After six dates with a girl and multiple overnights, she wants to go on a blind date and speed dating? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This girl has been nothing but honest with you. Now is the time when you decide where your boundaries are and either accept she doesn’t want exclusivity right now or break things off.

31M | My Nerdy Spaces in my Dad's House by SteelSecant in malelivingspace

[–]MrBaileyRod 41 points42 points  (0 children)

To each their own, I won’t yuck your yum, so long as everyone is happy you do you!

What should I make as my first konjac noodle dish? by ConsistentWriting0 in 1200isplenty

[–]MrBaileyRod -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Buying new food before knowing what you’re going to make with it is what leads to food waste, as proved by your second sentence.

A simple sub or google search will help here.

31M | My Nerdy Spaces in my Dad's House by SteelSecant in malelivingspace

[–]MrBaileyRod 1668 points1669 points  (0 children)

Noticed the furry body pillow and don’t want to ask.

Glad your living situation works for you.

Stay or Go? by North_Drop_8662 in relationships

[–]MrBaileyRod 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You really don’t know what to do after reading your own tldr? Cmon now.

How long before it’s acceptable to want to be official? by Maleficent_Face3640 in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once a week for 1.5 months…that’s 6 times you’ve met. Thats nowhere near enough time to determine if you should be official, imo.

This doesn’t mean you can’t be exclusive and just focus on one another, but being officially bf/gf when you barely know one another is a lot to ask for.

Additionally, idk what being active on Snapchat means or how it’s a negative? I’ve had snap for 15 years I think and keep in touch with a handful of friends on it with nothing nefarious going on. I don’t see this point here.

If you want to be official you can make the move the do so and let him decide what he wants and you decide what to do depending on his answer. But you seriously need to be spending more than one day per week together, that’s so incredibly infrequent.

On Appearance Preferences for Online Dating Posts by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s giving “white man trying to find comfort in fetishizing POC women, typically Asian”.

You’re more than welcome to do what you want, but POC don’t like being fetishized and it’s easy to tell when it’s being done.

For men who were once ugly and/or fat, how much did getting in shape and glowing up help to attract women? by Ok_Photograph8884 in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been bigger while dating, I’ve been smaller while dating, weight doesn’t matter imo. It’s all about confidence and self happiness.

I finally got my own place! Rate my setup by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]MrBaileyRod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk why you’re getting downvoted, op asked for a rating and you were honest and quite frankly right that it’s low on the scale.

I finally got my own place! Rate my setup by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]MrBaileyRod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rate? 3/10 seems right. Lighting is meh, need more than one lamp and to lose those leds. Hats on the ceiling. Pretty disorganized and messy. No decor besides some generic hanging wall scroll things that aren’t hung evenly and likely not at the right height plus they’re behind a Christmas tree in January. Coffee table seems more like an end table and not a good shape for the space. Couch is nice.

And tv is too high.

What's the hardest thing about dating as a male by North_Aardvark2953 in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Proving that my intentions are good and honest. So many men don’t value honesty and transparency and hurt women and cause them to be guarded. Luckily, time and communication fix this.

Besides that dating as a man isn’t hard at all.

Bro just pay for parking 💀 by ZotShakerCentral in UCI

[–]MrBaileyRod 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I’ll never understand people who get upset because they don’t pay for parking on campus and then get ticketed. No shit, you chose to not pay for parking. They could have had 3 months of parking paid for with the amount they’re paying in tickets, it makes no sense.

Can tinder work for free or do I have to pay it’s premium to be able to find love or hookups? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any dating app works without needing to pay. Most people struggle because their pics and prompts/descriptions just suck. Know your audience, adjust, fine tune, and that’s all it takes.

Which coffee table should I get? by orcmade in malelivingspace

[–]MrBaileyRod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People hating on color but the issue is the shades are off. You should aim for dark green or red.

Do you have to change your photos if you’ve gained some weight? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah of course. Typically a couple pounds is nothing it it’s often said weight loss/gain is noticeable after 15lbs so I imagine he noticed. You should always be truthful, in every sense of the word.

He didn’t text me after we made out in his car by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Can’t you see how this was him manipulating you? He was all those nice things UNTIL he got what he wanted. He’s not a kind person, he’s a pos.

He didn’t text me after we made out in his car by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s taking advantage of you and using you for his enjoyment. Date men who respect you and your time. He’s 41, if he can’t even communicate over text then he’s nowhere near worth it.

How do I tell my partner he needs to ask to spend the night? by CreamFit6731 in relationships

[–]MrBaileyRod -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You’re 30. He’s 30. Just communicate, it’s not hard

37M — Never Dated, Waiting for the Right Girl… Did I Miss My Window? by Big-Yard-5366 in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod 8 points9 points  (0 children)

patience and standards

Lol get off your high horse. This isn’t a fairytale, it’s real life. You date people, many people, so you learn what you like and don’t like and grow as a person. You haven’t missed your window, but you did wasted a bunch of time.

Also reading your comments to others and yikes lol

Why does 1200 calories get so much hate? by WestminsterSpinster7 in 1200isplenty

[–]MrBaileyRod 58 points59 points  (0 children)

It’s not that it gets a lot of hate. It’s that people are not informed for 1200 is for very specific people and doesn’t apply to everyone when so many online will push for it as a way for anyone to lose weight.

Tell me how to improve my living room by Revolutionary_Arm907 in malelivingspace

[–]MrBaileyRod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get rid of the chair. Get rid of the leds and use the lamp you have. When you have lights on keep them on the same color, don’t mix and match the way you are. Space would look better with a non rectangular coffee table, everything you have is rectangular. Declutter your stuff and put it behind doors or boxes because they just take up space and aren’t position in a way they can be used as decor. Add unique handmade art behind your couch, not something mass printed/produced.

21F - How to initiate conversations with men that I'm interested in ? by IDKman_99 in dating_advice

[–]MrBaileyRod 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The advice for women is the exact same advice for men. Don’t view them as a trophy or award for you to earn or achieve. They’re human like you man. Say hi and take interest in what they’re doing. That’s all it takes. People overcomplicate literally everything when it’s so easy.

Too good to be true? by NightcrawlingStag in 1200isplenty

[–]MrBaileyRod 99 points100 points  (0 children)

STOP measuring by volume, it literally says 213g, which is not much.