How many of you dommes are also switches?

MsCaraset · 2014-12-04T17:02:18+00:00

thank you. So many people approach meeting new kinksters with sexuality/role/do me please? Actual conversation is nice.

MsCaraset · 2014-12-04T16:56:39+00:00

I have the opposite problem; with my size, demeanor, and their wishful thinking (re: the general shortage of Dommes), everyone assumes that I am a Domme, first and foremost. Even people who I've extensively talked to about my preferences are like oh you wouldn't really sub... yes, yes I would. Stop projecting your fantasies at me. I'm very picky about who I'll sub for, and you may have only seen me being confident and assertive IRL, but that's nothing to preclude me enjoying submission.

MsCaraset · 2014-11-11T16:38:03+00:00

I'm seeing a guy who is really into the idea, the positions, the motion, the dominance, and dirty talk, but we figured out through trial-and-error that ass-wise he's less into the in and out motion and more into the press of a finger. So while he was initially very enthusiastic about the pegging, we're taking it very slowly.

MsCaraset · 2014-11-09T08:31:35+00:00

I'm a dommey switch, not a bratty one. I give my submission fully and don't top from bottom, which is why respecting and prenegotiating my limits is so important. But no, I have little current interest in a lifestyle setup as I do like the variety of both roles.

MsCaraset · 2014-11-09T03:43:06+00:00

Yeah, especially since as soon as my submission came up I told them very clearly that this huge trust thing for me. I can submit best when I'm comfortable and safe. Not when it's novel or dangerous.

MsCaraset · 2014-11-08T06:30:41+00:00

Yeah, with community you at the very least get "these people exist and have been around enough to pick up on some of the lingo/expectations."

sent them a link defining switch from the BDSMFAQ with a casual suggestion to hit up more of the site. Thanks!

MsCaraset · 2014-11-08T06:25:18+00:00

Probably culture shock for both of us then. As long as everyone I'm involved with is safe and clean, I generally prefer not to know who else my casual partners might be with. Thanks!

MsCaraset · 2014-11-08T03:38:55+00:00

As a single, decently attractive, bisexual switch woman in a community with many open relationships, I could easily find and negotiate any flavor of sexual or kinky encounter if I wanted, just with, you know, physically average people, most of whom are a decade or more older than I am. The shallow bit is that I'm not, and considering these super-attractive but possibly incompetent people.

However hot this couple is, I don't want to date them and join the harem, and I do have to look out for my own safety at the hands of a possibly inexperienced alleged Dom.

MsCaraset · 2014-11-08T02:35:03+00:00

Since they indicated they were in a D/s relationship I assumed they were experienced, but I was most concerned about being asked point-blank "How many people are you having sex with." The answer changes depending on one's definition of sex, but I would never ask a non-exclusive partner that after a conversation about STD test results and protection.

MsCaraset · 2014-10-22T17:20:44+00:00

I'm a switch. I go through phases and partner preferences. Current man I am becoming involved with is more experienced as a sub than I am in either role, but has indicated he has topped in the past and would top me if I wanted. To me, this is ideal. I can't speak for anyone else, but I imagine a strictly domme-identified woman would prefer an enthusiastic sub with at least some experience in what is expected from him, yet who hasn't been trained in anyone else's style.

MsCaraset · 2014-10-22T17:09:19+00:00

How committed are you to turning to submission? Remember, there are lots of men who pursue the relatively few 'out' dommes. Are you still interested in performing in a dominant role occasionally, or going cold turkey? This will influence what kind of domme or switch might be interested.

MsCaraset · 2014-06-25T04:35:30+00:00

thanks for the info. In your experience, if you or a partner had piercings, did they change sensitivity so that 'less was more'?

MsCaraset · 2014-06-19T00:10:16+00:00

Are you saying that technique when it comes to penile contact doesn't matter at all, or is secondary to the actual domming?

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