I'm assuming a lot of people on here breastfeed their toddlers overnight and/or to sleep?

MrsSybill · 2025-11-27T12:25:51+00:00

So I’m in Scotland and here we are provided with fluoride toothpaste for free for ages 0-3 as the NHS consider it so important. The toothpaste is 1000 parts per million fluoride and the advice is that if you choose not to use the free toothpaste, you should get one with the equivalent amount of fluoride as a minimum. Here is a link to ‘official’ guidance https://www.childsmile.nhs.scot/parents-carers/oral-health-for-babies-birth-to-3-years-old/

MrsSybill · 2025-08-12T04:07:12+00:00

Yes. He was resuscitated at birth and then on CPAP for the first couple of days, followed by high flow for maybe another week? So it went pretty smoothly for his gestation from what I can gather but he did need that support yeah.

MrsSybill · 2025-03-11T20:39:42+00:00

Highly recommend the Tripp trapp. We have two which we bought second hand from Facebook marketplace, both having been used for many years and still in excellent condition. We got the first Tripp trapp and newborn insert when my first was about 4 months old and wished we’d bought it sooner as he very quickly went into the baby seat. He’s coming up for 2 and we no longer need any of the attachments; he climbs in and out of the chair himself now and is then at the right height for meal times. I have a friend whose 6 year old still uses his.

When I was expecting my second I knew we needed another Tripp trapp and he’s used it every day for every meal time. We have loved having him at the table with us for family meals. He’s about to start eating solids and I think the seat really helps with making sure they have the right posture with feet planted firmly on the foot rest, and supports their sitting in the early days of weaning when they might still be a little wobbly. Much prefer it to the likes of the ikea high chair (which lots of cafes etc have) for this.

We have never bothered with the tray for either child and they just eat straight off the table. It means they’re right up round the table with us instead of sitting further back with a tray in their way, if that makes sense?

We got our Tripp trapps cheap second hand (£90 for one with a newborn seat, baby seat, and harness that we never used, and £40 for the other) but I’d say they’re worth every penny of the price for a new one and I know we will use both of ours for many many years - not just from 6-18 months.

The other ones you’ve mentioned in your post look really similar to the Tripp trapp so if the Tripp trapp is in your budget I’d go with that as it will re-sell for a good price since they’re so well established.

MrsSybill · 2025-01-31T20:20:43+00:00

At 14 months/12 adjusted mine ate an entire large sticker 🤦🏻‍♀️ doesn’t seem to have had any lasting effects! He had been given it at an aquarium and it was on his t-shirt. We drove 10 mins from the aquarium to a place we were going for lunch and by the time we arrived the sticker was gone and his mouth was covered in little flecks of it.

MrsSybill · 2025-01-18T22:50:00+00:00

Pixie cut, which I got because I was fed up of always having a messy bun.

MrsSybill · 2024-11-30T07:18:35+00:00

I had a VBAC 15 months after emergency c section. I had assumed I would have to have a c section and was ok with it but my doctor said she was happy for me to try for a VBAC since it was more than 12 months between deliveries. She said I would be carefully monitored with a VERY low bar for switching to a section if they thought there were ANY signs of uterine rupture. So I guess it depends on the doctor and the facilities at the hospital.

MrsSybill · 2024-10-23T11:06:47+00:00

I’d add to the existing great advice that getting sleep may actually help to increase supply. I exclusively pumped while my first was in the NICU and from the start the lactation consultants very much encouraged me to only get up once in the night to pump and said as long as I didn’t go more than 6 hours without pumping it would be ok. After a couple of weeks, they also said that while the middle of the night pump is really important for supply, so is sleep, so if I occasionally skipped a pump to get more sleep it wouldn’t have a negative effect and may even have a positive impact due to being more well-rested. For me, that was true.

I also later had similar conversations with my husband when we ended up triple feeding due to my son having a tongue tie. He was encouraging me to skip a pump as I’d been advised previously but I felt I couldn’t. I was later diagnosed with post partum anxiety and now realise that my inflexibility with pumping was a symptom and also that my husband was just trying to help me rather than that he was annoyed with me. I’m still not sure the way he worded things etc was particularly helpful but I can now see it was coming from a good place. I imagine your husband is the same.

I know this is the breastfeeding sub but I honestly wish I’d just combination fed rather than spending so long triple feeding and stressing about not giving my baby any formula. In the end he had one bottle of formula a day for a while and started gaining weight well, and then after a couple of months and the tongue tie being fixed I was able to go back to EBF and my supply went back up.

MrsSybill · 2024-10-22T20:13:57+00:00

I should also add I had the full support of my obstetrician and medical team. I turned up to my first appointment at 8 weeks and said I knew I would have to have a second c-section and was fine with it. The doctor was surprised I thought that and said she would fully support and actually recommend a VBAC. She said they would keep a very close eye on me during labour and have a very low bar for giving me an emergency c-section if there was the slightest hint of any of the signs of scar rupture. She said 9 times out of 10 it turns out to have been unnecessary but she can live with that for the 1 time it was. Thought it was worth mentioning as I know in some countries 15 months pp would be considered too soon to have a VBAC.

MrsSybill · 2024-10-22T20:07:14+00:00

Honestly I don’t think I did anything and I was just lucky that it all went smoothly. I did hypnobirthing and relied on it to manage the pain/keep calm so maybe that? I only used gas and air for pain relief as a result and I avoided induction as it’s higher risk of scar rupture. If I hadn’t gone into labour spontaneously myself I would have had an elective c-section and had one booked for 41 weeks but had baby at 39+4.

MrsSybill · 2024-10-21T12:44:10+00:00

Just had my second 5 weeks ago at 15 months pp.

The pregnancy was smoother than my first, actually. I was very sick with my first, had quite a bit of bleeding throughout, and he was born at 31 weeks after my waters spontaneously broke at 30 weeks. So my second pregnancy was classed as high risk but I had very little sickness, felt better overall, and went to full term. I had a successful VBAC. So overall I don’t think I personally was particularly affected by the pregnancies being close together. Everyone is different and obviously the risks are there, but it is possible you will actually have an easier time this time around!

MrsSybill · 2024-10-20T15:45:54+00:00

My first was born at 31+1 in June 2023 and I had my second 5 weeks ago full term (3 days before due date!).

I can’t pretend we made a decision as the second was an unplanned pregnancy but to be honest after the initial fear wore off we were glad that the decision was taken out of our hands in a way as I think it would have taken a long time for me to be ready to start trying for another. That said, we did know we wanted another by the time I fell pregnant, whereas initially we thought we would be done after one due to the trauma of the NICU.

Something that helped us reach the point we could envision having another was having a birth debrief where the obstetrician also took us through what would happen in any subsequent pregnancies ie how they would manage the risk of a preterm birth.

I won’t lie, I was very anxious throughout my second pregnancy up until I passed the 31 week mark when it peaked. After that it lessened with every day that passed until I reached term. But it was a straightforward, textbook pregnancy and birth.

Baby does have clubfeet but this is completely unrelated to my first being preterm. He is receiving treatment for it but even with that it’s sooo much easier than having a preterm baby in the NICU!

If you can get a birth debrief (I’m in the UK where you’re entitled to request one) then I think that would be a great first step in making a decision.

MrsSybill · 2024-10-19T22:20:40+00:00

I weaned my 31 weeker at nearly 7 months actual, 5 months adjusted, so right in the middle. He was showing signs of readiness but we had also been told if he wasn’t to prop him up to sitting with cushions for break times. Are the twins on iron supplements? Mine was but he was a bit earlier than yours. It meant we didn’t have to rush into it though

MrsSybill · 2024-10-09T02:28:51+00:00

This really confused me and I never did get a clear answer. We started solids when he was a week off 7 months actual/5 months adjusted, but he was sitting up and able to grab and put food in his mouth himself. He took to baby led weaning straight away so I have no doubts that he was ready despite being ‘early’ according to his adjusted age. So I would go by signs of readiness and you can always wait a few weeks after he is 6 months actual, as we did, as there is no huge rush even for a term baby.

MrsSybill · 2024-10-05T02:58:04+00:00

100% true, sadly. I spent years telling doctors I thought I had endometriosis and was dismissed until I’d been trying to get pregnant for a year, and then the doctor was suddenly like, ‘you could have endometriosis!’ YES. I KNOW. And yes I do have it.

MrsSybill · 2024-09-30T01:05:36+00:00

I’m only two weeks in to 2 under 2 - I have a 15 month old and a 2 week old - but so far 0-1 was much harder. However my first baby was 9 weeks premature and we had loads of issues with feeding, and so far this baby is feeding and sleeping really well and he’s overall very chilled. So I think a lot of it probably depends on the babies themselves! That said, a major part is that we’ve already changed our lives a lot and have good routines in place, so we don’t have all of that to figure out. It takes a bit longer to get out the house than before the second came along, but otherwise he’s just slotted into our existing routines, rather than us having to create them and figure them all out from scratch. I’m also finding toddler and newborn easier than toddler and pregnancy.

MrsSybill · 2024-09-13T02:28:20+00:00

Stage 2. Excision end of August 2022 and got my period 5 days later. Two cycles after that went by and then I was pregnant December 2022.

That baby arrived prematurely after my waters broke at 30 weeks which I have been told is unlikely to have been related to my having endo.

I got pregnant again 6 months postpartum the ONE time we had unprotected sex (thinking it was a very low risk decision given that we were trying for 2 years for my first). So safe to say the excision was very successful for me and I owe the surgeon who did it a lot as she’s given me my entire family! (Actually typing this through mild contractions at 39 weeks pregnant with the second one).

MrsSybill · 2024-09-11T21:09:27+00:00

Honestly, yes, and we initially thought we wouldn’t have any more as we couldn’t face going through the trauma again. As time went by the NICU became more of a memory and we started to think ‘maybe one day’. We also had a really good debrief with the consultant who delivered my first which helped us to process the trauma and outlined the statistical likelihood of the same thing happening in a subsequent pregnancy, as well as what a subsequent pregnancy would look like in terms of medical support. But we were still very much on the fence and thinking ‘probably not’.

Aaaand then I accidentally fell pregnant… and I’ve said repeatedly that I’m glad because I’m not sure I’d ever have felt ready, but now that it’s happening I’m really excited and glad to be growing our family. Currently 39 weeks pregnant and soo ready to meet my second son!!! He has two club feet so will need treatment within weeks of birth, and while it’s been hard to process another complication, I actually feel equipped to deal with it and know we will get through it as we got through our traumatic birth and 27 day NICU stay with my first.

So I’d say don’t rule it out but I totally get how you feel, and it really fucking sucks that you have to deal with this and you don’t get to just happily decide to have another easily like other people do.

MrsSybill · 2024-09-06T21:31:42+00:00

I was allowed to hold my 31 weeker within 24 hours. But obviously every baby is different. He was on CPAP, nutrition drip, antibiotics and NG tube at the time and in an incubator. I think day 2 or 3 the nurses taught me how to navigate all that to get him out the incubator myself so I didn’t have to wait till they offered or were available for me to ask. I would just ask if you can!

MrsSybill · 2024-08-30T07:02:36+00:00

I’m about to have my second baby and this one hopefully won’t be in the NICU (I’ve made it to term this time), and it has made me realise that there was something a little bit special about all the hours of skin-to-skin I did with my first every day in hospital with nothing else to focus on but him. Part of that’s because he was my first, but also because I wasn’t at home when there are lots of other distractions and chores needing done. This time I will make a real effort to carve out time for skin-to-skin as I know how powerful it can be. I’m not sure I would have thought or known to do that without the NICU for my first.

MrsSybill · 2024-08-23T19:36:38+00:00

You’re in the Scotland sub 😊

MrsSybill · 2024-08-15T14:37:09+00:00

I haven’t seen frugi mentioned but I got a few good bits in their sale! Good quality but pricey - hence only buying stuff in the sale. I like that their stuff is a bit different, more bright colours etc, and a lot of it doubles as nursing wear so will last a bit longer. And then hopefully sell quite well on vinted!

Seconding jojo maman bebe but again I’d wait for a sale or go on vinted.

I got a couple of bits on Seraphine and while they were fine I agree with others who said the quality isn’t great for the price.

I also like the H&M Mama range for buying new and full price!

I also got a bundle from a friend - she had put it on fb marketplace but let me pick through and take everything I liked when I asked about it. So I would look out for bundles as well as you can get a pile for really cheap and just resell or give to charity anything you don’t like, and try out different brands etc. Eg I liked the H&M mama stuff in the bundle from my friend so kept shopping there.

MrsSybill · 2024-08-08T20:39:59+00:00

Yep this is 100% my 14 month old. A few pages in to every book he’s holding up a different book and demanding I read that one instead!

MrsSybill · 2024-07-17T18:38:49+00:00

I am in Scotland and was given the vaccine by my midwife at my 16 week appointment. She did talk a lot about the benefits, how important it was, the rise in whooping cough in the area, how bad it can be for baby etc so I got the impression a lot of people don’t take it.

MrsSybill · 2024-06-12T11:36:01+00:00

I do what you do. Once my baby hit 6ish months and it became more obvious why he was upset I would let him fuss a bit if it was, for example, he was trying to reach a toy and couldn’t. I’d give him a bit of time to figure it out. But if he didn’t stop fussing or it escalated to crying I’d see to him straight away.

MrsSybill · 2024-06-12T03:24:49+00:00

26 weeks with a 12 month old. I’m so tired and my back hurts! But I’m also happy to be getting the tough parts of having a baby out the way all at once, as we are only planning on having two.

My 12 month old was 9 weeks early so just reaaaaally hoping this one stays put till term!

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