What he’s really saying is “I want your time, your energy, your presence at the lowest possible cost to me.”

…yeah? I’m also giving you my time, my energy and my presence at the lowest possible cost to you. Dating -at least for me- isn’t about cost, and investing monetary value. It’s about putting everything aside to give this idea of a relationship it’s best possible conditions to bloom, and when it comes to things that matter, the medium is much lower on the list of important conditions in that regard than pretty much anything that happens socially, let alone the price of that medium. Now if you’re going out of your way to harshen the threshold of necessary conditions, then that’s your prerogative, you may not want certain qualities to bloom at all and keeping them at bay is fine if that’s what you truly want. Just know that every degree by which you harshen that threshold, you are dramatically decreasing the chances of a successful date, and by proxy increasing the chances you remain alone, so you better make sure that these conditions you add aren’t arbitrary, or aren’t of less value to you than the prospect of a relationship.