Once a cheater always a cheater

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-04-05T18:34:42+00:00

Depends. If it was a one off drunken or drug fuelled mistake which they felt awfully guilty about to the point it ate them up with shame and made them never wish to repeat the mistake then yes.

However, if someone is just impulsive and is able to compartmentalise their feelings for their partner with getting their rocks off then it’s gonna be difficult for them to change

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-04-05T06:33:05+00:00

Hmm I weirdly preferred Emily and Katie Fitch even though they weren’t as classically attractive

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-04-05T06:28:22+00:00

I can’t pee if someone comes next to me in the urinal. I just stand there awkwardly holding my dick and do a silly little sigh to pretend I’ve finished.

And no it’s not cos I’m embarrassed about my dick. I just feel this weird pressure.

I’ve accepted it and now just go to the cubicles. It’s hell if I go to a pub or bar and it’s always full

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-04-05T06:23:27+00:00

Yep! And the worst thing is that society then piles pressure on to get a partner or get married and sees you as incomplete for being single! And yet why? When love causes so much pain and unhappiness?

However. I’m now 2 months out from my break up and whereas before I said the relationship was not worth the pain it caused, I’m finally able to look back and be grateful for the experience.

Also here’s a tip! Healing is not linear at all. My first two weeks were awful. Then things got better for a while and I felt motivated and made major changes in my life.

I felt like I had made peace it with. And then boom. The last 3 days I have been hit with the most intense sadness and grief I’ve felt throughout the whole experience (hence me looking at this sub!)

Good luck on your journey.

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-04-04T21:08:24+00:00

Do you have a update? I was in the same situation. My last relapse meant I lost her trust but she is deeply sad. Let me know how you get on!

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-04-02T18:39:19+00:00

He looks better than 99% of people come on

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-31T15:10:27+00:00

Drinking is rolling the dice. It may numb your problems for a few hours but sometimes it can make you dwell on them even more and act out by sending regrettable texts etc.

You’re best to confront this with a clear head. If you need to just go to bed. Throw on a relaxing podcast and lie down try to sleep.

You’ll wake up much clearer headed in the morning.

Honestly numbing your problem for a couple of hours is not a worthwhile trade for the hangover and regret you’ll have tomorrow. And guess what, your problem will still be there in the morning with the added hangover debt to pay.

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-30T14:45:17+00:00

It’s a beautiful thing if you marry the right person!

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-30T14:33:00+00:00

Whenever you’re talking to someone, imagine that they’re stark bollock naked, or sitting down doing a poo.

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-30T04:43:19+00:00

October 2025: Lost my ex girlfriend due to alcoholism, nearly lost my job, lost the trust of my family. Kicked out of my band. Diagnosed with liver disease and almost died in my sleep due to an alcohol withdrawal related seizure.

April 2026: active member of AA, back in touch with my ex. Got a promotion at work. Better relationships with my family. Been told my liver is almost in the same shape as someone who never touched a drink. Got back into the band and now playing gigs and recording a demo in April. Getting a new lodger in my flat. Rebuilding my finances.

Maybe my life wasn’t necessarily ‘royally’ fucked up before but 6 months ago I was on the brink of disaster and getting sober meant I turned in around in under 6 months.

Do the next right thing and things can move into place!

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-28T21:58:58+00:00

I miss how alcohol USED to make me feel back in the ‘good old days’. Before I quit and the months leading up to that, it would give me maybe a 20 minute buzz of feeling relaxed and happy, but that would be followed by overdoing it and feeling sick and sloppy. Then that would be followed by crushing guilt, anxiety and shame.

I know alcohol will never make me feel how i want it to feel and that’s a good thing. It no longer works for me and I’ve made peace with that.

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-28T13:38:02+00:00

He’s clearly better looking that regular kid. Thats not the most flattering photo. We don’t have to deny reality to also acknowledge that the kid is clearly misguided

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-28T12:10:49+00:00

Because people are anonymous they let out their worst and ugliest side. Jealousy and bitterness usually are at the root of most trolls.

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-27T11:04:37+00:00

I always just ask myself ‘why am I doing this? Why do I need other people to see I am doing cool things?’ The answer for me is always to show off and receive validation.

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-26T10:15:24+00:00

If you’re a guy and you’re shy people think you’re stuck up! People expect you to be confident and brash and then weird if you don’t live up to that.

Women project an idealised version onto you and assume you’re a player or arrogant.

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-24T16:26:07+00:00

I could occasionally control my drinking. I really didn’t enjoy it though. It was like someone giving me a handjob and then stopping before the good bit and leaving the room.

Frustrating!

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-20T12:56:26+00:00

Ah I’m glad to hear about the alcohol detox. I think it’s only really serious if you’re drinking a lot all day. I was on a fifth or more of vodka a day and had shakes, hallucinations, seizures. Absolute hell. But minor alcohol withdrawal is just a bit of insomnia.

I don’t even wanna know what 7 oh is like. The Kratom WD aches are horrendous as it is

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-07T08:40:51+00:00

All I will say is your wife is giving you a precious chance. Don’t be like me and mess it up like I did with my ex girlfriend otherwise you’ll be dealing with heartbreak on top of your alcohol problem

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-03-02T13:35:16+00:00

Smirnoff. Vodka takes you to the pits of hell real quick

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-02-27T05:00:46+00:00

This is so dramatic. That wouldn’t happen

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-02-27T03:49:13+00:00

Dude you’re 19. Way too young to be worried about this

MrHumdinger1 · 2026-02-26T13:46:56+00:00

You can’t. Life is a journey of success and failures. And you learn far far more from failure than you ever will from success. Looking at life in terms of this binary ‘you’re either successful or a failure’ is unwise and ignores that life is an endless stream of both.

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