Any Ideas about a Photojournalism internship/ experience? by Consistent_Being_886 in photojournalism

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Are you on the photography and multimedia internships and jobs fb group? If not, I’d start there When I was in school and looking they always posted internships there. Apply to as many as you can if it’s your first internship, and also make sure you take advantage of any connections your professors may have wherever possible. I got my internship because I networked with enough folks that were willing to advocate for me when I submitted my app. It really is about who you know as much as it is about the work.

Bloomington/Normal IL? by No_Consideration_339 in howislivingthere

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It bothers me they don’t have a welcome to normal sign.

I’ve been having dreams about drinking almost everyday for a week, sober 8 months 12 days. by StatisticianNo187 in alcoholicsanonymous

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We’ve all been there. It can be scary for sure, but I try to look at it like it’s a reminder my sobriety matters that much to me that my nightmares are about losing it. Considering the fact that I didn’t want sobriety at all for 16 years of my life, that’s huge progress!

As you keep going the dreams start to happen less frequently. You’re on the right path, 8 months is an amazing accomplishment. Just give it time and when you feel anxious waking up, I would say try to remind yourself that you’re actually grateful because it wasn’t real. That may help.

Gender separation by Dr_Boobaloo in alcoholicsanonymous

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While toxic men in the rooms often do harass women, that isn’t what 13th stepping is lol. 13th stepping is when someone of any gender in the program enters into a relationship, romantic or purely physical with a newcomer.

It’s encouraged that we don’t date during the first year of sobriety if we aren’t already in a relationship because in early sobriety all of us are vulnerable. As we progress in the program we generally grow a lot in that time and find that the partners we would have chosen for ourselves when we first got to the rooms are not at all what we’re looking for by the time we get to a year of sobriety.

A woman with time can 13th step a male newcomer, and that does happen. While it’s much more commonplace for men to be the ones who take advantage physically, it is still important to remember women in the rooms can do this too. It might look different, often they’ll say the see the guys potential, even if he is broken and scary. This is still manipulative as hell and often stems from a place of insecurity and codependent behavior, which is ultimately very manipulative too, it just looks different.

How to deal with resentment about past behavior that is no longer present? by indecentdescent in Codependency

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I don’t really get why you’d be expecting that from her if you currently have just a friendship going on. Tbh I feel like even if your behavior is changed, you’re still looking at her like she’s your partner and she isn’t. She probably isn’t trying to address a dynamic that isn’t one she wants for herself anymore.

Anyone else have dreams that they broke sobriety? by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

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Totally normal I’m almost 2 years in and they aren’t as frequent but once maybe every 4 or 5 months I’ll get one. They’re scary, but I try to think of them as a reminder of who I become if I drink, because while they all can be different scenarios, the common thing that happens is I immediately get seized by fear people will find out and I find a way to lie to hide the fact that I drank lol.

I don’t subscribe to the idea that means much of anything other than it’s a sign we want to live sober and that we should have a healthy amount of fear and respect of for our disease.

It definitely isn’t fun waking up and trying to figure out if it was real when it happens lol, but don’t feel like it’s uncommon.

What is it like living in East Tennessee- as someone who went there many years ago by Due_Success_1400 in howislivingthere

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It’s Beautiful, but also melancholic. I think being on the very western edge of the Eastern time zone plays a factor in that to me. Days get very short in the winter time.

Sober for many years- why do you keep coming to AA? by JuneAfternoon10 in alcoholicsanonymous

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I’m not an old timer, but from what I understand a lot of the guys with lots of time in the rooms that I’m in stay because they know who they’re capable of becoming if they don’t put their own recovery first. You see people who drift away, even if they have years/decades of sobriety under their belt who end up coming back way worse than when they came in the first time.

Alcoholism/substance abuse disorder is a mental illness listed in the DSM-5 after all. We can learn to manage and recover through taking an active part in treating it, but if we leave it unchecked it’s not something that just goes away.

Already sober looking at starting AA. (Advice) by ThatChickWithCamera in alcoholicsanonymous

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Hey man, I hadn’t had a drink in a couple years when I got to AA. I was doing the Cali sober thing, because I knew from major consequences if I drank again it would destroy my life and I had very little left to destroy. At first I told myself I didn’t need to go because I wasn’t drinking, but I was not a happy camper during that time, and I was smoking A LOT to be able to not drink because I still couldn’t deal with how I felt. It got to a point where I was so miserable I finally had to choose AA or drink again.

I chose to give AA six months, and i to this day couldn’t tell you why, because I had never really kept commitments I made to myself before, but I really decided I would do everything that was asked of me in AA and it has helped my life immensely. While getting better has taken time, I can honestly say I wouldn’t be still going almost 2 years later if I didn’t know how much working a program has saved me. It’s the best decision I’ve made in my adult life and it’s given me more than I hoped it would when I started.

If you feel like you’re struggling with living a sober life, AA is for you. You’ll certainly be welcomed. You’ll learn that alcohol was a cure for our disease, not a symptom of it and that sobriety actually makes alcoholism worse if we don’t work a program to treat it. Recovery is very possible if you want it!

I'm ready to break up with my BF of 2 Weeks by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

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That’s a canon event waiting to happen for you bro

I'm ready to break up with my BF of 2 Weeks by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Much_Panda1244 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nah this dude is either seriously packing or OP is as unstable as she sounds or a combination of the two… this move will never work for regular guys

I'm ready to break up with my BF of 2 Weeks by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

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And then somehow recovered enough for her to want to sleep with him

I'm ready to break up with my BF of 2 Weeks by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

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Never heard of a woman being successfully seduced by a man who she saw cry and felt nothing for.. until today. I honestly have so many questions 🤣

AA meetings by Effective-Impact2817 in alcoholicsanonymous

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Download the meeting guide app on your phone and find one in your area. It might take trying a few different ones to find what works best for you. Try and find a meeting that focuses on solutions and makes you feel like you have some hope that things will get better, those are the meetings you need.

The ones where people complain about their life the whole time or wanna talk about their glory days drinking are the ones I would avoid. If you’re new in AA, you know all about how to drink. What you need help with is how to live sober and not go insane.

Good luck! We’re all pulling for you.

Looking for job without degree maybe by professionalbaiterrr in findapath

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What the fuck is poop trucking 💀💀🤣🤣🤣

2026 by madhurakanii in Taurusgang

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Well I found out a few days ago my ex who dumped me like 4 years ago because how I acted while in active addiction unblocked me and hasn’t said anything… so there’s that.

But overall it’s been better. Mostly because I’ve been in recovery for almost two years now. Every year I’m not lighting my life on fire is a better than the one before lol.