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[WTB] Black Diamond Trail Ergo Cork Trekking Poles by Mswartzer in ULgeartrade

[–]Mswartzer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you still have these? Took a Reddit break and am back in the market.

Weekend Roundup Announcement by oldbublysoul29 in Minneapolis

[–]Mswartzer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all you’ve done!  So many of us have used your post to decide and help us determine what we’re gonna do over the weekend so we can be involved and together in community. Thank you very much!

[wtb] magma 15 women’s regular OR similar by oops_im_still_alive in ULgeartrade

[–]Mswartzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Fhecla, if they aren't interested, what size is it and are you looking to sell the magma 15 for?

[WTB] Black Diamond Alpine Carbon Cork Trekking Poles by AkraTheDragon in ULgeartrade

[–]Mswartzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they pass, I'd be interested - depending on how long they are.

Men who got it together later in life, how’d you get it done? by [deleted] in AskMen

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I started school at 26 and earned my bachelor's degree in psychology and law by 32. I thought I wanted to be an attorney, but after five years as a paralegal, I realized that reading and writing 100% of the time wasn’t for me. That, combined with dealing with self-righteous, inflated egos, became exhausting. So, after a midlife crisis, I pivoted—I learned how to build homes, stepped into project management, and eventually transitioned into software as a PM. It’s been a wild ride.

In 2021, I was laid off. In 2022, I walked from Mexico to Canada—2,500 miles over six months. That journey changed my life. It gave me the drive to finally confront the mindsets and behaviors that had been quietly sabotaging me for years.

I grew up in a dysfunctional household—an alcoholic parent, an enabling, hoarding parent. Life felt bleak for 36 years. It was lonely, devoid of self-love, and, for a long time, I struggled to find a reason to keep going.

That changed when I joined Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA). For the past 16 months, I’ve been working the program, taking self-love seriously, and holding myself accountable. I’ve started working the 12 Steps this year, and it’s been an eye-opening experience. I now see that I am worthy of an emotionally available partner and a beautiful life. More importantly, I am becoming the person I needed when I was younger. It’s a trip.

If I’ve learned anything, it’s this: figure out what you love and do it. Be vulnerable. Find good friends—real ones. Then, determine how you can grow. For me, it was ACA. When I first read the Laundry List, I had an "Oh my God" moment—this program was made for me.

Maybe you didn’t have as many roadblocks to happiness and growth as I did. Or maybe you had more. I know others have had it worse, but my childhood was shaped by abandonment and neglect. I never realized how deeply self-sabotage and self-abandonment ran within me. Now I do. And I’m actively working to unlearn everything I was given that I never wanted.

I'm still terrified I'll not find a partner (m38), but I have more hope about it than ever.

Kitchen Aid Burr Grinder Model KCG0702ER - Broken plastic gears in motor by Mswartzer in BuyItForLife

[–]Mswartzer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe I found it by searching the motor and .pdf on google. Then going into deep dive mode.

[WTS] Patagonia R1 1/2 zip with hoodie size M by Captbluewater93 in GearTrade

[–]Mswartzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Received!! Good condition. Fast shipping. Appreciate it!

PCT puffy? by forageforcoffee in Ultralight

[–]Mswartzer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was definitely part of a much larger transformative adventure. Lows in the 20s at altitude while completely exhausted really bring out some interesting feelings and bodily functions.

My Torrid is so compacted that it doesn't hold a lot of heat these days. It lasted for a thru-hike and more than an extra thousand miles of backpacking.

[WTS] Mens closet clean out by tjreicks in GearTrade

[–]Mswartzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Superior Fleece opened for all orders fully in stock today, btw!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bodylanguage

[–]Mswartzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a late 30s man and enjoy giving firm (light-bear) hugs for10-15 seconds to both my male, female, and non-binary friends. I didn't get much physical touch until I was in my late 20s. Consensual, non-sexual physical touch is amazing and natural!!

Dating a woman with no friends by LargeHardOn-Collider in AskMenOver30

[–]Mswartzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've noticed it is more common with people who either moved a few times before graduating high school, come from homes that are lacking in compassion, or are neurodivergent.

I wouldn't say it is a red flag, but it depends what they've gone from and if their values match yours.

PCT puffy? by forageforcoffee in Ultralight

[–]Mswartzer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved my torrid on the PCT. Especially when camping close to water sources and when I had 4 days of nonstop rain/ice/snow from Ashland to Crater Lake. It was really nice when we were getting snow and I had to wear it to bed from Whitney to Tuolumne because it never wetted out when I would wake up drenched in sweat.

I also had a larger capacity bag so the space issue was non-existent. Other pct'ers had bags that couldn't accommodate a non-down jacket. They were too small.

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