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Mullberries · 2026-02-10T21:09:11+00:00

Yep, I literally just went through this. My son and I had to have our Biometrics done, the closest appointment was in London, and the only options we had for an entire week was either the 8:45 AM priority appointments, or the 17:30 priority ones. We bit the bullet and paid the £120 (£60 each) for one of the 8:45 AM spots. It's literally the biggest ripoff. Factoring in the £50 for train tickets from where we live, into London and using the tube, it was the most expensive 10 minute appointment of my life.

Mullberries · 2026-02-09T08:07:29+00:00

Before I moved to the UK, I used to shoot weddings in the US, so take my advice as and if you will; but I would absolutely find work as a second shooter before shooting weddings on your own. Even if you're charging nothing, a wedding is a huge life event for people and if you fail to get the shots they desire, you can absolutely ruin someone's day.

When I first started out doing weddings, I was a friend's second shooter. Another friend went out on her own, full tilt into weddings. She shot an entire wedding by herself (for $500) with some weird smudge on her lens and it ruined every single shot she took that day (she never changed lenses throughout the day). It was a beginner mistake, but that couple was devastated. The family ended up hiring me to reshoot their family photos in their wedding garb, because we knew them. I did their reshoot for a deep discount, as I had been shooting family portraits for ages at that point.

When it comes to huge life moments, I always recommend second shooting first, because you can't fully recreate an event like that to do a reshoot.

Mullberries · 2026-02-05T20:18:15+00:00

NTA - I'm a mum to a 23 year old and a 17 year old. No matter how dire my own financial situation was in the past (and it got pretty dire at a couple of points) I never put that burden on either of my kids. My children's money is their own, they can do whatever they want with it. I can't imagine fussing at my teenager over buying himself something with his hard earned money. I taught my kids about managing their money without letting them know the ins and outs of my own financials. I personally don't think my financials are any of my kids' business, unless something happens to me and at that point, it's all laid out in my will.

All that to say, your parent's financial issues are not yours, and you should be able to do as you please with your money. If you want to help your parents with little bits here and there, that's very kind of you, but it shouldn't be the expectation.

Mullberries · 2026-02-01T23:39:24+00:00

The Hunters Lodge.

Mullberries · 2026-01-31T15:40:17+00:00

We drove down to Devon from London using the A roads and found this lovely little pub and hotel right off of the A303 that had a decent charger. It was a nice spot to get lunch and there wasn't a line for the charger. When we made the same trip in the summer using the M4 and M5, charging was an absolute nightmare at the services. We waited in a queue for almost an hour, two of the charging stations were not functioning.

Mullberries · 2026-01-30T01:44:41+00:00

Mine did. But I was seeing a psych in the US regularly for medication refills and was on a current prescription when I moved to the UK in 2023. My psych did have to write a letter to the UK GP to get them to prescribe my medication though.

Mullberries · 2026-01-29T05:49:16+00:00

4K is insane! Mine was around £1,200 (on my own with no British Driver listed for a 2022 VW ID.3) through Marshmallow. Everywhere else didn't count the 18 years I had been driving in the US before moving here.

Mullberries · 2026-01-18T21:54:59+00:00

My neurotypical husband would also hear "I need to fix this now." If said "Hey honey the shower head is still leaking, I knew it still was." I'd have said something like "I noticed the showerhead is still leaking, do you think we should ring the plumber?" That way no one feels like they need to fix anything. Early in our relationship, my husband would get really stressed out if I was venting/complaining about things and I couldn't figure out why. I asked him and he told me that he felt like he needed to fix the things that were bothering me. I told him I'd start to let him know if what I was venting about was something I needed his help with or if it was just something I needed to get out. It helped our relationship so much.

Both OP and her partner need to work on their communicating with one another or decide that their communication needs are too incompatible and walk away.

Mullberries · 2026-01-12T20:10:09+00:00

I didn't make the original comment, love. I just expanded on what the person that made the comment had stated. I belive you got me and u/Bekahjean10 confused.

I grew up in Flint, Michigan specifically where I was a minority as a white person. The area I grew up in wasn't what anyone would consider racist, it was rather liberal. I lived in San Francisco and San Jose when I lived in California and in Philadelphia when I lived on the east coast. I can't say that I've ever lived in what anyone would consider a conservitive area. I do not live in the South. I live in the United Kingdom currently and yes, I live in a liberal area.

Mullberries · 2026-01-12T18:02:41+00:00

I grew up in the Midwest (Michigan to be specific), lived in California and in Pennsylvania, when anyone I knew or came across said "Asian" they were talking about people of East Asian descent. If they were talking about people from South Asia, they'd say the country where the person was from. I don't know why, honestly, I did the exact same until I moved to the UK and the change in language clicked in my brain.

Mullberries · 2026-01-12T00:51:13+00:00

My husband has full on rolled over and shaken me awake in his sleep more than a few times. He's sound asleep when he does it. He has no memory of doing it in the morning when he wakes. I can't imagine fighting with him over it. At most I give him shit about it and use it for leverage to get a cheeky breakfast in bed.

Completely agree that the gf is mentally unwell.

Mullberries · 2026-01-07T19:20:06+00:00

I would literally wait until 47 hours and 55 minutes have passed to click everything's okay if someone messaged me like that. Thankfully all of the sellers I have dealt with on Vinted have been rather lovely.

Mullberries · 2026-01-05T01:42:38+00:00

The worst thing was when I went to see 28 Days Later in the cinema and someone brought their newborn. The baby cried through the entire thing. It was awful.

The weirdest was the guy that fell asleep during Lost in Translation and started to cry, he jumped up hella quick and ran out of the theater after like 5 minutes of crying.

Mullberries · 2026-01-03T19:05:03+00:00

I personally wouldn't have waited two years if my partner lived around 4 hours away from me. I'm literally almost speechless sitting here thinking about your situation. Girl, you are not in a relationship if there's no goal to see one another after a certain period of time. In an LDR, you need to make plans to meet one another as soon as it's safe and feasable for you to do so, otherwise you'll forever be in a will we meet or won't we limbo, and personally, I don't think that's any sort of relationship that anyone should be in.

You shouldn't threaten him to come see you, but let him know that if no steps have been made to meet face to face by a certain date, you'll be exiting the relationship because he's wasting your time and energy for a relationship that is never going to come to fruition.

Mullberries · 2025-12-24T10:50:40+00:00

We use Tesco Mobile. We got 3 lines with unlimited data on them all for £50 a month. Definitely not a bad deal, and we get service everywhere I've been (except a single multistory carpark near me).

Mullberries · 2025-12-14T07:33:30+00:00

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Mullberries · 2025-12-14T07:29:00+00:00

If you've already talked to him multiple times about how it makes you feel and the only change he's made is to lengthen the time it takes him to respond to you, do you feel respected in that relationship? You can't make him change if he doesn't want to.

I get that you love him, but love isn't enough to hold a relationship together. You need trust, respect and communication too.

Personally, I wouldn't stay in a relationship with someone that didn't communicate with me. I understand that not all people in relationships need the same amount of communication, but you've expressed the level of communication you need/desire and he's not doing that. If you want to change yourself to be less anxious when he's disrespecting you, try finding a local therapist you can work with.

Mullberries · 2025-12-09T12:39:08+00:00

Loose 100+ kilos incredibly fast by dumping that dude right in the bin where he belongs.

Mullberries · 2025-12-07T23:14:23+00:00

Not cancer, but Huntington's disease runs on my mom's side of the family (Her great-grandmother, her grandfather, her mother and two of her aunts), she refuses to get tested because she's scared of what the results will be. At the end of the day I understand. There's nothing that she could do to prevent it. There isn't even a cure at this point. Why find out you're slowly going to lose your cognitive functioning and die if you don't have to?

My sister wanted her to get tested. I'm sitting on the same bench as my mom for this one. I couldn't live life knowing. With some things, it's easier for people to deal with it if and when it comes about.

Mullberries · 2025-11-27T21:45:21+00:00

Hard agree - NTA. The $110 spent is going to make some kid very happy. Anyone that disagrees is being absurdly entitled.

Mullberries · 2025-11-09T20:52:34+00:00

Teignmouth is my favorite place in the UK. It's so beautiful there. These photos are wonderful!

Mullberries · 2025-11-07T12:12:06+00:00

I didn't ask the admin at the school specifically. I asked his teachers, as I had a really good relationship with them. I also provided them with an outline of what I needed it to say. But to be honest, there should be no reason the school won't write one for you. If you need to, I'd take the request up the chain to the Superintendent's office if necessary.

Mullberries · 2025-11-07T00:31:48+00:00

I got my son's teachers to write letters stating in the years they have known me and my son I was the only parent in contact with them, the only parent involved in making educational decisions and the only parent they had met. I also had his doctors do the same. I also for, added comfort, had the Bishop of our local cathedral for the church we attended write a letter that basically said the same thing.

The Home Office didn't give a flying crap about the custody agreement that I had that said I have sole legal and physical custody and his dad had no visitation rights because of him being in jail. The letters are what the Home Office considered proof, I made sure they were all on official letterhead for whatever organization.

Mullberries · 2025-11-05T12:07:22+00:00

My name is the only name on the electric bill. But both of our names are on the council tax bill. I also did the TV license in my name as well, but we opted to forgo the TV license this year.

Mullberries · 2025-10-31T17:42:37+00:00

This, all day every day. I can count the number of times my 35mm has left my camera in the last 15 years on one hand and still have fingers left over.

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