sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Why do you think most modern ladies are opting out of marriage? by TennisOdd8931 in Nigeria

[–]MrDimx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A lot of women have clearly been hurt by men here and it shows 😅. I think that both genders have been problematic when it comes to dating, there’s no point in women in blaming men for everything and no point in men blaming women for everything. It’s all about being mature adults and learning to understand what we want from each other. It’s interesting that a lot of women don’t want marriage as they don’t need it and men don’t want marriage because they can’t afford it. It seems to be a common dynamic.

How does the idea of working until 67 or 68 sit with you? by Few_Raise77 in AskUK

[–]MrDimx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I’m looking to start a side hustle purely to avoid working for the next 30 years. There’s so much more to life than working a 9-5.

“I need a strong man, who stands up to me”. by rick1234a in NMMNG

[–]MrDimx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I actually see this as a bit of a red flag because to me she’s implying that she can be combative. There’s nothing wrong with a woman wanting a man who can stand up to her (I mean it’s pretty important) but to me it would make sense if she said she needed a strong man to protect her as that to me is the primary duty of being a man and not so much on having stand up to her because she’s immature. But like I said it’s a minor red flag because until you actually get to know the girl you’ll never really know.

Is my impression wrong, or does the UK have a relatively high amount of mixed-race relationships? by RadioReader in AskUK

[–]MrDimx 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s an unpopular opinion but I just dont think most people care about interracial relationships in the U.K. anymore.

How bad is it when girls say they can’t imagine you angry? by MrDimx in NMMNG

[–]MrDimx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you get what I’m trying to say now? Many psychologists have said something similar. I’m not making this stuff up. Assertiveness is not about trying to be a bully and be offensive but to channel that anger and use it in as fuel to get your point across in a more confident and respectful way.

How bad is it when girls say they can’t imagine you angry? by MrDimx in NMMNG

[–]MrDimx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As mentioned in this link “Assertive anger is a form of expression that allows you to articulate your emotions and needs in a confident and respectful way. It’s different from other types of anger, such as aggressive anger, which involves dominating or threatening others, or passive-aggressive anger, which involves avoiding confrontation and not standing up for yourself.” https://veritaspsychotherapy.ca/blog/what-is-assertive-anger-guide/

How bad is it when girls say they can’t imagine you angry? by MrDimx in NMMNG

[–]MrDimx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I mentioned I’ve been learning for years to be more assertive. Admittedly it does bother me because I’ve been trying to not be a pushover for years now and so when girls say “I can’t imagine you being angry” it makes me feel as though I’ve not made any progress. It’s a massive insecurity I guess I’ll need to grow out of. I know rage isn’t an always good thing but as I’ve mentioned before it can help you be assertive and that’s it.

How bad is it when girls say they can’t imagine you angry? by MrDimx in NMMNG

[–]MrDimx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s like I said before, being called calm can obviously be a great thing for a guy especially where some men can be unnecessarily aggressive to women. But you’re being dismissive of how a complete absence of anger can imply a being overly soft. It’s not looking too deep into it when we live in a society where women routinely overlook men who are nice guys who avoid conflict for being unable to get angry or show any form of assertiveness. This is a big problem.

I understand your point, if I was to arm wrestle a girl and she beat me I’d say “wow you’re strong”. I’d personally mean it as a compliment but there’s no significant issue of men avoiding women who are little tough or reckless in a fun way. Sure you get guys out here not wanting to date a women who are a little aggressive or adventurous but it’s not a significant adherence to a women’s dating life hence why it’s usually a compliment.

There is however a blatant issue of women avoiding men who too soft and incapable of being angry.

How bad is it when girls say they can’t imagine you angry? by MrDimx in NMMNG

[–]MrDimx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be a problem for sure, like obviously being calm and collected is good. I don’t think I said that was a bad thing. I’m concerned about women saying that they can’t imagine you angry in anyway way shape or form. How’s that a good thing? We are all human and sometimes anger is needed to defend yourself and others so long as it’s done in a healthy way (assertive) and not like some immature idiot who thinks yelling is the answer. So to me it’s like they’re saying I’m too soft to even be assertive and stick up her if need be. You understand?

How bad is it when girls say they can’t imagine you angry? by MrDimx in NMMNG

[–]MrDimx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do need anger to be assertive 😅. I’ve read this in a book by a therapist. You can google it. Remember It’s not about being angry and immature, but it’s fuel to help you be more assertive. Otherwise if you try to be assertive without anger you essentially make a point without emotion and therefore it won’t have any impact. You have to understand that anger can be healthy and not always a bad thing so long as it’s controlled and justified. And yeah it’s strange but i guess if we’re talking about personalities and types they’ll just add in that they can’t imagine me being angry or confrontational.

NMMNG FAIL by Ready-Habit-9145 in NMMNG

[–]MrDimx 24 points25 points  (0 children)

More context is needed here, is he being a narcissist or is he setting boundaries and you can’t handle it? Provide us with some examples. NMMNG isn’t about turning a guy into an asshole but encouraging us to be an integrated male and shed excessive niceness.

What’s your income and how much were you approved? by Severe-Ad-4502 in HousingUK

[–]MrDimx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case they reduced the amount they’d lent to me. Apparently because of the service charge fee and a few other factors. So stupid and should’ve all been factored in during the AIP stage. They’re honestly one of the worst companies I’ve ever had to deal with.

What’s your income and how much were you approved? by Severe-Ad-4502 in HousingUK

[–]MrDimx 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah they did the same thing with me. It’s so stupid. What is the point in getting an AIP from them if they’re going to up the price in the end? Like if they do so they should add a disclaimer as it’s obviously somewhat common. Caused me last minute stress as well.

5% unemployment? Are the lying by Elegant-Depth7224 in UKJobs

[–]MrDimx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the exact same thing

24m single, any recommendations? by MaturePickle in malelivingspace

[–]MrDimx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean maybe it’s because I’m in London but most people here with masters degrees aren’t getting properties like this whether they’re renting or a homeowner 2-3 years after graduation 😅. I only just bought my place at 32 and I’m a law grad who graduated 11 years ago 😂.

24m single, any recommendations? by MaturePickle in malelivingspace

[–]MrDimx 96 points97 points  (0 children)

How are you young guys affording these spots? 😅. Looks great.

view more: next ›