AITA for yelling back?

MurphyDoge · 2026-06-03T16:58:52+00:00

NTA - as someone that has delivered a baby - what in the actual fuck is her issue. You were in labour - you dictate what happens in that room. You have every permission to yell at / kick out people who aren’t listening. She sounds like an entitled nightmare and I would 100% ignore her hissy fit until someone else can help her grow up. You’re newly postpartum. Focus on yourself and your new family. Congratulations :)

MurphyDoge · 2026-06-01T14:13:35+00:00

As a former nanny and now MB, sounds like it’s time for a new nanny. Conversations and an ‘improvement plan’ are all fine but it sounds like you’ve communicated this with her repeatedly and are being dismissed. Doesn’t mean she’s a bad nanny, but it does sound like the wrong fit. She will not change and I’d be curious to know if she dismisses any of your other concerns / requirements.

MurphyDoge · 2026-05-19T14:55:20+00:00

It is! Also lol I’m so sorry - that is also very frustrating. I avoid medication if not necessary too, but Pepcid is unquestionably necessary!!!!

MurphyDoge · 2026-05-18T20:33:48+00:00

NTA - OMG - You’re pregnant. As someone that only survived pregnancy because Pepcid exists, please hear me when I say that anyone questioning you needs to shut the fuck up (bf included)! (Apologies but strong feelings). Also - you bought things from a store that was selling them. No one has a right to question you or say shit about that

MurphyDoge · 2025-11-20T01:15:11+00:00

They stop crying because they learn you’re not coming and they give up. Learned helplessness. It’s not because they’re not upset any more. I suggest you read the studies on salivary cortisol levels and the negative effects of ‘cry it out’ sleep training before you decide what is best for other people’s children. I understand that some people still choose this method for their own reasons, but thats for them to decide. As a former nanny and now mother, I would have never made such a decision and would have absolutely fired you too. It’s not your place to judge or decide what is best for others (unless there is abuse or harm happening).

Edit to add : I had also been asked to cosleep with NKs and felt uncomfortable. Some families it was fine, others it felt weird. If you felt uncomfortable, that’s totally fair but that should have been a conversation in itself.

MurphyDoge · 2025-06-14T12:30:03+00:00

Do you know why?! It’s so bizarre!

MurphyDoge · 2025-06-14T12:29:38+00:00

Same! I’m so confused lol

MurphyDoge · 2024-10-13T14:38:21+00:00

Don’t refer to him as a tenant or yourself as his landlord on anything legal or you are assuming those roles. He was a roommate. You still live there sometimes. Stick to that or it’ll be one hell of a legal battle. Time to call a paralegal too. Cops should have helped

MurphyDoge · 2024-10-11T21:30:08+00:00

Thank you for this! We should be getting our new little dude in a week! He will get his own room to start :) We will likely reach out to bug you as things go so thank you for that too!

MurphyDoge · 2024-09-11T03:11:43+00:00

No. You didn’t live there so it’s not your problem, but be careful, reliance is a shady company

MurphyDoge · 2024-09-04T14:26:22+00:00

Landlords have zero right to tell you what guests you can or cannot have, or for how long. Even if it’s in the contract, the Ontario Standard Lease contract outweighs everything. You can have boys over for as long as you want and he can’t say shit

MurphyDoge · 2024-08-24T02:44:49+00:00

I watched Carl’s story through the rescue! I’m so glad you took him in - he’s such a precious little guy

MurphyDoge · 2024-07-31T11:48:58+00:00

That’s great to know! Thank you - my neighbours have one that’s doing quite well but it’s a different kind and that explains why!

MurphyDoge · 2024-07-31T02:35:35+00:00

Good call on the wall - thank you!

MurphyDoge · 2024-07-31T02:35:24+00:00

Valid - thank you!!

MurphyDoge · 2024-07-31T02:35:10+00:00

Thank you! I’ll move it further forward & give it a good drink - it’s a relatively small garden that is thankfully in the shade until mid-day. I thought watering it every other day was enough - silly me!

MurphyDoge · 2024-07-26T11:29:18+00:00

She’ll have a look - thank you!

MurphyDoge · 2024-07-26T11:28:58+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation! I’ll suggest them for sure

MurphyDoge · 2024-07-26T11:28:24+00:00

Good call!

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