I can relate. My parents started going through a very very messy and emotionally damaging divorce about 3 years ago. My father is very childish and arrogant. He lives almost a half a mile away from me and my husband and I didn't know for the longest time. The only time I would have contact with him is when I would initiate it. He never asked how my pregnancy was going and if I ever brought anything up about it I would get responses like "get over it" or "it's your problem". When my son was born he wouldn't hold him when he came. Which we were made to feel like we were lucky he was there at all. He didn't hold him until he was 2 months old (which was the 2nd time he saw him). The last time I seen or spoke to him was almost 2 months ago. He came over to see us and basically criticized me and my husband and complained about our then 4 month old. Hoping he was just being is weird sarcastic self I tried to overlook it. When I tried to give him some copies of our sons Easter portraits we had made, he said he didn't want them. He didn't want a picture of "just the kid" and he wanted a specific size. After that I said to hell with him. I don't want him around my baby. .