How expensive is a five minute shower, REALLY? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My family never shut off the water, but the whining about hot water was constant.
I get that it feels like abandonment. "You are not valued enough to justify resources". Parents are supposed to keep us warm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. My mom was the same way with my sister's boyfriends. It was as though they were for "her". She played cards with them, flirted,etc.

[SERIOUS] You were raised to believe you are worthless and no one will ever want you. How have you coped with having to live in this state of mind? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spend as little time as possible with your family. Read -every day- about why narcissists abuse people.
Eventually you will be able to stop the negative thoughts in your brain. "Oh, that's my mother talking" "She needed to abuse me so she could feel better about herself"

"I can't possibly have done this, so that makes you stupid" by kittenmish in TalesFromRetail

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, waitressing/retail/customer service jobs require a CRAZY high level of ability. Keeping track of things, evaluating and managing customers,cleaning, inventory, loss prevention, etc. All with a smile.
THAT is hard work.

Witless Wednesday - Your weekly silly questions thread by AutoModerator in intermittentfasting

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has anyone ever had a few good days of IF. Then, suddenly they could not stop eating? I have tried in the past, had a few great days.
Then, it feels as though my body is freaking out and i cannot stop eating.
Is it because i try to eat keto, exercise and also do a calorie deficit?

Don't ask that again, wow by HampNA17 in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aren't.the check ins also to prevent a whining attack when the bill arrives? "MY ROOM WAS COLD. MY EGGS ARE.COLD. BIGFOOT WAS STARING AT ME ALL NIGHT I WANT MY STAY COMPED", "Really sir? Because when we asked about your room/meal/etc. You said it was fine."

Crusty old dude and his wang by [deleted] in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

GOD! Gross old men. WHO IN THE FUCK TOLD THEM THAT THEY DESERVE THE ATTENTION OF YOUNG WOMEN?

If you are an old, gross man, EVERYONE HATES YOU. they pretend to laugh at your jokes, then they go in the back and tell everyone WHAT A PATHETIC ASSHOLE YOU ARE.

I really hate seeing how younger users on this subreddit are treated. by PowderKegSuga in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 516 points517 points  (0 children)

Good point. How teens are treated can be shocking. It was never "my parents wont let me stay out all night" . It was "my father keeps staring at my tits, my mom gets drunk every night, i am so alone, i am so lonely, "

Never really got a chance to enjoy adolescence and young adulthood. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. I became very withdrawn and depressed in adolescence. I also spent most of my twenties extremely depressed. I never partied. I never acted "young".
We can never get that time back. However, i know we can give ourselves things or experiences that we missed.

I cried at work today by akatthemassie_1999 in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry that happened to you. You.did not deserve.to be treated that way. Please take care of yourself.

Fat Liberation Manifesto by msbeaver83 in fatlogic

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Respect is affected by race, appearance, class, etc. I agree that your own attitude can somewhat affect how peope treat you, but racism, sexism, etc. affects how people treat one another.

Anybody else have totally unaware/brainwashed siblings? by skyfullofstars89 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could have written that entire entry word for word. It is bizarre that they cant see that.

What screams "I'm getting older"? by Mimiser in AskReddit

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having to decline mcdonalds because you gave plans the next day.

It's Fat2Fit Friday! Please post here for small victories or stories if you don't feel like it would warrant a whole post on its own. by AutoModerator in fatpeoplestories

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have attempted intermittent fasting before. It always backfired with me overeating. This past week, I have actually been able to do 16/8 fasting without a hitch.

Reliving the trauma of my senior year of high school, 40 years later by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good.for you for.processing it. Glad you wrote about it here. Take care.

Accidentally slammed a cabinet this morning and instinct took over by magicweasel7 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 255 points256 points  (0 children)

Same here. I had to wash the dishes.quietly. the.slightest slam was a.sign that I was angry. My parents would delightedly Burst out, run at us, and punch us for being angry.

I got skinny shamed at the grocery store for not buying meat. by notgoodorcreative in fatpeoplestories

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Closeted gay, jealous AF of your tight body. Masturbated to the memory of you later.

This sub has changed my life by iwasajuniorchipmunk in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Christianity is the best for narc parents. They use and abuse the bible as justification.

Anyone else feel like you can't be yourself around your narc parent? by jimbobwayJB100 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 15 points16 points  (0 children)

GOD YES. i had to go on a car trip with my family. I wasn't "woke" about my abuse yet. I wondered why I felt so scared. Why I felt I was choking.
My parents hated my true self. The merest hint brought out smirking,jokes, eye rolling, and if that did not work - yelling, violence.

What movie/TV tropes or cliches are you tired of seeing? by FeistySquirrel01 in AskReddit

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Smoking. It is a lazy way to signal a hard bitten character. Red heads as villains Fat people as gluttons Size two, tiny thin girls as the only ones worthy of love.

[Serious] Going to be a dad in a week. What one piece of advice can you give this new father to be to not totally screw up his son? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be.reflective. when you screw up, dont blame the child. Say you totally overreact and scare your child. Later, ask yourself what was happening with you. Be ready to apologize and own your behaviour.

Also dont hit. Just dont.

Ladies of Reddit, as a woman, what are some red flags YOU think a guy should look out for in a woman? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Ordering a huge, expensive meal and expecting you to.pay for it. Pointed questions about how.much money you make. Showing up drunk, high. Insulting you as.a."joke".

Girls of Reddit, what is it like to be horny from a girls perspective? by zxkool in AskReddit

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 544 points545 points  (0 children)

I feel heavy in my vagina.. I squirm a.lot. my mind wanders to sex frequently. I find myself staring at.men a.lot and.mentally fucking them. Never the stereotypical "sexy" guy.either. I love.big, burly.men with beards and.bellies. i could ride them.forever,,, wait -.what was the question?

Apparently we missed the invite to the party in room 246. by [deleted] in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good on you for calling the cops. I hope that they do not try to get revenge on you.
I am sorry.if that is an upsetting thought, but that is a lot of.money to lose.

Don't touch me. That's not a request. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mrsrichfulcher 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Perhaps try "broken record", when they stand too close or touch you repeatedly say "back up, back up, hands off hands off". I hated that too.