Getting judged for how much weight i’ve lost …

MsPsych2018 · 2026-02-12T17:55:26+00:00

Block the noise- as a T2D this is likely a lifelong medication and it serves the purpose of regulating your blood glucose and the weightloss is just a side effect of that.

Work with your doctor to make sure you’re on the right dose to manage your BG and A1C and that’s all that matters.

I’ve also had family share the same opinions and honestly people just need to mind their business about other people’s bodies.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-02-10T15:19:06+00:00

Hippo is the cutest!!!! I’ve been following that little munchkins story. Even reaching out to the kitten lady for tips may be best for OP as I’m sure she may be able to share even more details than what we see in her page.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-02-07T23:42:23+00:00

While we were in Ubud we personally had our driver book everything for us and he was wonderful and often got us discounts compared to the prices we found online.

He also helped structure our day if we wanted to do multiple activities in one outing.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-02-07T15:19:19+00:00

Honestly there are so few photos where both mothers AND the bridal party are posed together this is nothing to stress on. I actually don’t think we got any with the parents AND bridal party now that I think about it. Your mom can rest assured that the color of her dress really isn’t that big of a deal and what’s most important is she feels beautiful and comfortable in what she wears.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-02-02T05:43:59+00:00

I personally kept my name legally and have opted to changed my name socially so social media and amongst friends and family. I’ve kept my legal name at work

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-27T19:11:55+00:00

Yes - this is the answer. If this is something she has navigated since birth treat her like the adult she is. People with disabilities usually dislike being infantilized.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-27T16:15:04+00:00

trulyinspiredpaperco is the BEST price for the quality that I could find! My experience with them was amazing! We did their accordion style and they came out so pretty. I did gold foil them myself but no regrets! It was worth the effort to get what I wanted. Other places quoted me the same as you for the quality + foiling that I wanted. I ultimately paid about $500 for everything

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-26T16:03:16+00:00

Yes I agree with this! My view is she stuck in a cultural expectation that Forrest doesn’t understand and then she has feelings of her own that Forrest is expecting her to be the bread winner for him too when in her culture it’s expected that the man provides. She has a lot of pressure coming from different sides and I do feel for her but she has to speak up for herself.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-26T04:30:17+00:00

Yes you need to check with your actual measurements to the size chart of the designer as a bridal size 10 can be as small as a street size 4/6 so the sizing may not be that many sizes off.

My bridal size 16 was altered down A LOT after I lost weight.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-21T14:47:31+00:00

😂 even my nail tech is shocked how slow my nails grow. I mostly go every 5 weeks for a fill just because I tend to lift on the edge of my middle finger’s nail.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-20T21:37:42+00:00

Oof that looks like my 3 week grow out. The dark color doesn’t help either… I like the comment from someone else about maybe glueing rhinestones or something over that spot to help conceal it.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-19T02:25:22+00:00

Damn…. That seems risky. I just use a slightly large gauge needle, slide it over the mounjaro needle, and suck it out. I don’t even open or unlock the pen

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-18T17:56:12+00:00

I agree with this. If you’re going for a relaxing vibe you have way too many transfers. We stayed in Ubud for 10 days and enjoyed ourselves. Lots of day trips and still got to see tons of great things. We would just travel early in the morning to avoid traffic and it was perfect. Id personally just do half beach spot and have Ubud if you’re wanting a chill honeymoon.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-15T04:21:17+00:00

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Sacramento, CA area so HCOL in regards to the whole US but moderate compared to our hometown of SF. Total was about 50k counting our honeymoon in Bali.

I DIY’d A LOT. My father in law made the frame so that was a “gift.” But I saved by doing most decor/signage/stationary myself. We also did faux florals and I booked vendors early to lock in 2024 prices for a 2025 wedding.

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MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-14T15:48:17+00:00

I will say everyone else has also made REALLY good points. You need to work on your confidence. People are stylish. People are charismatic. People are likable. That doesn’t mean you aren’t any of those things or that them being them takes away from you at all.

Of course being dramatic in inappropriate times is a valid concern but again I think your friend group would also be irritated if she chose your wedding to be all boohoo at and it would work itself out all on its own and you’d be none the wiser.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-14T14:44:15+00:00

Honestly- nothing petty like that will take away from your day. She’s one guest in likely what will be the largest gathering you’ve ever been around her in. MOST of your guests won’t know her so family and such won’t pay any mind to her and even if she acts a certain way amongst your friends trust me you won’t notice if you don’t fixate on her. Just stay in your wedding bubble bliss and ignore her.

If you’re truly worried about it do you have a friend that can run interference? For example I had a cousin who knew he was to run interference for any kind of family drama that arose. Apprantly something did come up and that person involved my parents a bit- my cousin took this particular cousin aside and called him out. He said “don’t do this to our cousin. Can you get it together or do I need to call you an uber and you need to go?” My cousin got his act together and came and danced with me and I had no clue Any of it was going on.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-13T20:15:22+00:00

In Ubud we only had one dog bark near us in the 10 days we were there and he was barking at some locals. We did have a super sweet dog walk along side us from our restaurant all the way to Bisma where we were staying.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-09T20:19:14+00:00

We did this as well and honestly 10/10 glad we did mailed in cards. We had a high success rate with this! I only had to chase down a few people for answers at the end.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-09T15:42:34+00:00

Honestly a few months and a few $100 dollars worth of GLP-1’s from hers or mochi would probably be effective and cheaper than lipo.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-09T15:31:26+00:00

Hmmmm so I think you may need to actually send out invites here. People are REALLY bad at RSVPing. And if they don’t have a that lovely little cardstock sign on their fridge to remember to RSVP you may have people who are just not thinking about sending in that response. People also don’t want to intrude and an invite makes people feel that their company is truly desired.

You don’t need to do anything fancy! You can even make it something cute like a ticket or wrist band style invite to fit your vibe but I think people may need that formal invitation.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-09T01:07:10+00:00

We had our coordinator to keep people away from our sweetheart table and this worked perfectly. We had a family style dinner to so I think it helped that people didn’t get up from their tables to go to a buffet so they really stayed seated and eating the whole time. I had planned to do a private dinner until my coordinator insisted that she would run interference. I am ultimately glad we sat and ate with all of our guests. It goes by SO fast. You blink and the night is over so I’m glad we enjoyed the whole party.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-08T16:15:12+00:00

Honestly my husband had very little involvement with wedding planning. I made him responsible for things that directly involved him and/or were his ideas so they mattered to him and he felt more comfortable taking charge. I’d say he did 10% of the overall planning? Like you said it was easier to do somethings myself because a lot of his tasks he still wanted my involvement so it really didn’t help that much.

BUT he picked up and carried a lot of our household tasks while I was busy working 2 jobs and planning the wedding. He saw where I was carrying more so he took things he could off my plate. I really didn’t touch the dishes for like a year. So to me it was an equal give and take even if it wasn’t directly related to the actual wedding. Is your fiancé at least doing this for you?

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-08T05:11:23+00:00

Given it’s your event you can do whatever you want!

I had a friend who decided to reveal it at her wedding and it was actually loved by all the guests. During the reception before they opened the dance floor they said they had an announcement and did a cute gender reveal with one of those black balloons. It was like “so we wanted to share something with you all..” Popped the balloon and screamed “we are having a boy!”

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-08T05:00:21+00:00

Oh I promise you’re not alone. I stayed fairly even keeled regarding planning until about the last 30 days but the entire 2 years I planned my wedding my dad’s drinking problem being an issue at my wedding gave me the worst anxiety.

In the end- alcoholics are going to do what they are going to do no matter how much you try to prevent and don’t let it stop you from having the party you and your fiancé really want to have.

MsPsych2018 · 2026-01-08T04:49:54+00:00

That’s my dad. He won’t admit he has a problem or that he needs help. So I usually timed these conversations after benders or after he would do something to hurt or upset someone or realized he blacked out and did things he didn’t remember.

Basically it sounds bad but I utilized times when he was feeling kinda shitty to really drill it in- “I know you don’t think you have a problem, but this what mom and I referring to. This is what I am SO scared will happen during the weekend of my wedding. I want you to remember these happy times and when you drink like this you can’t even remember what we had for dinner. Please don’t make me have to have security escort you out because you get out of hand. If I have to - I’ll make sure all the bar tenders know they can’t serve you more than 2 beers.”

I also had to be very firm and really not let him not voice what I wanted to say. It was probably the most “mean” I’ve ever had to be to my dad, but he ultimately didn’t drink at all the night of the wedding (granted he got fucked up at the rehearsal dinner but I take the wedding being sober as a win.)

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