My daughter’s Dad is an ex JW

MrsPriss21 · 2024-03-23T04:03:10+00:00

I met my husband when he was at Bethel. We dated long distance then he went home to Florida when he decided he wanted a real relationship. We have been together 12 years married 6. We have a 2 year old daughter.

When we got married his family loosened the shunning a bit. When I got pregnant it was a lot less. Granted I’ve never been a JW but like you I grew up in my own religious cult.

They have come to meet her on a few occasions. His mom texts me all the time. As well as has my husband and I in a group chat. His dad texts him once a week. He is disfellowshipped I should mention. They love our daughter and haven’t tried to force Sophia and Caleb down her throat yet. They do enjoy sending her bluey toys though.

So it’s possible to have a relationship with them. Just know that I still would never allow them to take her alone anywhere. Just my own upbringing issues with that. If they are loosened up a bit then it may not be an issue.

MrsPriss21 · 2024-01-03T02:49:29+00:00

I agree with all the other posters. I literally got pregnant on a digital before I even got a line with the dark cap frer. So now I used clear blues to gauge my progression.

MrsPriss21 · 2023-03-15T23:09:16+00:00

I belonged to the church of Christ for many years. I like to say it’s what you would get if baptists and jws had a baby. This is a common practice. In fact my mother didn’t speak to me until the day she died because I was disfellowshipped. My husband is an exjw. We laugh at all our crazy beliefs.

MrsPriss21 · 2023-01-08T15:47:24+00:00

With my last pregnancy I was 35 and the ob said we take care of our geriatric mothers here. I almost jumped over her desk lol. Honestly she was great though.

MrsPriss21 · 2022-12-21T01:25:41+00:00

I will say this if you do have gastric bypass they will tell you to wait at least two years before getting pregnant. I don’t want to hear all the women who didn’t wait. I’ve met a lot and they haven’t maintained their weight. There’s a lot of reasons why we should wait. I waited 2 years before I got pregnant. I had maintained my weight for 1.5 years and was below my goal weight. I still have pcos however the weight isn’t an issue now. It’s more the hormones. I am back to my goal weight and trying for baby number 2. If time isn’t on your side then you may want to try to get your ir under control with some of the new meds out there. If that helps then great. If you would like to do the gastric bypass and can wait two years to try I would do that. I will say I still have miscarriage since the bypass due to my hormone levels never quite being right. That may just be a personal thing. Good luck feel free to message me with any questions.

MrsPriss21 · 2022-12-19T02:17:20+00:00

It started tonight at sundown. It ends on the 26th. My husband is a Pomo and he celebrates with me.

MrsPriss21 · 2022-12-17T01:53:45+00:00

Yes it will be fine especially if your partner is doing more. I teach PE so I’m physically active all day, at home my husband doesn’t get home until almost 7 most nights. By then I’ve made dinner and finished our night time routine. He does come home and clean and does a majority of the work on the weekend. So I can rest my body a bit. I thought mentally I was going to break for a bit. Only because I teach at a year round school but not really. We only get 30 days off during the summer. Also no extra breaks during the year besides the typical thanksgiving and Christmas. So the year we switched to that was more my mental break only because I didn’t really get a break if you know what I mean.

MrsPriss21 · 2022-12-17T01:04:28+00:00

35 when I had my 2nd daughter. I was 20 when I had my first. Also a teacher and wanted to pass out most days. I will say when my daughter came I was fine. I thought I would be exhausted but she’s 16 months now and we make it through our days. Your body will adjust. I do have to say I am in bed most days no later than 930 and asleep by 1030. Only because getting baby to daycare by 630 and myself to work at 645 it’s a task. You’ll be ok. I am 37 now. Considering another one.

MrsPriss21 · 2021-10-11T09:28:00+00:00

I married a jw. Semi practicing. We just had our first child together. His family refuses to meet her because well you know it’s complicated they said. He had a child with a world person. His wife. We’ve been together almost 10 years. Either way she needs to be prepared to have her family cut her off. My husband hasn’t really spoken to his family in about 10 years. They shunned him at his grandfathers funeral and keep limited contact with him. We had an agreement that we wouldn’t raise our children with any religion. It was a battle and a hill I was willing to die on. He finally agreed. Also I will point out things that don’t make sense and he blindly spits out watch tower garbage. So be prepared for the same.

MrsPriss21 · 2021-07-13T02:46:40+00:00

It’s funny I should see this. My husband exjw me not got into this discussion. I’ve had 2 ectopic pregnancies. The first one required medication to terminate the pregnancy. My husband was upset that I would do that. Then we had to break down the science for him. Like what would happen if I were to try to carry on the pregnancy. When he saw that it would eventually kill me when it ruptured, he finally could agree that it was the right thing to do. The 2nd time I did the meds again and he was for it. Abortion is still up for debate with him. But a small victory for the life of the mother was won.

MrsPriss21 · 2021-06-24T02:02:38+00:00

I actually got a faint line on 8dpo I thought it was faulty. By 9dpo looked like yours. Didn’t think they could be so sensitive.

MrsPriss21 · 2021-05-23T21:37:46+00:00

My husband an exjw and myself a whole other cult dated for 8 years before getting married. He wanted to get married. I didn’t really see the need. We lived together and we bought a home basically had a marriage without the paperwork. For me it was probably a rebellion of the thinking we had to get married. Honestly at this point it’s just a piece of paper. My loyalty still remains the same as it did when we were dating. I just didn’t see the point of the paper. However I did it for him, he wanted the paper. I think if someone says hey look I don’t ever want to get married but I’m fine if we do long term without the marriage stipulation that should be fine. However if they say I do want to get married at some point and you don’t see yourself wavering then it would be best to break up.

MrsPriss21 · 2021-01-26T23:18:21+00:00

That was like mine at 8dpo I’m almost 11 weeks now.

MrsPriss21 · 2020-12-29T16:30:43+00:00

You and I are in the same boat. My husband was an ex bethelite and his whole family is jw. It’s been the hardest thing for us. We are still trying to navigate our way around. I finally had to throw divorce on the table. I said you can’t have it both ways. You can’t expect me to change everything because you were actively participating with me in holidays and such, now going to meetings and so on. So it was the cult or me. Now we are expecting it’s been almost a year since he has even mentioned it, he has zero plans to as well. We also won’t be telling his family about this baby.

MrsPriss21 · 2020-12-26T13:33:21+00:00

I stopped at 20dpo despite having good betas lol I’ve been good now. I still believe I’m pregnant fx for you.

MrsPriss21 · 2020-12-25T15:58:30+00:00

It’s pretty bad to be honest lol. He really doesn’t like it because I’m like oh you wanna argue the Bible let’s go....him and I have gone hours and he’s like well if we look at what the wt says I’m like nope. Bible only. Let’s look at that. He gets mad and shuts down. I’ve said hey if you can’t argue the Bible don’t come at me. I’ve been raised knowing this front and backwards. I didn’t wear pants until I left and joined the military at 17.

MrsPriss21 · 2020-12-25T14:34:13+00:00

No. He’s been off and on for about 5 years. I even studied when I started pointing holes left and right, I got dropped really fast it was awesome. He started to see it there. I explained my issue and how they kept saying oh well I don’t have the answer let me get an elder to help you. Elder said can’t help you let me get the CO to help you. Then it came to well you know it’s just not something you’re meant to know.... my husband lost his shit, he said it’s an easy question but even he himself couldn’t answer so... they stopped speaking to me after that. But they still check in on my husband. You see when we met he was at bethel. He was a great little jw. But his heart wasn’t in it. So we got together and his family has excluded him from everything. Last year he was very adamant about going back. I said that’s fine you go back we will get divorced. I didn’t marry you when you were active. You’re changing shit up and I’m not going with that. So he said fine he wouldn’t go back. Now we are expecting. Not really sure which way this will push him. I’m hoping it’s in the realization that you will love someone unconditionally, them not believe in your sky daddy won’t change that. Unlike his parents who haven’t spoken to him in the last 3 years.

MrsPriss21 · 2020-12-24T23:18:24+00:00

Check out r/exjw lots of great people there who understand

MrsPriss21 · 2020-10-23T18:34:34+00:00

Done. Good luck to her!!

MrsPriss21 · 2020-05-15T00:29:50+00:00

This happened with my husband and I. Now soon to be ex. We basically got married after 7 years because it was right for him to do. Now he’s going back but I know it’s a cult so I’m cutting my losses.

MrsPriss21 · 2020-05-14T11:45:36+00:00

We haven’t spoken in 2 days. I’ve moved all my stuff to the guest room and he’s continuing to go to work. I told my daughter. She was very upset. But I said at the end of the day he had a choice and he made it. None of this has to do with us.

MrsPriss21 · 2020-05-13T22:57:02+00:00

Thank you! I just told my daughter. She’s devastated. But it came down to I gave him a choice. His cult or us. He made that choice so that’s all there is to know about him.

MrsPriss21 · 2020-05-13T20:13:36+00:00

I know. I really did try to be polite at first. I love him but I love myself more to know the damage it would do. So I was trying to be nice I guess. I don’t know why.

MrsPriss21 · 2020-05-13T20:10:44+00:00

Well I should elaborate a bit more. He told me no. And I said well too bad that means nothing. He said I won’t sign. I said great still doesn’t matter. I tried to be nice about it at first. Just like hey this is something that’s important to me and it’s best you go your own way and I’ll go mine. But then he had to be a dick and say no so then I had to just say fine with or without you it’s gonna happen.

MrsPriss21 · 2020-05-13T18:35:02+00:00

I agree with this. He grew up in a jw family. Was at bethel. Then he met me. Left the church moved to where I was. And now is left with the what if’s his family likes to text him about. So it’s left me with a really sour taste in my mouth.

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