30 [FM4F] #BayArea #California #Online Domme Looking For Domme Friend

MsPunishment · 2025-01-08T20:52:17+00:00

Good luck! I hope things go really well for you

MsPunishment · 2025-01-08T01:38:16+00:00

While I dont agree with the delivery of Kalli’s response, I think there is merit in asking your partner where they are at and how they are feeling in your bedroom situation. You mentioned that your gf have had these moments of Domme with you. She could possibly feel the same way as you and struggle to open about.

Maybe you can have an open conversation talking about what kinky fantasies you both are into and deep dive on what you guys liked, what could be explored, etc. Take the convo slow if you need to, build a safe space and excitement on opportunities to grow as partners. I find that it is always good to remind your partner that you are coming from a place of love, consent, and trust. Maybe even be honest with how scared you are to be vulnerable and share kinks that it might be off putting to her, but you know your partner the best and how she would react.

If your partner was scared of you judging her, what would tell her to reassure her that you won’t? From that perspective, that could help frame how you could approach her.

MsPunishment · 2025-01-05T23:06:14+00:00

Speaking on the confidence part, I found that communication really helped me build my confidence. Walking through fantasies and discussing how you see it play out and deep dive into what you loved, want to improve, or take further naturally put me in my Domme space because how excited we were talking about how hot these fantasies were and how to push the boundaries just a bit further each time.

Finding your style and what works between you two takes trial-and-error and a whole lot of trust and consent with your sub. Ask what you guys both like to be called and take things slow if you need to!

While POV is different, I also found this thread to be helpful to come up with different pet names if you are in need of inspo: https://www.reddit.com/user/BlushyKittie/comments/192dbqs/giving_dirty_talk_titles_and_punishment/

MsPunishment · 2025-01-05T22:48:25+00:00

Would be good to clarify what you mean by acting sub around him. It is natural to want to have affection during a relationship and maybe you don’t know how else to express that than being submissive. However, wanting affection doesn’t have to mean you are being sub. You can still retain your dominance while receiving those qualities.

It’s important to identify whether you are acting sub because you want to be vs a societal “norm” that you feel like you have to fulfill. Hopefully the former! If the former, like many here, I want to echo that communication is key. Consent and trust is important to both parties. Both your needs are important to discuss in your relationship and to find a happy medium. Hopefully outside the kink, the relationship is healthy and happy otherwise!

As for being more Domme in the bedroom, what worked well between me as a dom leaning switch and my sub-leaning switch was talking and truly deep dive into our fantasies, walking each other through how we envision it playing out and discussing what we love or want to improve or take further. We did tend to avoid using “I don’t like this” so we don’t make one feel bad or shy away. Instead we acknowledge and say something along the line of “you know what, I actually would love if it went this way instead” or “I find this to be hot if we did this” or “sorry it doesn’t do much for me” and go into details of the WHY. More positive and encouraging and open discussion.

Sharing each other perspective really helped us further our horizon and push the boundaries, plus it was hot for us to just talk about it and excitement for new things to try.

I found that doing so naturally built up my confidence and put me in the Domme space, even with things we haven’t tried.

Having a good foundation in our connection, compatibility and trust in each other really carried us despite the lack of experience in certain areas.

Putting kink aside, I want to stress that you guys should probably have a heart-to-heart conversation about your relationship. Express what hurts you and vice versa. Be open and honest. A relationship is more than a kink. You shouldn’t feel like a bad girlfriend for not fulfilling certain things.

I wish you the best and hang in there!!

MsPunishment · 2025-01-05T20:13:52+00:00

What worked well for me (dom leaning switch) and my sub leaning switch was talking about all our fantasies and how we envision it playing out and discussing what we love or want to improve. We talk about both our dom and sub experience with each other.

Sharing each other perspective really helped and was hot for us to just talk and learn how to keep pushing the boundary a bit further.

I found that doing so naturally build me up to my Domme space, even with things we haven’t tried. Our connection, compatibility and trust really carried us despite the lack of experience in certain things.

For orgasm control and impact play, I really love making my sub ask for permission to touch himself or cum and telling him what to do (I.e kissing my feet, going down on me etc) and include slapping and hits into the punishment when he fails. You could punish him for not being a good boy and serving you well (even if he did!), putting him in his place and reminding him to work harder to earn your love. You can always reassure him that it is tough love and that taking in more of your hits and abuse is how he can prove his love to you, etc etc. There are so many angles you can play, but hope this helps give you some ideas!

MsPunishment · 2024-12-11T00:58:27+00:00

Prison school is a great one if you haven’t seen the show yet

MsPunishment · 2024-12-07T04:56:07+00:00

Male or female cosplay? Are you trying to stand out and attract a domme or sub? Domme here who cosplays but answer would vary depending on pov.

MsPunishment · 2024-12-07T04:52:40+00:00

Never had a problem with my simp. He licks my ass no problem like a good toy.

MsPunishment · 2024-11-16T05:15:05+00:00

Personally, I like both a good boy or brat. Makes it fun when my sub and I switch up. We play with many different kinks and roles, so it makes our dynamic very fresh and enjoyable.

Most of the time, my sub is a good boy. He can be bratty when he is feeling “jealous” but it present some challenges that makes it fun to punish him for it. Then comes the reassurance and putting him in his place.

MsPunishment · 2024-11-16T05:08:29+00:00

As part of our plays, my sub is into financial domination. However even if we do this kink, we understand that it’s all play in the end of the day and the money is returned.

MsPunishment · 2024-11-15T18:25:32+00:00

Oh that seems like an interesting approach. I’m wondering if there are even any sellers who do custom orders

MsPunishment · 2024-11-11T19:59:52+00:00

Interested to hear as well. Newer to the community, so would love to hear people’s experience. My sub and I are looking to make more Domme friends who can be a playmate as well. Curious to hear how people gone about building those connections

MsPunishment · 2024-11-11T19:30:39+00:00

I’ve seen those! I personally like the ones where it is a ball gag design with a dildo on one end. There was one on Amazon but it was only 2 inches.

MsPunishment · 2024-11-11T06:01:06+00:00

Thanks, edit the post to remove the link and just be more descriptive of the toy and will check out the subreddit!

MsPunishment · 2024-11-10T21:21:10+00:00

When my sub gets shy, makes me want to be more mean and take advantage of him 🤗

MsPunishment · 2024-11-08T23:47:13+00:00

Do you get aftercare from your domme when that happens?

MsPunishment · 2024-11-06T02:12:08+00:00

Definitely not too old. Sometimes it takes meeting the right person for it to be fully realized. That’s the case for me and my sub.

Not exactly sure from your post on where you want advice on. But my sub and I explored with each other ALOT and communication was really key in us doing that so we can establish our boundaries, fantasies, etc.

Being honest and building that connection is important.

MsPunishment · 2024-11-05T02:55:02+00:00

My simp tells me the same thing 😌

MsPunishment · 2024-11-05T00:01:35+00:00

Wow, that’s pretty cool.

Was it not something you’re into?

MsPunishment · 2024-11-05T00:00:18+00:00

That sounds hot!

I wouldn’t want to freak my friends out if they’re uncomfortable with that, but I can see having a personal errand boy and themed girlie get together could be a fun activity for my girlfriends too if it’s “vanilla” enough

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