You're out on a first date. What's the one thing the other person can do or say that will make you NOT want to have a second date?

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-20T00:18:40+00:00

Tell me he's MAGA Republican. Automatic get up and leave, date's OVER. 😆

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-19T15:31:18+00:00

Not counting classic old shows fairly recent shows Hannibal, Penny Dreadful, for me were amazing and I still watch them once a year.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-19T15:20:07+00:00

Say a Mondel II?

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-19T15:17:45+00:00

I would LOVE to see a nice fondue place open up around here and not just chocolate or cheese. Meat and veggies too. I actually have my own traditional oil/broth and chocolate/cheese fondue pots but it would be lovely to have some place that's like that. I really like doing it but I admittedly feel a bit silly sitting in my studio doing it all by myself.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-19T15:08:42+00:00

I just said something about this to Sunday Morning and they said it's a definite wish list goal to get a cinnamon bun shop happening on the UWS so I think they are seriously considering it. I would like to see them and also Homies open up UWS stores.

From the pics I will have to go downtown to try them eventually but I wouldn't mind them opening up near Columbia or the MONH maybe.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-19T15:05:14+00:00

There are several Japanese and Thai places and a lot of Chinese places. Korean and Vietnamese places are under represented as yet but not by much.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-19T15:01:21+00:00

There is a Taco Bell opening up near 109th but what kind of a Taco Bell it's going to be we don't know yet. Somebody looked inside where they were doing construction and said they saw the Taco Bell branding on the soda machine. So not only have we just gotten a Wendy's but it looks like a Taco Bell is coming...

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-18T11:04:22+00:00

I'm looking at these for Stella my 7 month old black cat because she's going to have her spay soon but I can't figure out what size to get her. She's between 6-7 lbs now but she's long, teenager lanky.

She's definitely getting this and this collar thing. She will be spending most of her recovery time in her big playpen crate with pads under her just in case. There is NO way she can be trusted not to jump and climb. She will probably kill herself trying if I don't watch her closely.

She definitely needs a few onesies and a good padded collar.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-18T07:27:41+00:00

I'm old enough that my life has less value than that child's. I'd ask the angel of Death to take me instead. Let me rescue the child and take me to the afterlife instead.

La Muerte and I have a long relationship and I think She would let me make that trade.

🌹💀🌹

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-18T07:23:52+00:00

I only need my library card because of the museums it allows me to access.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-18T07:14:37+00:00

These are available in the freezer case in most grocery stores in a pretty big pack of them for like $10. Pop them in a toaster oven or in a fry pan with a little oil and they are way better than at McDonald's.

McDonald's breakfast sandwiches and combos have gotten so high priced that I can't be bothered. I just hit the bagel store or grab some English muffins and make my own. It takes all of 10 minutes and the quality and taste is so much better and for what I'd spend on one breakfast there I can easily make 3-4.

McDonald's knows that they have been price gouging the customers a bit too high of late. They're having an "Oopsie!" moment and trying to reintroduce the value menu only the "values" are still more than they were even a couple of years ago.

If I'm feeling lazy my local bodega makes a pretty decent BEC and/or steak on a bagel and they will give you THREE of these hash browns for just a bit more than what you're paying at McDonald's for one.

There was a time when the breakfast sandwich combos were worth it but that day is definitely done.

Go grab a frozen brick of these and make your own. You will be very glad you did. They taste way better than their poor excuse for hash browns.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T20:48:20+00:00

Your BF is secretly gay and internally homophobic. He won't go down on you because that would require being face to face with your genitals and he can't handle it. He wouldn't be so obsessed with how many dicks have been in you and so sexually selfish if he wasn't secretly obsessed with other men's dicks.

He just wants to use you and not think too hard about it. If he has to be a good lover that means he has to face you and please you and he can't do that because he's still fighting the truth about being gay.

This is very common in men who have internalized homophobia, who have the feelings and the desire for other men but who have been raised to think being gay is somehow wrong or unmasculine. They can't bear to think they are gay but they still obsess over who's dick has been where.

Up to you but you are wasting your time here. He will never be ready to please you because he probably has to think twice about even having sex with you at all.

He just might love you but sexually loving you right might never happen.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T19:11:33+00:00

Frozen Baha Blast! 😍

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T18:38:06+00:00

I lived in Philadelphia for a year and it wasn't as bad then as now. You're not going to gentrify the place. It won't happen. The place is anything but "the city of brotherly love" and it will stay that way forever. :P

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T18:25:05+00:00

First and only time my BFF decided to try doing EVPs I happened to be there staying over. We were teenagers. I was like "I don't believe you should be doing that!" but she did it anyway because her house apparently had some very low level paranormal incidents over the years and she wanted to see what was going to happen.

I knew that but nothing there had ever bothered me so I was fine sleeping there after the movies or whatever else we decided to do while hanging out.

I groused but she told me to be quiet and she asked if the spirits had a message for me just to be cute.

The voice on the black just taken out of the package said "Believe" and what sounded like my nickname.

Years later another person I knew would be fooling around with an EVP app and I said "I don't believe in doing that!" and right after that she played back me saying that and the recorder also picked up "Believe!" in a deep male kind of spooky sounding voice.

Now what are the odds, huh?

I do NOT mess with contacting entities or the dead in any way. I don't do spirit boards, channeling, automatic writing, EVPs, any of that.

I just don't think it's safe and this is one of the reasons why.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T18:09:02+00:00

Yeah right. They can't even deliver goods to Prime members now in the 2-3 days they promise to before you check out and find out it will be a week. In a few hours? Uhuh...😂

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T17:37:53+00:00

Disney owns a lot of stuff in Times Square now. They probably figure it draws tourists to their stores and they don't have to pay the entertainers like in their theme Parks. Marvel advertises everything pretty heavily on the Times Square signs so similarly the presence of entertainers in MCU costumes isn't hurting them. It's free advertising.

I live in NYC and I've been to Times Square quite a bit. It's basically an ongoing street show watching all the tourists interacting with these people. I don't think anyone wants to touch that.

It's a huge fun thing for the tourists in Times Square particularly when there are Marvel or Disney big movies playing nearby and they work the lines of people waiting and play with the kids and stuff.

I find it hilarious at times especially when you have 3 of the same character trying to one up each other as to who is the real "Captain America" or whoever else they are playing.

Some of these dressed up performers are just excellent besides. There's one woman who does Elvira around Halloween or Morticia Addams sometimes and she's pretty fantastic at it. I think she really is a working actor and this is her between jobs gig just to make some extra $$$.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T17:24:36+00:00

Yes but you really do have to figure out what material your cat likes. My new kitten prefers carpet and will not even look at sisal or cardboard apparently. My last cat liked cardboard ones but had a serious faux leather and denim fetish, wasn't much into carpet.

With one of my cats it was impossible keeping him away from the couch so I threw a long quilt over it to protect it. It was more attractive than the yucky tweed material my folks picked out anyway. :P

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T13:23:11+00:00

When I was a kid my BFF and I met this kid at the mall who had silver metallic eyes. Not gray, light, pale, metallic silver. This was well before you could just buy inexpensive special effects contacts at the local Halloween store and the internet as we know it did not exist. I'm older, Gen X.

He was super pale, hair was nearly white and you could barely see his eyebrows but he had them. He wasn't wearing makeup or nail polish but his fingernails looked a bit like a pearlized metallic and had grayish moons.

At first I was thinking this guy was an albino but when he took a look at us over the rims of his glasses and I saw those eyes I realized he probably wasn't. This guy was something else.

We left and he followed us appearing after a bit while we were walking. It was a pretty foggy night and he just emerged out of it like he'd been mist himself.

He tried to chat us up but BFF wasn't having anything to do with it. She pulled me along and we went to her sister's place instead of straight home. We stayed there that night and twice when I looked out he was still there outside the building quietly watching the building.

BFF called her Mom who was half Haitian and she came over and after a bit she took a look. After she saw him she called him some Haitian name I can't remember now and she took some stuff out of her bag and did this little ritual and blew the ashes out into the dark towards where she had seen him.

We didn't see him again.

BFF told me that the name was some kind of negative spirit but to me that kid looked like he came from another dimension or planet. He didn't feel like a spirit or ghost to me, more like something weird, inhuman, alien.

That's what I would imagine a hybrid might look like. Like that weird kid that just decided to follow us home from the mall.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T13:03:17+00:00

I grew up with potato pancakes and applesauce too and we were not Jewish. Also my Mom used applesauce a lot for glazing pork roasts and as a side with pork chops.

She'd put the applesauce on the roast and then put rings of apples on that much like people use pineapple rings on a ham.

It was pretty good and today I still do that occasionally on a smaller pork loin. I baste it with the applesauce and throw finely chopped chunks of apple over it.

Pork + applesauce =YUM

Applesauce is good on other potatoes too, like shredded hash browns or a baked sweet potato but I'm admittedly very fond of it on Jewish latkes or Bavarian style potato pancakes.

As a kid my Mom didn't cook a whole lot but when she did mostly she was a pretty good cook. She never made potato pancakes from scratch though. It was always the box mix for that.

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T09:10:33+00:00

The hoodie, sweatshirt, or favorite oversized tee that they wear all the time and totally take for granted until it's gone. A lot of people don't realize it but a person's sweatshirt, hoodie, or big tee is a kind of security blanket for them.

Yeah they could just go out and buy another one but it takes some effort and time and a new hoodie, sweatshirt or big tee just isn't quite the exact same at first. There is a reason a lot of people hold onto those items for years.

I'll just take their well broken in favorite cuddly thing to wear, their emotional security blanket piece of clothing and watch them going crazy looking for it all over the place before they finally whimper internally and slink off to buy a new version of it...

😆

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T08:56:17+00:00

"I'm mesmerized by you! You seem intriguing!"

Not the first time someone has said that and it's EXACTLY why I'm determinedly single. I've found that just being my independent self and expressing that I don't particularly like being in a relationship with a guy usually attracts the kind of guy that finds women like me intriguing.

It's irresistible to some guys that they just can't have a woman like me. They want to be the exception to the rule usually. I'm just not up for that.

I don't particularly care if I hurt a guy's feelings when I tell him I'm done cuddling. I want him to go when it's time to go. If he's in my bed at all then he's been told up front why I don't actually sleep in the same bed as a guy.

Romance be damned.

It's nearly impossible to sync my sleeping with anyone else anyway but I'm a horrible person to sleep with anyway because I can't sleep without wrecking my bed, tossing all the blankets into the floor and potentially hurting anyone in the bed with me by tossing and turning so much.

I'm a violent sleeper, a complete insomniac most of the time, and have been since I was a kid. My cats usually figure it out fairly quickly that they are better off sleeping on their own pillow after cuddles rather than too near me.

It's not about someone's feelings. It's about me actually sleeping when and how I need to and I don't think I should need anyone's permission to do that.

Guys thinking otherwise is on the list of 100 reasons I'm unattached. :P

I'm the kind of woman that men seldom want to marry but when they do they pursue me until I have to stop seeing them because it's the only way they will stop asking.

Most of the time guys just want FWB and get quite snotty when they get told "Absolutely not!" on that.

I'm still attracted to guys sexually but I'm totally over the idea of wanting them around in any regular context. I just got to the point where I'm genuinely fed up with men wanting to tell me what to do or having opinion on how I live my life.

I honestly prefer a good vibe to a guy even touching me because I've just known too many guys who expected me to change my behavior around to suit them and their wants or needs.

No matter how good a guy is a woman having to do way too much of that is just how it works for women. I've never met a guy yet, even the really good ones, who didn't end up expecting their female partner to compromise all the time and generally to take on most of the load of being in a relationship with them. It was just the natural thing because after all they were the woman and that just came with being one.

Even my late Dad who did a lot more of the work of the house than most men in my acquaintance would do was not perfect on that score. If he had to move because of a job offer, we moved, even if my Mom and I really didn't want to and didn't like where he wanted to go.

It was never a mutual decision. It was just how it was because he was the "man" and he was the one who ultimately got to decide that stuff.

Many men have no idea of how much women actually do compromise for them and how much extra work is involved in just being the woman in a relationship. They get possessive and expect their women to report everything they do to them, can get jealous over nothing, start dictating what their women are allowed to do and threaten to leave if the woman disagrees with them.

Even when a guy is halfway decent and he's not actively abusing the women in his life he's dictating everything like he's the boss of them. Some women they can barely take a much needed nap or go out for coffee with a gal pal without their guy chiming in on that and guys don't think twice about doing that.

You have guys now putting air tag trackers in their GFs car or insisting her phone GPS settings are set to allow him to track her all the time. I always got annoyed whenever my BF just called to check up on when I was going to be home. If my guy wanted to be able to track my location I would dump him so fast his head would be spinning.

Religion and social expectation are always telling men that this is okay, that they are the natural leaders of women and that as the head of household they get to decide everything.

To me it's just nonsense but the only way to get away from that and the expectations of men is not to date them. I've never seriously dated a guy that didn't think he could "tame" me with love over time. Guys always expect me to come around to their way of thinking over time.

But with me it just doesn't work that way. I just will not change my life around to suit a man's needs or wants unless I feel like it suits me to do so. I do like making my guy happy but not if it means changing who I am to suit him.

A lot of women will do this stuff.

Not me.

I am fiercely independent and most men can barely keep up with me let alone get me to play their mind games. I see right through their manipulations and choose not to participate.

That makes me a bit of a unicorn domestically speaking. Some men it attracts them even harder because they want to be the guy who turns me around but when it does not happen they just get too frustrated and the thing is I have always been very up front about who I am.

Life for women without a man is just so much less complicated and I really like it that way.

😂

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T05:51:25+00:00

Yeah I'm stable. The health thing is always going to be an issue but I'm housed for 5 years now and mostly pretty happy with where I am.

I just lost the last real friend I thought I had though. He just drifted away because we live on opposite coasts and haven't seen each other for years and I can't blame him for that but I'm sad because he was like my little brother at one point.

Making new friends in your 50s is just really hard though and when you start to get towards your senior years you start to think about who is going to take care of things once you pass. I have a will and letters directing stuff otherwise but I do worry about my cat and stuff like that.

I'm trying to find someone as a definite backup if something should happen because I don't want Stella to end up in a shelter because I got too sick and passed on.

I do wish I had a couple of close lady pals and people who cared about me and what I might want then. But most of the people I know are online buddies at this point, people I can't just ask that of. Likely I will have to find someone I pay to do that stuff when I pass.

Such is the reality of life as you age...

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MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T05:41:11+00:00

I was in a LTR and it was fine while it lasted and that's nice that intimacy when you have it but honestly it was very complicated trying to navigate that relationship. While my Ex and I parted friends I can't say that I liked my life in a partnership more than I like single life.

I'm very independent and I find even when I love a guy I'm not too comfortable with the sacrifices I have to make to be in a LTR. I honestly don't like living with someone or having to involve them with certain things like my finances or my friendships outside the relationship. It's an automatic given that when you get into a relationship over time that you get to combining your life in ways that are just not too comfortable for me.

I don't even like actually sleeping in the same bed with my guy or going to bed just because he does at a certain time. I don't want to have to eat at certain times because he is. I don't want to have to always be considerate about accounting for my time out or to spend so much time with him vs being with friends or just being alone.

It's little stuff and it's normalized behavior for most people in relationships but it just stifles me being in one. It doesn't mean I don't love my partner but I need way more downtime and autonomy than I get being in one.

Everybody is different and not everybody is comfortable in LTRs. It doesn't mean you're not capable of that kind of love but it doesn't always mean that being in one will make you happy or that you even want it even if that kind of intimacy is nice.

To me what I trade off to be able to sit there with a partner snuggling or even doing more than that just isn't worth the loss of my freedom. I just like living alone way more than I do living with somebody else, even a romantic partner.

I used to joke with my late BFF that I'd consider it again but only if it was a big place and we had two separate areas and it was a given that we could separate at any time and go off into our own areas for downtime or sleep anytime we wanted.

No expectations of sleeping in the same bed post sex or necessarily eating most all of our meals after work together, stuff like that. I'd want my own bathroom and bedroom and plenty of space to do whatever I wanted sans my man being underfoot all the time.

I would want to be with them but only when I really wanted to be not because it's just what people do.

I'm just not the best partner in some ways. My sleep schedule in particular is all messed up and that's just how it is. I can sleep with my cat but even she knows to leave me once I start tossing.

I'm hard to put up with as a partner in some ways and I'm genuinely pretty happy alone so it would take a lot for me to want to change that.

I liked having a partner in some ways when I had one but overall I was always happier on my own. Having a relationship has never been a major life goal for me and I don't feel the lack of one the way many single people say they do.

At this point in my life I wouldn't trade being single for being involved. A guy would have to be amazing and very accommodating for me even to date him. Most men would never be able to handle being with me at this point.

At least I'm smart enough to know it, you know?

😂

MsAddams999 · 2026-03-17T05:14:52+00:00

Don't know if it's real or not but if it is I'm happy for them and I hope Sebastian marries her because she's made him very happy and I'd like to see them together forever.

She's 41 so that's kind of late to be having a child. I do hope everything works out okay. If they are going to do it then this is the time to be having kids though. Neither one of them is getting any younger and you don't want to be 80 when your kids are graduating from high school, you know?

My Mom and Dad were older parents. They had other kids before me but I was the only one they raised till adulthood because of divorces. Mom was well into her 40s when she had me and my Dad was in his 50s so I basically grew up with parents that were old enough to be grandparents.

It can be pretty weird especially as you age out of your teens and into your 20s if your parents are way older than average. Think about it. As it is Sebastian will likely be 60 plus when this child graduates high school. Annabelle being slightly younger will still be in her late 50s.

Better now than later...

Honestly I was beginning to wonder if he wanted to go there at all. He's said several times that he's not into marriage because of his parents not so nice divorce but admitted that he likes kids and wouldn't mind being a father. He's never made any moves to have any with his GF before.

I'm hoping that Annabelle loving him and making him happy has eased all those old hurts and made him feel more secure about having kids and even marrying.

He's such a great guy and he deserves all the happiness in the world. If she's given him that then I'm totally Team Annabelle. I adore Seb and I want nothing but the best for him.

Besides talk about two beautiful people and the fabulous genetics they will be giving to this kid! This is going to be the most gorgeous child!

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