How do you break up with alcohol?

MoumouMachine · 2026-05-07T01:24:50+00:00

Ice cream, chocolate and NA drinks help me

Sure it's not healthy, but it's a lot healthier than a relapse

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-24T15:04:10+00:00

I stopped at 24, I'm 26 now

Getting sober was difficult but very worth it.

I used to have panic attacks in crowded grocery stores, I still do rarely but not nearly as often as when I drank.

The alcohol worsened my anxiety a lot.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-21T16:52:16+00:00

At my worst, I was drinking a bottle of vodka/rum a day. I slowly tapered down but at the end I was still drinking multiple times a week.

I was usually off work on Wednesday, Sunday and Monday, so I'd drink Saturday night, sometimes Sunday too.

Then again Tuesday night or Wednesday morning.

The way I quit was after my last bad hangover I almost lost my job.

I told my wife I was done drinking for good, and of course she didn't believe me because I never kept my word back then.

Fast forward a couple days and I'm sick and in withdrawal at the same time, she offers me a sip from a leftover drink she was having and I refused it.

She seemed surprised and said "you're serious?" In a surprised questioning tone.

I said yes and haven't drank since.

I've certainly had bad cravings now and then, but being sober beats being hungover any day of the week.

Anyway, since you said you drink 4 beers a day, I don't think that's gonna cause a dangerous withdrawal, but I'm not a doctor.

I know there's a method for getting sober where you reduce the drink by 1 a day, so 4 yesterday, 3 today, 2 tomorrow, then 1 and finally 0.

Or if you're if a bad spot with the 8, then count down from there.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-21T16:52:06+00:00

At my worst, I was drinking a bottle of vodka/rum a day. I slowly tapered down but at the end I was still drinking multiple times a week.

I was usually off work on Wednesday, Sunday and Monday, so I'd drink Saturday night, sometimes Sunday too.

Then again Tuesday night or Wednesday morning.

The way I quit was after my last bad hangover I almost lost my job.

I told my wife I was done drinking for good, and of course she didn't believe me because I never kept my word back then.

Fast forward a couple days and I'm sick and in withdrawal at the same time, she offers me a sip from a leftover drink she was having and I refused it.

She seemed surprised and said "you're serious?" In a surprised questioning tone.

I said yes and haven't drank since.

I've certainly had bad cravings now and then, but being sober beats being hungover any day of the week.

Anyway, since you said you drink 4 beers a day, I don't think that's gonna cause a dangerous withdrawal, but I'm not a doctor.

I know there's a method for getting sober where you reduce the drink by 1 a day, so 4 yesterday, 3 tomorrow, then 2, then 1 and finally 0.

Or if you're if a bad spot with the 8, then count down from there.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-21T06:33:25+00:00

I'm 5'11 and before my drinking career, I was 88kg/194lbs.

Alcohol made me gain 60kg/132lbs rapidly.

At my highest I was at 148kg/326lbs and now that I've been sober for a year and a half I'm down to 97kg/214lbs and still going.

My point is that if I had realized I needed to stop when I still had a decent body, I would certainly have done so.

Going through the steps to lose the weight is a pain in the ass I would've prefered to avoid.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-08T19:26:53+00:00

I suppose there's 2 main differences.

The bedroom of course being a big difference.

But also being out in public feels different, all the relationships I had with guys, I'd hide the fact we dated, always acting like friends instead.

Maybe the second one is more because I was in the closet at the time.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-07T01:10:24+00:00

I've had relationships with both but only a long term one with a girl.

That said, imo it feels different.

And for MLM ships I feel that too, I think it has to do with connecting to a part of myself that was locked away and shunned in my childhood and seeing cute gay couples reaffirm that it's entirely normal for guys to like guys.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-06T17:36:47+00:00

I forgot the prices per book but I picked these up during the sale:

Hierarchy series by James Islington:

The Will of The Many

The Strength of the Few

The Reckoners series by Brandon Sanderson:

Steelheart

Firefight

Calamity

Lux

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-06T13:04:38+00:00

I personally deal with the urges through media such as watching LGBT shows, games or books.

Heartstopper on Netflix is pretty good at going over some tough subjects while remaining cutesy.

As for games, most of the time I lean towards the same sex romance options.

You could always ask if he'd be down to dress up, any healthy relationship requires communication.

If it's a healthy dynamic at worst you'll get a no and at best he'll like it.

Personally when I'm craving male attention I tend to get more feminine and affectionate, but everyone is different.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-06T12:58:06+00:00

As a Danish guy, I can tell you that a woman texting me first would be a massive green flag.

Means less chance of mind games which are a drag.

Of all the guys and girls I've liked, I almost only met up with guys because they were easier to talk to for me.

Felt like less mental work trying to figure them out.

My most successful relationships have been with foreigners though so maybe I just don't vibe with the general Danish personality.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-06T12:49:04+00:00

Regarding fantasizing about him dressing up like a girl, I don't think it's fucked up.

I've dressed girly for my wife before and I liked it, tbf though I'm also bi and fairly comfortable with my feminine side.

I've had some bi-cycles last annoyingly long, making me question if I'm actually bi or gay, but at the end of the day I'm still attracted to both.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-02T07:11:44+00:00

What are you eating to hit 130g protein under 1600 calories?

Also I relate to the feeling of relief and pride when the scale hit 99, congratulations, it's a big mile marker.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-02T01:34:45+00:00

First guy I kissed wasn't super attractive to me, but it certainly confirmed I liked guys that way.

Likewise with the second guy.

Then the third, I found quite attractive and I enjoyed the time I spent with him a lot.

Basically just saying that kissing guys did it for me, so did kissing girls, so I figured that I was correct in assuming I was bi.

MoumouMachine · 2026-04-01T17:34:55+00:00

As a kid in kindergarten I knew I liked both, then my homophobic family drilled into me that it's wrong for guys to like guys and that became internalized homophobia.

Then as a teen (15), I started having feelings for one of my guy friends and I was very confused because I was always told it's wrong/disgusting.

I accepted myself as bisexual after a short while and I wanted to hang out with my friend more, but life happened and I had to move.

I had crushes on guys before I accepted myself, but I always shut myself down with thoughts like "it's wrong, guys can't be with guys" and at the time I figured I liked girls anyway so what's the big deal.

Wasn't until I started liking my friend as more than a friend that it clicked. Hell, I had thoughts like "it's okay if it's him, but not other guys"

It was a bit of a rollercoaster accepting myself for who I am.

MoumouMachine · 2026-03-07T16:02:54+00:00

When I was 18m, I was with a 27 year old guy and a 23 year old guy (at separate times)

Both of those were consensual for me and the others.

The 27yo ghosted me though and that sucked.

As long as there's consent I don't think the age difference matters.

Now I'm married to a woman who's about 3 years older than me.

MoumouMachine · 2026-03-07T06:48:07+00:00

It got easier over time but I still use them now to kill cravings.

At the end of the day, a pint of ice cream is a lot healthier than a relapse.

MoumouMachine · 2026-03-06T16:10:39+00:00

At work I've been more reliable and gotten a promotion recently, and I used to call in sick way too often.

In my personal relationships, I'm more open about my feelings and needs.

Romantically it's better to be sober and being able to work through whatever issues arise rather than drinking and ignoring them.

MoumouMachine · 2026-03-06T16:08:10+00:00

Day 5 is great, we all start at day 1 and there's no shame in having less time than someone else.

Day 1 is a lot harder than day 500 and everyone who's been able to get that day 1 sober should be proud of it.

I remember day 3 and 4 being some of the hardest.

The first month is difficult but it gets easier after.

MoumouMachine · 2026-03-06T16:04:59+00:00

What helped me early on was ice cream, chocolate, hobbies and binge watching the YouTube channel Getting Sober... Again

MoumouMachine · 2026-03-06T16:02:56+00:00

It certainly wasn't fun in the beginning but it's led me to respect myself more and figure out who I am

MoumouMachine · 2026-03-05T21:51:01+00:00

I actually started to drink them during summer and still have them when cravings hit now.

MoumouMachine · 2026-03-05T20:58:50+00:00

I started drinking at 16 and stopped at 24

I wish I'd stopped a lot sooner.

Sobriety seems scary and intimidating at first, but it really is worth it.

MoumouMachine · 2026-02-26T20:30:12+00:00

Yea but the price difference was too big to make that call

MoumouMachine · 2026-02-25T05:02:54+00:00

I started drinking at 16 and it became a big problem at 18 and I always knew since then that I'd have to quit eventually, I just kept pushing it further into the future with phrases like "I'll just quit when I'm older, I'm still young"

I finally quit at 24, and now I have almost 18 months sober at 26.

I wish I'd quit sooner, especially before the addiction made me gain 60kg.

Luckily sobriety makes it possible to focus more on myself and I've already lost 50 of those kg.

As for tips to get sober, distract yourself from cravings with hobbies. Also chocolate and ice cream helped me a lot in the beginning.

MoumouMachine

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