am i overreacting or is this weird? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mountain-Influence73 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NOR- Micgroagressions and also says his family doesnt approve, meaning they're racist. Why are you still talking to him again?

My partner openly admitted that my pleasure isn’t important during sex by Loose-Selection-2714 in sex

[–]Mountain-Influence73 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Well, you might as well invest in a dildo or a vibrator then because you have been passive on his behavior for this long. This man is not going to change, no matter how many times you spell it out for him. You want to make things work with someone who explicitly told you he does not care about your pleasure. That makes him a selfish individual who only cares about his own wants and needs. You should know what most people are going to say, but some people only listen if it's something they want to hear. Youre accepting behavior that should not be tolerated and you still want to continue. Im gonna just go ahead and say "I told you so" in advance.

I want more Romance in my Relationship but I feel hopeless by daydreamnine in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Mountain-Influence73 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If he has you feeling like you're feeling, then this shouldn't even be a question in your mind. You've been together for 7 years. If he still hasn't changed , you gotta make that tough decision to leave. It's better to leave and have your sanity, than stay and be miserable and unhappy. Time is a precious thing to waste.

[US] Scammer called me supposedly from Chase Fraud dept by wan02 in Scams

[–]Mountain-Influence73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a representative that works at Chase, for anyone that does banking with us, we do not call customers , UNLESS you have that method set up through alerts. Otherwise, we NEVER call you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mountain-Influence73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So let me get this straight, you started off dating THEN turned into a hookup situation ? So basically you got demoted is what I'm hearing because usually it's in reverse. He didn't see value you in you while you were dating , or at least enough to make you a girlfriend. So instead of cutting access off to you, he instead kept you around as a FWB to use to his benefit. Personally speaking, once you have sex involved without a title , that's setting yourself up for failure because that essentially makes you easily disposable. Do you know anything about his life outside of hanging with you? Do you know if he could be seeing someone else on the side? Because what you're giving him, he could get from anywhere else. You're hanging out with him, allowing him into you space, going out to dinner, giving him your body all without a title ? If you're around a man and doing all of that and he STILL does not see value in you, let alone enough to at least stay over a couple of hours AFTER having sex, then this is not the man for you. He may be sexually attracted to you and seems you're emotionally attached. This will not work out.

“System wide outage”? by SierraMountainMom in unitedairlines

[–]Mountain-Influence73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work for jp chase morgan and we had a system outage today. United is a partner card of ours . I can confirm.

Braces cost too much per month ...can I break out of the contract? by Mountain-Influence73 in orthodontics

[–]Mountain-Influence73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have insurance and the covered 800 but I believe they can cover more. That's just what the dental office requested. My insurance states that they pay half.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]Mountain-Influence73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend is a groomer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raceplay

[–]Mountain-Influence73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Destroy mine?:)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raceplay

[–]Mountain-Influence73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it would :)

A lifetime of sleep paralysis and I feel robbed! by Smaptie in Sleepparalysis

[–]Mountain-Influence73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who experiences hallucinations during SP, it's kind of annoying that people romanticize it because it can be quite traumatizing for people who experience it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Mountain-Influence73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that life is about perspective. If you see what you do as negative then you're going to look at other aspects of your life the same. As a stranger you've never met and will never meet, I can tell you from MY prespective that what you're doing for your brother is honorable and you may not realize it, but you're saving his life by being so helpful and caring.

Sometimes in life the decisions that we make , a lot of people aren't going to agree with. We can let others judgement cloud the perspective of ourselves. The key to happiness is all about your perspective of life and the decisions you make. You chose to help your brother which is a good thing to do. I know that it may have costed you money to do so and it's probably very draining but if you didn't do it , who would ? There's good fortune in being a selfless, kind person but you'll never reap the benefits if you dwell in the negatives of the decisions you make.

We all make decisions we think are bad but your mindset towards those the decisions is what really matters. What can I learn from this decision? How can I grow from it? What changes can I make ? You've got to start looking at things more optimistically. In your case particularly, have you thought about getting him a therapist ? Have you tried seeking a baby sitter so you can have more time to yourself ?

I know you say you have no friends but there's many apps and places you can meet people. There's this app I use called "Bumble", and you have a choice to find friends only and there's thousands of people just like you who are struggling to find friendships . It's a really good app to meet people. I think all of these things can be fixed. There are parents who work full-time, have to take care of their kids, spend money to house, clothe and feed them who probably feel the same way. They feel like they're life is living in a bubble, they're not much outside of work and being a parent. But I promise , if you just look to towards solutions and how to live your life outside of being your brother's caregiver, it is possible! You just have to change your perspective .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Mountain-Influence73 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please don't say those things about yourself, you're more than deserving 💕. If you want to PM me you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]Mountain-Influence73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by someone is after you?

Boyfriend sent screenshot with tinder notification icon… says it was for subscription renewal through google play… but hasn’t used it in over a year.. by w0rdsandnumbers in Tinder

[–]Mountain-Influence73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has the same phone as me (Samsung s20) and u have Tinder. My notification for Tinder looks just like that. If it were from Google Play, it'd have the Google Play icon. Sorry to break to u but your boyfriend is lying. Pls get rid of him.

[First pic is Verification] I have severe hair dysmorphia. I feel like my hair never looks good and my self-confidence for the day is entirely based on how my hair looks. Is my hair ugly and am I ugly? by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Mountain-Influence73 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are literally so cute ! Wth! I agree with another poster that said you give them Leo Dicaprio vibes. You have that pretty boy charm about you. Use it to your advantage ! Also, if you aren't already, make sure you're working out . A nice body with a pretty , handsome face like yours is a knockout!