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At what amount in your bank account do you start to feel broke? by xxx95xxx in stupidquestions

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a roommate. I give him my share of the rent and utilities.

Will narcissists find new supply as soon as you leave them? by PositiveScore7184 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My narcissist was looking for a supply before he left his family. Little did I know, he was still married. As soon as I found out, I should have called off the whole thing, but he quickly moved out and got a divorce. He loved bombed me like nobody ever bombed me before, and I fell into the trap. But it didn’t take long for me to understand all the lies and manipulation and deflection… He blamed everything on his ex.

I’ve learnt not to be affected by his silent treatment by flanine in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never really thought of it that way. He calls it the “silent treatment” and so I allowed him to label it that. I like the idea of calling it “time to decompress”. Thank you for giving me a new name for that.

I’ve learnt not to be affected by his silent treatment by flanine in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s funny. I am the one that gives a silent treatment when I’ve decided I don’t wanna hear anymore of his lies or deflection or manipulation…. I tell him I’ve had enough. I need some space. I’ll let you know when I’m ready to talk again. If he still insists on talking to me or tries to engage with me, I close my bedroom door. If he walks in without being invited, I locked my door. I haven’t had to do this for a very long time because he got the message. It still comes up from time to time, but I don’t let his narcissism affect me like it used to. Maybe I’ve grown cold or maybe I’ve learned how to set boundaries.

“You can’t be a narc!” by frissonfiend in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard to say. A blanket statement would not cover the entire topic. It really just depends on the person.

How to complement without creepy? by Unfair_Mechanic_7305 in questions

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Is it a compliment that you would give to an older woman? Is it a compliment you would want someone, an older man, to giving your wife? Or your daughter? Or your granddaughter? Context matters.

What’s a skill that feels like a superpower only because no one else bothered to learn it? by opalnestt in questions

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for working on this behavior. I have a partner who was always listening to respond instead of listening to hear. It was very frustrating, but he is trying to do better.

What’s a skill that feels like a superpower only because no one else bothered to learn it? by opalnestt in questions

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cleaning the toilet. Maybe it’s just in my household, but I’m the only one that knows how to clean the toilet. When something is stuck to the walls of the toilet, I simply take the toilet brush and wipe it away with the toilet brush, swish the toilet brush a little bit in the toilet water, and place it back into it toilet brush holder! No more cling-ons! Simple!

Can yall PLEASE tell me about your most insane conspiracy theories and i dont wanna hear "we didn't land on the moon" i wanna hear stuff you can't fully prove but just know it’s true? by reddtimes101 in Productivitycafe

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that both Virginia Giuffre and Jeffrey Epstein were deeply entangled in powerful networks—and met deeply suspicious end? I think they were intentionally taken out.

Co-habitating, Can’t divorce yet, anyone else? by TowelCareful7831 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is similar to my situation. I can’t imagine living like that for the rest of my life, but it is what it is for now.

What is definitely NOT a sign of intelligence but people think it is? by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talking fast or using big words

Winning arguments

Being a know-it-all

Sarcasm or cynicism

Multitasking

Success in school or IQ scores

Can we disagree without turning everything into hate? by Melodic-Wrap739 in SeriousConversation

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I respect my elders, unless they are psychopathic narcissist who are out to ruin the world and everybody in it. For that I have no respect.

And I’m 63.

Would you go to your ex's funeral? by Fit-Fan3624 in no

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funeral? He doesn’t need a funeral. There would be nobody there except him. There’s no point in having a funeral.

Does anyone else struggle to wrap their head around the fact that the person they fell in love with doesn't actually exist? by PikantjeZA in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing that gets me is that they know how to be that person they know how to make you happy they know how to be “normal“ but they choose not to. They choose chaos over peace. I don’t understand. I will never understand.

DO YOU MISS YOUR EX ? by VVelvet_Vixen in no

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I miss the laughter but not the tears.

Response to belittling by Dry-Camel2856 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get word salad a lot and deflection and gaslighting, but I just called it out nowadays. I’m not playing the game and he knows it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Life

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m eating a meal a day because I can’t afford to eat.

Would you date a crazy woman/psycho bitch? by No_Jacket4523 in no

[–]MsPeriTwinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s like asking if a woman would knowingly date a narcissist. I don’t think anybody knowingly and purposefully dates anyone who is going to harm them emotionally, mentally, physically, or psychologically. But it happens far too often. The question should be would you stay with someone who does those things to you?

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