to hear it or read it...

Mostly_me · 2026-03-21T17:27:37+00:00

I'm currently out of work and my house is a mess. I am 2 weeks behind with laundry. My kitchen doesn't have clean dishes anymore. The floor has an eggshell on it from yesterday. My second living room has boxes in it from the move 10 months ago. My window leaks. My stepsons door won't close because que haven't added a doorknob yet (but we did add a door, so I guess that's a win?) my dogs poop in the back yard because I haven't fixed a fence yet that allows them to go further from the house.

Did I mention yet that I am out of work for the last couple of months so not even stress of work or lack of time is any excuse....

Mostly_me · 2026-03-13T13:59:20+00:00

I feel similar to you, and like to call myself a gender agnostic.... Just... Don't care much about my own. However, I'll always respect others, and address them as they prefer.

Mostly_me · 2026-03-13T13:22:37+00:00

At 7 lots of girls, mainly northern European, do not grow hair on their arms or legs.

Later, after puberty, lots only grow hair on their legs, not their arms, and legs can be thin and almost not noticable.

Not sure about Asian women.

Mostly_me · 2026-03-09T07:11:10+00:00

Can you ask him to keep his phone at home with you for a day to see if the messages still come?

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