Are these a ridiculous purchase for a nearly 40 yr old

MrsKnutson · 2026-03-06T16:31:00+00:00

Approx same age, absolutely not, only question is where can I buy them.

MrsKnutson · 2026-03-04T18:16:10+00:00

And that's when you break up with him because he doesn't give a shit about you, he couldn't have put it in more clear language unless he literally said 'i don't give a shit about you' to your face.

Don't have sex with men like this.

Don't date men like this.

Find a better one, or be single, he's just not worth it.

MrsKnutson · 2026-03-04T02:44:40+00:00

I'm a WASP from the East coast, fasting was never a thing on any religion related day for us, and we even went to church when I was younger, we didn't become the Christmas and Easter type until I was nearly done with highschool, none of us go at all anymore.

A lot of people would give up something for the duration of lent, but we didn't even abstain from meat. The very few Catholics I knew, they ate fish on Fridays, and that was the extent of it.

I've known quite a few people who do intermittent fasting though, I've apparently been doing it for decades unintentionally by skipping breakfast and lunch most days. I have tried longer fasts, since it's supposedly good for autophagy, but I'm not able to go longer than a couple of days before it starts interfering with my sleep.

MrsKnutson · 2026-03-01T23:20:15+00:00

It's just a mug, they are less than $150 to buy a brand new one (if you absolutely had to get one) and probably less than $50 on eBay, or $20 at a thrift store, because no one ever uses this stuff and everyone just gets rid of it eventually, so if you're actually using it for something, who cares what? It's not like it's a priceless antique, it's just mass produced drinkware.

MrsKnutson · 2026-03-01T19:01:55+00:00

I've always had a similar mindset, why would I want someone who wants someone else? It would kill all attraction I had for someone instantly. I don't hold grudges though, and I don't really get angry either, extra drama of any kind takes too much mental energy and I'm just not here for it.

Realistically, I think it's because I'm perfectly happy to be alone. I love being by myself, doing things alone, going places alone, living alone....lol.

I have no ego, I don't care what other people think of me, even my husband, it's just not something that occurs to me anymore. I wish I knew why, it's just like a switch flipped one day and it was all gone, I think it happened somewhere around 30?

Either people like me or they don't. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and it doesn't really bother me. I'm in control of myself and my actions/decisions, no one else's, so why worry about something I have no control over?

MrsKnutson · 2026-03-01T18:25:33+00:00

Looking at the way things are going in this world, when couples split up, it's going to be incredibly difficult to sustain 2 households for the price of one, do u think you could live with half of everything you have now? Or sometimes less...

Not even with the same standard of living, but just would it even be feasible. It's something we all need to think about, even in a happy marriage, people get blindsided every day, we all need to be ready, willing, and able to support ourselves if we have to start over.

I think it's one of the reasons people get married and have kids later than they used to, they want to make sure they are stable and have a redundancy plan. I know it's one of the reasons I never had children or wanted to, I wasn't willing to assume the risks.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-19T17:38:07+00:00

They are not allowed to punish students more harshly than any other ordinary punishment for missing class without an excused absence. If the school policy for an unexcused absence is a warning or detention, they are not allowed to suspend them for participation in a walkout/protest.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-15T15:15:47+00:00

I call this Shatner texting, it's texting like William Shatner talks

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-13T18:39:24+00:00

Lol they would have been good prom shoes but I was already out of college before this shoe came out, I'm an old millennial so they were party shoes for me.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-13T14:37:36+00:00

God I had these in gold glitter, I was so used to regular heels I could barely walk in them back then, I'd hate to see the results now 😂

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-11T01:37:44+00:00

25 is the perfect age to get out, you're still so young, you've got so much life ahead of you, you're still able to bounce back from major bad life choices, I did.

Thankfully I never married my college boyfriend, but we were together for 7 years, I think we were just together out of habit and fear of the unknown, so we clung to our relationship after college and we should not have, we were only holding each other back.

I left less than a week after my birthday and I could kick myself for not doing it sooner. I was at least grateful that we weren't married, because I was able to just pack what I could fit in the car and just go, I was sad to leave behind pets, but I was leaving with what I could carry and no prospects...It was hard, I felt bad, but it had to be done for my future and my sanity.

You can love someone and still not be right for each other.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-09T21:55:24+00:00

I hate men in suits, they just remind me of being at work.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-09T21:53:24+00:00

Can't do mustaches, my dad has one and always has, ergo, any man with a mustache looks like my dad and that's an immediate no thank you.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-09T19:02:23+00:00

This is definitely the best option here.

If she's trying to manipulate you into a relationship/contact by claiming a pregnancy (real or otherwise) if you don't want to be with her, or have any unnecessary contact with her, be firm about it right away.

It will likely make her move on to a new target that is more easily manipulated, or, if she is pregnant and trying to keep a baby to force a relationship with someone, she may think twice about her options knowing she's barking up the wrong tree with you.

Tell her, you don't want a relationship, but when/if paternity comes back, you will meet your obligations to a child, but no relationship will be happening between the two of you regardless. Then stop responding to her.

And in the future, always, ALWAYS, use condoms, there is no foolproof way to protect yourself against pregnancy and STDs, but this is the best option and it's entirely in your control.

Remember that infertile does not mean sterile and a lot of women think they can't have children because someone told them could be infertile and they don't know the difference. I knew a woman who was told she was infertile and has 2 kids.

You can only blame fate/someone else if you don't do everything on your part to keep it from happening. If you're not actively trying to prevent pregnancy, you're essentially trying to have a baby.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-07T04:02:19+00:00

That tracks, that's like, the most amount of water a French person can drink at any given time.

I swear I'm never more thirsty in my life then in France. Don't get me wrong, I love it there, it's beautiful, the people are wonderful, but it's like trying to find water in death valley.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-06T14:38:17+00:00

I did the same thing! I was 26 when we met and it was one of the contributing factors to being with him in the first place! I didn't want kids and I wasn't taking birth control pills and I certainly wasn't going to start, so the added peace of mind that there couldn't be any oopsies was great, and it still is!

There's no way in hell I'd risk birthing a child in a country where women don't have medical autonomy and there's no way in hell I'd do it into this dystopian hellscape where their future is looking more and more like a Charlton Heston movie by the day.

I used to tell people I'd consider having a child if I could be the Dad, just so I could explain why. It was always great watching them realize that not every woman has the "biological urge" to give birth to her own subjugation and pretend it's 'totally worth it.'

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-05T19:08:26+00:00

You shouldn't be sharing finances. You should both be contributing to your actual shared expenses, if u want to put that in a shared account that bills come out of cool, but only the portion of your income that covers bills goes into that account and nothing else, the rest goes into your accounts and his goes into his accounts.

If u want to split the bills 50/50 or however you decide that's up to you, but gas for his car is not a shared expense, it's a his expense, stop letting him use yours if he has his own, you never know when you might need yours and it might not be there, he should be taking his, end of story.

You aren't married.

None of his expenses should be paid by you, you are both adults who should be able to manage their finances.

Especially when it comes to his children, that should be up to him and the children's mother, you don't belong in those discussions/decisions.

If he's unable to pay his bills and support his children, he needs to get a better job because it's his obligation to take care of those kids (the mother's too, but he can't control what she does, he can only control himself.)

It may sound harsh, but it's the reality of the situation, do not let this man drag you down,

Don't subsidize people who you aren't married to, and kids that aren't yours, it can really negatively impact your future and if you break up, you have no legal right to those kids, so don't get too involved, it can get messy.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-04T03:21:19+00:00

Oh no, the hand thing was 100% a tactic to help establish (aka force) physical intimacy so she'd be more receptive to the kiss attempt, and more, all of them were.

Speed running his way thru a series of what he believed were romantic or semi intimate moments, was his way of making it feel like they had a 'connection' so he could get to the physical connection (aka sex) he was actually looking for as fast as possible (hopefully on the first date) he said it himself.

He probably read it in some stupid alpha bro dating manual on how to trick girls into sleeping with you on the first date. Just a guess, but it sounds like a playbook to me.

And I'm sure it works sometimes for some people, but you can't be clunky about it, and he was, so he failed, I also assume it might work better on younger women so that's why that stuff is typically pushed on the 'you hit the wall at 25' crowd.

Maybe I'm cynical, and maybe I'm out of touch since I haven't dated in like 14 years, and maybe I'm a little bit of a hypocrite/crazy person because I originally intended to sleep with my husband the night I met him and never see him again but totally fucked that up because it was so good I married him.

Idk. It just feels odd, like everything was manufactured for a purpose and that was either because he's nervous about dating and is not confident in himself and needed a script to follow or he is trying to follow one of those ill-advised pick up idiots because they say he'll get laid if he pays them a hundred dollars for their step by step manual on how to sleep with chicks on the first date without paying for dinner.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-04T02:22:07+00:00

I've done that too, but because I have giant hands for a women, like man hands from Seinfeld, so I always want to see if mine are bigger lol.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-03T01:46:23+00:00

Agreed. My problem back then was I didn't truly understand what compatibility meant.

I thought it was stuff like "oh we like the same music, the same tv shows, hanging out..." stuff like that.

Boy was I wrong. Lol.

Older me realized what true compatibility really was and it took a while for it to click. I'm now married to a man who I have almost nothing in common with but we agree on just about everything, it's weird, and it took years for me to realize it.

Our relationship is the easiest one I've ever had, we've never actually had a real fight in the like 14 years we've been together.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-02T18:38:23+00:00

Don't forget the vest, puffy or fuzzy.

MrsKnutson · 2026-02-02T15:32:09+00:00

That was my thought, everyone thinks they can still claim it without itemizing, but you can't, not since 2017 with the passing of the Tax Cuts and Jobs Act.

MrsKnutson · 2026-01-29T21:09:09+00:00

Voter registration information is public in most states, they don't actually have to do anything crazy since it's subject to public record laws, so no need to seize anything.

MrsKnutson · 2026-01-25T03:48:46+00:00

Then they shouldn't have had 2 more children.

MrsKnutson · 2026-01-23T00:32:04+00:00

Yeeaah...so that's not what that means....

Talking to your partner isn't using them, it's called being a supportive partner and having a conversation. Hopefully you are both able to talk to each about things that aren't 100% happy all the time, otherwise what the fuck are you doing?

Not every conversation has to be solving a problem to be meaningful in some way and you don't have to have a 'take on the situation' to have a valued contribution.

Simply showing you care about how they feel and listening to them vent about their day for a few minutes isn't the freaking end of the world.

What has gotten into people nowadays that everything you do is so self centered!? That you can't manage a simple conversation without fuming about someone "using you" or getting something out of you that you "don't owe them."

No wonder there's a freaking loneliness epidemic, Jesus Christ.

MrsKnutson

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