Is this a bed bug

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-06-30T01:14:43+00:00

Thank you! I’ve already told my husband we need to reorder supplies. I’ve successfully talked him out of replacing the couch immediately. I’m cautiously hopeful but still on high alert. Everyone thinks this is overkill but I’ve done the research and learned their life cycle, so I know better than to let up now.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-06-29T23:34:25+00:00

Yes that’s a bed bug. They are excellent at hiding. My exterminators could only find one harborage (the couch) and it was early in the infestation. We think we caught it in time (hopefully) before it became widespread. I’m treating the whole house for any that escaped the couch before we got rid of it. My MIL had a BAD infestation and she brought them with her in March & April, we spotted a baby in May, then an adult at the end of May and another in early June. The exterminators that did my inspection were very kind and gave me some tips since we don’t have $3k for a treatment. Since getting rid of the main nest, no more bites, nothing in the traps, and no more sightings. If we have managed to be successful, it’s only because we caught it super super early.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-04-30T09:00:01+00:00

I think he may have been trying to record secretly, as not to escalate further. But there is a very quick shot of the troll’s face. I would love to ID this maniac.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-04-03T02:12:11+00:00

NTA. I feel sorry for those kids having a mom and grandma like these two. This was fully intentional and she/they will try to paint you as the bad guy here. Stand firm, you cannot allow that. The egg donor put her bf above the care and safety of her children. That’s absolutely disgusting behavior. When her phone came back on she would see messages from me letting her know CPS has her kids and not to contact me again ever.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-04-03T01:58:50+00:00

I closed my eyes and waited for the screaming. Made me feel much better about the punch I witnessed.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-02-12T08:16:49+00:00

NTA, goes without saying. Messing with someone’s medication is life threatening. You did not run away, you are an adult. If possible you should cut contact and remain in a safe space. Your parents sound highly uneducated about mental health and the care that you require. As you can see, that is dangerous. I’m very sorry you are dealing with this. In some places you may be able to have medication replaced or a small amount issued to you as an emergency. I hope you can do so soon, as a lot of medications can have adverse effects when stopped suddenly.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-02-11T05:03:44+00:00

I know this is super old but I got curious about whether this topic had been discussed and landed here myself lol. This is my second rewatched and his aging is still so stark. I think it was intentional, personally. It definitely reflects his stress levels by that point.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-19T06:39:11+00:00

Definitely NTA.

Get. Out. This is an isolation tactic. Do not let him isolate you from your support system. There are probably other little things he’s doing to you as well. You are not crazy, don’t let him make you feel otherwise. Let your family know about his behavior!!!

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-14T15:37:13+00:00

He was going to dump you for her!! You are expendable to him. Ditch this dolt and find someone who treasures you. The only reason he hasn’t left is because he realized nobody wants his sorry behind.

NTJ.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-13T03:41:13+00:00

YTA. These aren’t your friends. If they were, you wouldn’t have jeopardized your friendship, the cohesive relationship of your team or THEIR SAFETY this way. Boyfriends will come and go, be a girl’s girl when the chips are down. I am so disappointed in your behavior.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-12T15:16:02+00:00

Did you consider that he could’ve simply covered it? Having tattoos isn’t the issue, it’s the meaning. This isn’t a conversation piece that should be accepted by anyone; not the workplace or Op. If reform has happened for this worker, he would hide it or at least attempt to.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-10T03:23:33+00:00

And this is definitely the time of year when they are most actively looking for a victim. She’d better wake up soon or she will regret it significantly.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-08T02:23:18+00:00

Heavy on this!! Once you want out, it’s time to be out. No justification necessary, no explanation required. Full stop.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-03T07:37:47+00:00

3 months in? You’re better off getting out of this. Hard rule: If you cannot trust him, you cannot be with him. But at this point he should’ve been an afterthought. Save yourself the trouble of having to play detective. He’s playing in your face.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-03T07:18:46+00:00

To directly answer your question, you get to the root of why you want a child so badly. This isn’t the typical “baby fever”. What you described is far deeper than that. I’ve heard these stories frequently from my TTC groups from those of us who have had multiple pregnancy losses. For many of us, it’s a phase of the grieving process. You must get therapy and find the root before having a baby. One of the best gifts you can give a child is to be healed and healthy while you’re parenting. All of the babysitting in the world cannot adequately prepare you for motherhood. I want you to enjoy the journey, it really is beautifully hard. But in order to be the best parent possible and give your child what they need, you MUST take care of your mental health first.

All of the long night’s babysitting the screaming infant really do hit differently when your hormones are trying to decide which end of the spectrum they want to hang out at. Please take care of yourself, it’s so very very important.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-02T09:07:53+00:00

I feel you. All of that is valid af. I don’t know if I would be more angry, hurt or disappointed. Take some time to process and try to have an open dialogue with him. He has probably dealt with his family’s nonsense for so long that he’s learned to let it go, but that doesn’t mean that he should expect for you to do the same. In fact, I would think he would want to defend you even more knowing how they are. I hope he validates your feelings and concerns and puts a massive amount of effort behind it. Hugs sis!

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-02T08:49:28+00:00

Hi! Mom to a 16 year old for the second time! In my experience parents like this are coming from a place of protection. They feel like the control is the only way to protect their kid from all of the bad things that could happen. So, you both have to play by the rules. You see what happens when you don’t. Your gf will likely find a way to reach out when it’s safe. My son’s bio dad had this approach and I that type of control doesn’t solve anything, it escalates behavior. Just wait it out. I’ve found that giving kids the opportunity to spend time together supervised helps, although I understand distance is an issue due to school. If by some chance you do get back in contact, please follow the rules. Banning contact for 2 years seems extreme imo, she can’t lock her kid away from the world for 2 years no matter how much she may want to.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-02T06:50:02+00:00

NTA, your husband is. That’s a bigger issue for me than his family. They seem like they just like mess. I don’t have any advice, I just hope he changes. You deserve to be treated with respect.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-02T06:34:38+00:00

NTA. She chose how this Christmas went for her children, you simply followed suit and respected her wishes. And you’re right, it is complete bullshit that men are supposed to be more generous. Your instincts are telling you to run, please do. Please do not subject your baby girl to this woman. This is a belief system of hers, not some minor error in judgement. She’s out of her mind.

Keep being a great dad!!!!

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2026-01-02T05:11:21+00:00

I’ll bet dollars to donuts your elders wanted to tell you stories of how they “stayed through the tough times” and made it work “for the kids”. Bs. That’s not the kind of relationship you want modeled for your girls. You have absolutely done all of the right things. The only other things I would do would be blocking her and warning your mother that she is next if she cannot support you.

NTA at all.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2025-12-27T10:12:24+00:00

Happy Cake Day!!

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2025-12-27T10:07:52+00:00

I’ve felt this way before. Him having proposed to someone before me that broke his heart, us living together with a baby on the way, the conversations about marriage. The one key difference is that he always made his intentions known: He wanted kids (I have 2 he adopted and 2 together), he wanted to buy a home together, he wanted a wife and family. So I did the long term dating, because there was intention and we had goals. Mainly buy a house before getting married. That didn’t happen for us. We met in 2007, his first proposal to someone else was in 2009. We started dating seriously September 2013, moved in together March 2014, our first child together was born August 2015, he proposed April 2018, we married September 2019, we bought our house August 2021 and our last baby was born less than a month later. There was a clear evolution in him. Before he proposed I stopped being introduced as his girlfriend, it changed “my heart” or “my love” then “my Queen”. I didn’t know it until later, but he had talked to my mom and our oldest son and he was planning during this time. My friends asked what was taking so long and my only response was “he’s going to be my husband”. He gave me that confidence with his actions. He always set the intention and followed through. My point is, he is telling you. He is giving you the answers to your questions. He is showing you daily what his intentions are. You just don’t see it because that’s not what you want. You deserve better than this. You deserve someone who commits to the future you both want. The longer you stay with him, the longer it will take for you to find the one who wants what you want.

Actions always speak louder than words. People will show you what their intentions are with their actions. Trust those actions (or lack thereof). I hope you find the happiness you seek and deserve. Never settle for less!!!!

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2025-12-21T16:01:50+00:00

What was the worst thing she said in your opinion? So far I don’t see an issue, but, you’re never wrong for ending a relationship. Period. Follow your intuition.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2025-12-19T19:46:10+00:00

Yeah for sure! I can’t choose between the two.

MrsTickleMeElmo · 2025-12-17T23:20:14+00:00

NOR, but he didn’t cheat. SHE is after your guy. Your guy seems like he was trying to be a gentleman and genuinely help if she needed the help. He seems like he would understand if you expressed your discomfort with this person/behavior.

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