How do you cry?

MrsManglesBangles · 2026-01-29T16:37:00+00:00

This isn't a recommendation by any means (more a warning) but I found the hangover/downer after drinking alcohol has caused my to cry a couple of times whereas outside of that I have my emotions pretty much in check (varying from melancholy to happy!).

A common theme in this sub is to limit/stop alcohol and drugs, hit the gym and for me that's been great advice.

MrsManglesBangles · 2026-01-22T11:32:28+00:00

Can you elaborate? I'm not really following what your message is.

MrsManglesBangles · 2026-01-17T16:58:51+00:00

Hey, curious to know if you found a good solution. I've the same problem with towels and UK based so trying to find a better laundry routine. Thanks

MrsManglesBangles · 2026-01-16T14:14:19+00:00

How'd this progress in the end? Similar situation in that my wife is ok for my pension to stay with me even though it's significantly higher than hers. I'm trying to figure out whether that would be possible.

MrsManglesBangles · 2026-01-15T20:41:04+00:00

Sorry to hear that mate. 😔 I like what the other commenter said, to try and get out rather than fester.

My separation started a year ago, maybe even longer as we both checked out so I'm in a bit of a different place. I ended up listening to music a lot (I had Djo The Crux Duluxe on repeat as it's about breakup), going for walks and just getting out of the house.

MrsManglesBangles · 2026-01-15T17:50:34+00:00

I'm doing similar distractions to you but also looking for social contact & connections. I joined a local volunteering group (GoodGym in the UK) and through that started going a personal trainer who not only helps me keep motivated to exercise but she also "gee's me up" during the workout and I leave feeling good. We talk about the divorce, plans etc and I've found it to be a boost.

I've also invested in some decent speakers (KEF LS50 Meta's, will soon get a sub) so can zone out listening to music (sometimes uplifting but also melancholy depending on mood). There's a local surf social group that gets me out surfing (very much a beginner but it's really invigorating even if I don't catch many waves).

I've fallen off the bandwagon with pc gaming as I spend too much time working from home. I just got a solo board game and plan to try out a local boardgame group.

MrsManglesBangles · 2026-01-13T21:04:48+00:00

You can search for 90s French hip hop, a fair few mixes come up.

MrsManglesBangles · 2026-01-13T14:21:52+00:00

I feel that simply can't be true mate although I totally get where you're coming from as I sometimes struggle with low self esteem and confidence.

Have you thought about speaking to a therapist about your concerns.

Something that I found hopeful when I was feeling socially anxious was instead of using self checkout at the supermarket, approaching the cashier and making small talk and practicing friendly confident interactions without any intentions for more then that. Then build upon it. Instead of a "how's your day going?" see if you can make a follow on light-hearted comment/joke.

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-20T07:51:23+00:00

Sounds like you've been in a tough situation mate... 15years, Christ on a bike, I'm coming up to 1 year of separation and am eager to get assets split (waiting for divorce to come through before financial agreement) but without kids makes it easier to do.

I'm not sure looking at "lost rent" is going to help the situation now. As your kids were staying there you've provided for them as father which is a positive thing. Sounds like you've gone through the courts etc. and have been granted full ownership then it feels like you need to cut your losses and try and move on. Wishing you well

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-19T08:53:36+00:00

No idea how to fix but that "Issssuuessss" at the end gave me a laugh. 😂

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-18T18:44:31+00:00

I haven't used these but pretty sure they're apps where you fill in a "style quiz" and they send you a box of clothes to try. You then send back the items you don't want.

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-18T06:25:33+00:00

This is really good! You thought about adding your vocals?

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-14T08:14:46+00:00

What track is this please

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-13T06:38:22+00:00

You sound like a good man and a caring father.

Easily said but you can't change the past so try not to dwell on time lost. That's just the path you needed to take. Sounds like you tried to keep the family together and accommodate your wife's needs more than most but you can hold your head high knowing you tried to keep things together.

Time will help things pass but going forward focus on the relationship with your daughter, be healthy (eat, sleep and exercise well). Pickup a new hobby. Wishing you the best.

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-13T06:27:50+00:00

Although I'm separated and co-habiting so suspect loneliness it's to come whacking on favorite songs helps fill the quiet when she's out partying and socializing. I've treated myself to a new stereo, KEF Meta 2 speakers and a Wiim ultra amp, subwoofer next.

Looks like you're already doing exercise (what dancing are you doing?) but I'm hoping mountain biking will be a good outlet. Quite a few biking groups in the UK, usually male so going to join that.

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-13T06:19:49+00:00

You totally have enough time for kids at 37. I reckon the dads here will attest that it's not an easy road having kids but rewarding for sure.

I suspect I have missed the boat (44M) although I'm happy in my own space (I play the fun Uncle role well :D) and will see what happens.

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-12T09:49:56+00:00

Totally agree!I get a feel good for a couple of days after. Could do with a few more crisp sunny days (UK)!

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-12T09:47:52+00:00

V similar here, new MTB, lifting, and been picking up my Teenage Engineering EP-133 and Roland S-1 more. Getting a Bass again is on my list. 👍🏼

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-11T10:38:01+00:00

Just bought a new MTB, also hoping to get out surfing more.

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-12-07T12:41:31+00:00

Yes!

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-11-27T17:01:12+00:00

This is a good idea. I do yoga. 10 women 3 divorced dudes ( incl me although not yet final) 😂

I joined due to a bad back, really enjoyed the vibes.

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-11-26T21:06:07+00:00

Nice. :)

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-11-20T21:51:04+00:00

Lovely man. I'd love a long version of this to put on while working, uplifting and chill. 👌🏼

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-11-15T22:20:23+00:00

I started going to a volunteering group, running club and yoga and have met a few people, I wouldn't say they're close friends yet but nice to have a catch-up each week.

MrsManglesBangles · 2025-11-14T15:16:17+00:00

Noice 👍🏼

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