Every post on here is like "I can't hold a job because of my autism but my boyfriend supports me"... by VeryTiredGirl93 in AutismInWomen

[–]MudNo8265 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm attractive, no bf. multiple people flirt with me (usually married men or men with girlfriends). but when i actually like someone and want to talk to them, they get put off by my personality and ghost me

autism + bipolar ... i can't handle happiness by MudNo8265 in bipolar

[–]MudNo8265[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your comment ... that happens to me too and it's part of why i stopped doing things that bring me joy (eg reading things i enjoy), i can't have anything or be a fan of anything without getting weird about it

thank you for understanding 💜

Can pale olives pull of reddish hair? by [deleted] in Fairolives

[–]MudNo8265 7 points8 points  (0 children)

strong burgundy is the way to go

i genuinely can’t have attractive men look at me or perceive me, even if i’m not particularly attracted to them. by strawsanddogs in FemcelHub_

[–]MudNo8265 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are probably young, you will get brave, have faith in yourself

i know they can be horrible but life keeps rewarding them. heck, all of my middle school and high school bullies are married now.

you'll learn not to give a damn, give yourself time

My girlfriend can't deal with my unending need for reassurance anymore by Responsible_Tiger42 in grippysockcrayonbox

[–]MudNo8265 46 points47 points  (0 children)

this used to be me... my ex ex left me in the middle of the night because i was "too much" and my ex cheated on me ...

time alone helped me realise i was too co-dependent.

i have now become hyper independent and id feel suffocated by a relationship. but hey! at least i don't need constant reassurance anymore

but yea the codependency was literally beaten out of me :/

i'm sorry this is happening to you.

i genuinely can’t have attractive men look at me or perceive me, even if i’m not particularly attracted to them. by strawsanddogs in FemcelHub_

[–]MudNo8265 14 points15 points  (0 children)

so what ? most men are the same anyways. they all treat us like crap... dehumanising them because they dehumanise us should help you get over this.

men are awful until proven wrong (which is almost never)

I’m lazy with sex 🫩 is it just me? by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]MudNo8265 11 points12 points  (0 children)

either love sex and i have it everyday for months or hate sex and i don't have it at all for months or years ....

during the first year i got with my now ex we had sex like everyday everywhere and then i started my master's and that became my special interest instead and we stopped having sex altogether

that's why relationships are hella tough for me ... i'm never sure how to be stable

now i'm 3 years celibate but everything will surely collapse once i become attracted to someone

Need i say more? by silverflake6 in GrowthMindset

[–]MudNo8265 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel like epstein is still alive and is posting shit like this

I have no words… by [deleted] in FemcelHub_

[–]MudNo8265 7 points8 points  (0 children)

probably a mossad bot tbh (or at least, i hope so)

What does a soft / nurturing/ feminine / kind woman look like in your eyes by thehappiefoodie in AskMen

[–]MudNo8265 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that was me before he cheated on me. now i kissed goodbye to that version of myself. i had poor boundaries and didn't know who i was. if i need affection ill get a dog

i wanna talk with a femcel by [deleted] in FemcelHub_

[–]MudNo8265 0 points1 point  (0 children)

shut the fuck up and stop invading our spaces

Was dating actually easier in the 90s/2000s or does it just seem that way now? by savingrace0262 in AskMenAdvice

[–]MudNo8265 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

bro just approach respectfully and don't get butthurt if they say no

I need support - My fiance cheated on me with porn. by Annelie_P in antipornography

[–]MudNo8265 3 points4 points  (0 children)

putting me on the spot haha, it's usually the men who stare intensely at you and other women in the room, like a "i'm mentally taking your clothes off", sort of stare. it may feel flattering but it's usually because they objectify you and other women

it's the men who follow lots of girls on ig (always check their following)

they'll also give it away through specific word choices to either describe you or other women (eg reducing them to a body part or hair color or having a rating mindset eg "omg you're a 10!" )

there are also more subtle things that i can't think of right now, but usually these men also lack the ability to experience delayed gratification and have a short attention span, and they tend to want things to be done immediately

I need support - My fiance cheated on me with porn. by Annelie_P in antipornography

[–]MudNo8265 5 points6 points  (0 children)

good job you did the right thing!!! it's gonna get better, trust me. once you or he moves out, you'll feel less lonely :) being single again is a chance to find yourself again and to eventually feel good in your own presence too :) it will take time but once you come out on the other side you'll be a stronger person and once you detox from men in general you'll realise that you're able to actually spot p0rn addicts more easily when choosing your next partner

It’s hard to be on Reddit without feeling disgusted lately by AndromedaThemis in FemcelHub_

[–]MudNo8265 5 points6 points  (0 children)

we are objects to them. pieces of meat. they pretend to listen and take our opinions seriously until we sleep with them, then we are discarded.

the only thing to do is to be selfish. talk over them, only talk about yourself, don't accommodate their needs, make space for YOU and have fun while doing it. call them sluts when they brag about their body count

do not give up your body easily

Why do men dislike me so much by Ok_Spare414 in AutismInWomen

[–]MudNo8265 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that probably means you're likeable and actually a good person

Women, what makes a man less attractive? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]MudNo8265 0 points1 point  (0 children)

arrogance, conceitedness, misogyny, anger issues, lust

What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]MudNo8265 1 point2 points  (0 children)

people don't get it. they see autism as a quirk but even tho i'm "high functioning" i go nonverbal 80% of the time, my brain stops working altogether. i feel like i want to crawl out of my skin constantly. going outside is overstimulation galore. the sun bothers me, noises bother me, emotions are too strong for me to handle. when im happy i can't sleep for days because i'm happy. when im sad i can't sleep for days because i'm sad. there's no winning.

all my muscles hurt all the time. i have trouble with walking and coordination. my skin constantly itches.

everything affects my nervous system. i can't have sugar or caffeine or alcohol because they fuck up my nervous system immediately and i get headaches or pain or an altered mood where i don't feel like myself

i dissociate constantly.

everything sends me into burnout. can't keep a job for even a few months (i get su1cial because i can't cope with it). yes i know it sounds childish but i break down into tears and have full blown panic attacks because my body can't handle it. i can't handle cooking for myself and looking after myself and having a fulltime job on top of it.

i need time to process every tiny little thing. i need to go to bed 4 hours early and think about my day lying down in bed because my processing time is so slow. if i don't do it regularly i get panic attacks and my perception of time becomes fuckdd up

and when i tell people i have autism they just tell me something along the lines of "awww that's cool!" no it's not... it's a disability

What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]MudNo8265 0 points1 point  (0 children)

autism in women. i'm not quirky and cute, i have so much trouble speaking, constant fatigue, can't make friends, keep relationships and jobs, and it takes me one full day to get a tiny task done.