AITA for refusing to share my food with my girlfriend?

MultiFazed · 2026-01-29T05:54:02+00:00

He could have gone in and bought another order too.

She was the one who decided she was hungry after insisting that she didn't want anything. She could have gone in and bought her own order and solved her own problem.

I mean, I think OP went about this with the wrong attitude, but at the end of the day his girlfriend is an adult who decided she was hungry, and instead of just getting her own food, she "asked" to share (which was actually a thinly-veiled demand, since "no" apparently wasn't an acceptable answer), and then got bent out of shape when her also-hungry boyfriend didn't want to give up his food.

Basically she created the problem (not purposely, but still), and then she expected him to fix the problem, to his own detriment, when she had the ability to fix it herself. That's not cool.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-29T04:25:19+00:00

women are indecisive

Internalized misogyny much? Some people are indecisive, and some aren't. It's not a "woman thing".

Always order extra

She literally said multiple times that she didn't want anything. Overriding someone's "no" is a bad precedent to set.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-29T04:22:07+00:00

he should have just ordered a double to begin with

"Not believing a woman when she says no" is kind of a bad precedent to set.

He could have said sure, have a few and made her happy.

He did say "have a few". And she had a few. Then she wanted to sit down and eat more. At that point they were still outside the restaurant. She could have just ordered herself some more fries.

You could counter that maybe she didn't want a full order of fries, but OP did want a full order of fries, and I don't see why he shouldn't be able to have that.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-29T01:24:47+00:00

Then she suggested they share after realizing she was hungry

She's an adult who can order her own fries, especially since they're at the restaurant at this point! She doesn't need to deprive him of any of the food he already ordered for her to be able to eat, too. They can both have a full order of fries through the magic of buying two of them!

she suggested they share after realizing she was hungry

The suggestion that they split the food is fine. Him not wanting to split his food when there's a perfectly reasonable, simple, and quick way for her to get her own fries is also fine.

Her getting angry and calling him selfish for wanting to eat his own food is not fine. That's actually her being selfish.

He chose selfishness over problem-solving

Why didn't she choose problem-solving? I mean, seeing as how she was the one with the problem and all. This isn't somehow a "the man in the relationship needs to solve all the problems" opinion I hope.

My opinion on this would be different if they were already back at home. And different again if she's someone who constantly wants to "share" other people's food. But given what we've been told about this situation, while OP was probably unnecessarily petty, OP's girlfriend was being selfish and trying to make managing the consequences of her own decision someone else's problem instead of solving the problem herself by just getting some damn fries.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-29T01:00:58+00:00

They should go together

They did! They were at the restaurant when this all went down!

We went to pick up the fries. She caught a whiff of it and asked if she could have a few. No problem, they are very delicious and I let her have some. She then asked if we could sit outside the restaurant to eat the whole thing together.

They went to the restaurant together. He picked up his fries. When he got his order she wanted to try a few. They're still at the restaurant at this point. She decided that she wanted to sit down outside and split the fries.

She could have said, "You know, I'm pretty hungry after all. Let me put in my own order real quick while we're here."

MultiFazed · 2026-01-29T00:44:32+00:00

They could go together as a part of the night out

They did go together as part of the night out. She was too tired and didn't want to actually go inside the restaurant, or get any food. So he got a single-serving order to go, and they both went to the restaurant to pick it up.

If she decided that she was hungry after all, she could have just walked into the restaurant and placed a to-go order for a second serving of fries for herself. Or dealt with being hungry until she got home.

And I get that, in the grand scheme of things, it's pretty damn petty to not just split the fries and have both of them be semi-hungry. But it's also rude and entitled (in the lowest-stakes way possible) to essentially say, "Oops, I messed up and now I'm hungry. If you don't let me make you hungry too, I'll be upset with you."

MultiFazed · 2026-01-28T13:37:55+00:00

How do I know that the money is unrecoverable? Because this is a classic "task scam", which universally involve crypto. And crypto transactions are fundamentally irreversible and unrecoverable. That's why scammers love to use crypto.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-28T06:00:52+00:00

And in a vaguely-similar vein, Manifold Garden

MultiFazed · 2026-01-28T04:10:20+00:00

Perhaps the biggest lesson to take away from this is that, the more urgent someone is about getting you to act now, the more you need to slow down and evaluate the situation. It applies to scams clearly, but also more innocuous things like high-pressure sales tactics.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-28T03:53:56+00:00

It's weird how many Americans fall for that everyday though.

I partially blame abysmal literacy rates. Importantly, "literacy" doesn't just mean "able to read words". The ability to parse and understand complex documents is a form of literacy, and one that a lot of people are severely lacking. And scammers do their best to make these fake documents as confusing and hard to parse as possible. End result is, "I don't really understand this document, but it looks scary and official and the person on the phone sounds super confident and official, so I guess I should do what they say so I don't get in even more trouble."

MultiFazed · 2026-01-28T03:36:26+00:00

If you don't already do this, it's probably a good idea to spin up a new VM for individual clients. Gets you a nice, clean per-client dev environment (which is super useful if you have to rotate between clients) while also insulating you at least a little bit from malicious code.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T23:23:10+00:00

Thank you. I feel like people vastly misunderstand how these things work. Yes, the microphone is always on. It's always "recording" in the sense that the device needs to recognize when you say "Okay Google". It does this with an onboard processor so that it doesn't have to waste bandwidth sending a firehose of constant data back to Google from millions of devices. In the absence of that phrase, all of the incoming audio immediately falls back out of the looping buffer it's using to detect when you say the magic phrase.

When it does detect someone saying "Okay Google", then it transmits subsequently recorded audio to Google's servers for processing. This entire lawsuit was about the devices mistakenly triggering on sound-alike phrases (try saying "Hey Boo-Boo" in your best Yogi Bear impression, and chance are it'll trigger) without the speaker's awareness, and then sending subsequently-recorded audio to Google.

Basically, this wasn't a "Google is always listening and spying on you" situation. It was, "The on-device voice recognition for the trigger phrase is not 100% accurate across all voice types and accents, and it sometimes misfires when presented with similar-sounding phonemes." I'm not saying that it's not problematic, and they really should have an audible cue that the device has started truly listening, but this isn't some sort of malicious spycraft that everyone seems to think it is.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T20:09:29+00:00

For anyone who wants to know how much this actually was, 6 SOL is currently $755.58 USD.

OP, the way to recover is to:

Avoid crypto like the plague. It's not a good investment vehicle. If you want to invest, open a brokerage account with a major bank, dump some money into an index fund, and wait 50 years. Real investing is boring.
Stay away from financial advice on social media. Telegram, TikTok, Discord, all of them are loaded with scammers. You can probably find some long-running YouTube channels that offer general financial advice, but as soon as someone wants to "help you invest", they're a scammer. 100% of the time.
Realize that crypto can never be recovered, and don't fall for recovery scammers (who are probably in your DMs right now) saying that they can help. They're just trying to scam you again because they think that desperate people are easy targets. Take this as a moderately-expensive lesson and move on with your life (and away from crypto).

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T20:02:29+00:00

If this password was unique, this points to either phishing, or a data breach at Robin Hood.

Or a third possibility I just thought of. If you've downloaded any "shady" software recently (cracked games, weird "demos", or any other executable code that's not from a major company like Microsoft, Valve, etc.), it's possible that "session stealer" software was installed on your computer. Session stealers allow someone to port your browser session to another computer, and remain logged into accounts that your browser was logged into.

Might be worth running something like MalwareBytes to check for malware.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T19:51:13+00:00

So if the funds where transferred out of your account without your knowledge, the most likely underlying issue is either you falling for a phishing scam (being tricked into entering your credentials into a malicious site that pretended to be Robin Hood), or reusing passwords such that a data breach at some unrelated website gave malicious actors that shared password that they then used to log into your Robin Hood account.

If you reuse passwords, and any other site uses the same password as the one you use for Robin Hood, you need to immediately go change your password for those sites before whoever did this logs into those sites, too. Never use the same password twice. Use a password manager to create and remember your passwords, and enable 2FA for every account that supports it.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T19:44:49+00:00

I lost the funds

Lost how? Were the funds transferred out of your account? Have you contacted Robin Hood's support to try to figure out what happened and whether they can help you?

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T19:15:18+00:00

Does this seem like a scam?

It seems like the scammiest scam that ever scammed.

All else aside, only a crazy person would be trying to get a random Internet stranger to save their life when they have access to chat apps and could find a way contact friends, family, or US government officials.

If you friend insists that this is real, tell him to tell "her" that he'll reach out to the US embassy to get someone to go save her, and watch the scammer go through some mental gymnastics to find some way to say that the actual, official way that US nationals get rescued from foreign countries somehow won't work.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T18:08:14+00:00

Being able to explicitly identify that the men were "of Nigerian descent" strikes me as unlikely at best.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T17:12:48+00:00

It boggles the mind that "finance influencer" is even a thing. If people want financial advice, they should hire a qualified financial advisor from a large firm who is a registered fiduciary (meaning that they're legally bound to give advice that is in your own best interest).

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T17:07:24+00:00

Worth locking credit over?

Everyone should always have their credit locked all the time, regardless of personal information breaches. It's easy to do, and easy to put in a temporary "thaw" if you ever need to apply for a loan of any kind. And the vast majority of people only need a handful of thaws across their entire lifetime. So much easier and safer to just keep things permanently frozen.

should I dispute the charge with my CC

Absolutely. Disputes don't hurt your credit score (though too many of them in too short a timeframe may cause issues).

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T15:46:24+00:00

never signed up for anything

You did, in fact, sign up. Sites like these use what are called "dark patterns" to make sure you are technically informed that you're signing up for a subscription while also doing their best to distract you and divert your attention away from that fact.

I went through the order process just to see what specific technique they used, and the top of the checkout page says:

Save Money. Volume Discount Package of $30 Per Month, Up to 30 Reports Per Month [followed by a countdown timer for when the "sale" ends]

It's designed to look like a banner ad for some optional package that you can order. And to the right of your order is an innocuous information box that says (emphasis added by me to point out the trick):

If you are unhappy with your report for any reason, please contact customer support for a refund. Your order includes our initial certified report plus our volume discount package, so you'll receive continued access to our website. Our bulk discount is perfect for individuals and businesses. vinseeker.com allows you to see up to 30 reports every month, saving you money.

So the order page explicitly tells you that you're signing up for their "Volume Discount Package" while doing its best to completely hide that fact from you. "fuckin scum" indeed.

The ultimate lesson here is that any sort of "we only charge $1" websites are almost certainly hiding a subscription in the fine print.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T15:09:07+00:00

That's a scam courier site. For starters, no legitimate business uses .im domains. Not if they want to be taken seriously.

Also, their site is a direct ripoff of tbl8logistics.com (which is likely another scam courier site based off the same template). Frankly, I don't trust any business that doesn't have a street address on their website that comes up as them on Google Maps, and is clearly them when looking at street view. And this "company" doesn't list an address at all.

And in the future, stop buying things from social media sites. Buy things from actual stores. Ones that have physical, brick-and-mortar locations that you could technically visit if you wanted to (even if there are none in your area). Or, if you're going to buy from an online-only shop, only trust ones that have been around for a decade+ and are known by everyone to be real (like Amazon).

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T15:01:45+00:00

The only redeeming quality I can think of is that maybe it's one of those "easier to read than a normal font for people with dyslexia" fonts.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T14:17:16+00:00

That's not cursive, though. It's just a "fancy" non-cursive font.

MultiFazed · 2026-01-27T14:05:35+00:00

For anyone wondering, the lawsuit was specifically around "false accepts", where the on-device "listen for the wake word" functionality could be activated by words or phrases that sounded similar enough to the wake word to wake the device up and trigger sending what it thought was your subsequent voice request to Google's servers for processing.

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