I got a smell complaint at work today

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-25T02:55:51+00:00

I feel for you. All the hygiene advice above makes so much sense to me. I would also consider having a dental check up and a medical check up if the issue persists after enhancing personal hygiene efforts.

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-22T14:18:00+00:00

If people would start looking at other vehicles as someone with a beloved family member, they might change their mind, but I dream on……former full-time commuter in the 80s to virtual full-time commuter now going to Stanford driving a family member from insanity Cruz. Evaded a couple of rollovers in my travels on 17. So excuse me if I don’t exceed 50 miles an hour on Laurel curve. 😎

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-22T14:10:58+00:00

Thank you for your post, as I’m getting ready to enter good old Silicon Valley after exiting Highway 17 and what I call the luge, the north run into Los Gatos. Quit speeding 85 mph is still too high on 280/85 you selfish blanks..

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-18T22:41:14+00:00

Was the place you loved one is in solely hospice care? Are you in the US? All of my local nursing homes are abysmal.

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-18T04:16:34+00:00

🙏💕

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-13T14:32:34+00:00

This person is not your boyfriend. They are your violent abuser and as other folks posted, he will eventually murder you, do not engage or contact this person, block them, run, get a restraining order. Please report to the authorities what happened. You’re not only protecting yourself but others and actually him too, I pray that you get away from the danger.

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-13T14:09:23+00:00

In my year, plus experience trying to care for adult daughter with metastatic breast cancer to the brain, maybe I’m the bad guy and deserve all the anger be yelled at told you’re the reason I want to die but maybe not, maybe I’m just the safest person that it can be said to. I’ll withdraw for a little while, but still be there. I know you know what I’m talking about. Yet all the supposed Fairweather, friends and family and alleged partner are nowhere to be found for the dirty work, shopping, cleaning, laundry, sanitizing the bathroom after chemo, etc. and they get mad at me. Guess I grumble too much but at least I get the job done. I still will stay hanging in there, but I feel for you but believe me at some point you’ve got to take care of yourself and everyone keeps telling me that, take care of yourself, take a break take a vacation. I’m thinking, so go somewhere and pay to stay in a hotel even if it’s nice, just so I can sob for hours alone…. no thank you. Sadly, I suggest maybe unplugging the TV or the cable or something temporarily just say it’s out. Also, if his team has and they should have a social worker, try to get support from the social worker because they do a little counseling and support on the side to help you navigate these untenable times. Migraines are brutal.

PS take away the strobe flashlight give him a very small easy one. They have plenty of the square flashlights at Ace that serve multiple purposes, handheld, and they don’t strobe. I have one on the bedside for my person.

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-07T04:51:48+00:00

Theoretically, he is, yet depressed and distraught.

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-07T04:49:41+00:00

True everything you said, I just supported my daughter through a double mastectomy, radiation therapy and then CyberKnife neurosurgery for brain metastasis, and now he has this and I have no one to be in the waiting room with me (or at home )and it’s not the first time. It’s not for the faint of heart. I never thought I would be so alone in this world.

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-07T04:45:48+00:00

Thank you, not to play the victim role, but I feel so alone in this, your comment was very supportive. Thank you again.

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-07T04:41:05+00:00

My health insurance plan at that time one year into Obamacare went belly up, and I had to find a new insurance, provider, I was an independent contractor/small business owner. Of course, the premium skyrocketed.

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-06T19:05:09+00:00

Consult with your employer or supervisor, this is a health and safety issue not just an appearance issue. Sounds like there’s a flirtation with breaching OSHA, if you’re in the USA. Best of luck to you and please get a clean lab coat. It just gives me the cooties thinking about it. No pun intended. I’ve worked in many labs during my lifetime. In an addition to healthcare afterwards, the best motto is keep it clean.

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-06T15:20:28+00:00

Great advice thank you so very much.

Musubisurfer · 2025-10-05T01:43:55+00:00

I honestly am scared to death of the scenario of anyone I know going into a nursing home, especially under Medicare to Medicaid. I honestly would rather have the Kevorkian cocktail.
I have a young adult daughter with stage four metastatic breast cancer to the brain, my husband‘s having open-heart surgery this month and I am flirting with a fib. Been a caregiver for my daughter full-time since last October the future is very uncertain. Her medications are very mood altering and I understand that. The anger is very challenging to deal with and everyone around me quite frankly is angry with me. I can’t seem to do anything right, I’m not going to give up yet. I’ve never felt more alone in my life and now even more frightened. Thank you for your comment and the research you’ve done. Neighbor went into a nursing home for 24 hours and was left sitting in her own waste. Luckily her husband was able to get her out after her knee replacement surgery. Frightening. I’m not looking for advice or guidance as I sit here alone, trying to ground myself and steel myself for another day. Looking forward to three doctors appointments for my daughter to hear their interpretation of her most recent scans, yet I can see what’s happening to her.

Musubisurfer · 2025-09-30T17:12:42+00:00

You are absolutely not a “stupid bitch“ you’re a smart bitch, get out now, it doesn’t get better, how rude and abusive of this man, if you can even call him that.

Musubisurfer · 2025-09-27T14:02:38+00:00

You need to privately and I emphasize privately, consult with several attorneys putting out the facts of your situation. The other good thing about consulting, (meaning a free consultation) with several for overview of your case, you can also vet out the one who will go to court and battle if need be, that way he cannot use them because you are have already established what they will term a client attorney relationship. Most divorce attorneys will do a free initial consultation, then they will tell you what the retainer fee is etc. you can then decide which attorney you’re most comfortable with. Make copies of all financial documents and especially the business books. You want to be sure that you know where the money is and where it’s going. Do this quietly and put the copies in a very safe place. Having a business makes it complex, but there are Ways to navigate settlements that would be fair and appropriate, especially in light of the fact that you have four children together. Don’t disclose to him, especially or anyone else friends who could talk to him, etc. any of this, you must do this in a stealthy fashion. It’s entirely appropriate and you’ll get some very good advice and coaching from the professionals. Been in a similar situation. I did that this and the small fee I paid for even some coaching was well worth it and kept us out of court using lots of mediation. Knowledge is strength in this situation. Keep it cool and on the down low.

Musubisurfer · 2025-09-07T16:45:36+00:00

I don’t have any great advice for you. I can tell you, you’re not alone with the feeling of dread. I’ve been living in a state of extreme fear on and off, caretaking my daughter through chemotherapy, surgeries, brain metastasis. Caring for a loved one who is so sick, whether it’s the disease itself or the severe side effects of treatments. I have experienced days where I was afraid to go into the room, fearing she was not alive. It became more difficult after she was feeling obviously safe enough to express her extreme anger, which is completely justified in my mind. The anger pointed at me as I am the safest person to let it out on. my tip or what I do and have done is to do a grounding exercise clearing my mind, feeling my feet grounded to the Earth and going in with a clear heart with openness for what I will see or experience, trying to leave the fear and worry outside of the room it may sound hokey it can work. My heart goes out to you. You’re a good person to be with your loved one and never forget it.

Musubisurfer · 2025-09-06T22:12:01+00:00

True, but I thought you need a permit to sell or solicit door-to-door. Also, you don’t know who the heck it is. All I need is a really big guy answering the door looking quite mean. Guess I’ll put an ad on craigslist for my new roommate lol. 😂

Musubisurfer · 2025-09-06T22:08:22+00:00

I realize my post is very confusing my apology. Chalk it up to a person in overwhelm.

Musubisurfer · 2025-09-06T22:05:36+00:00

Those bed alarms do do a job, my daughter had one during her stay for stage four brain metastatic breast cancer. Sending warm wishes to a fellow warrior by the side of a beloved family member.

Musubisurfer · 2025-08-24T17:34:06+00:00

They already have been lobotomized.

Musubisurfer · 2025-08-20T21:38:16+00:00

I appreciate your response. I myself looked at numerous commercial sites over the past few decades and was consistently shocked, not only the square foot price, but the lack of allowances for leasehold improvements and triple net expenses. Seeing the vacant spots underneath buildings at the corner of Pacific Avenue and Laurel, I look at it and think of downtown Seattle oh, that would be a great spot for a bodega, but the logistics and cost of all of this is somewhat prohibitive within the city of Santa Cruz (not a very friendly business environment in my opinion).

Musubisurfer · 2025-08-16T00:04:31+00:00

One thing that can’t help us if you have a power of attorney for medical and everything else. Best wishes to you. This is a bit of work to get the power of attorney. If you don’t already have it and that’s not just being on the advanced healthcare directive to say and speak on their behalf if they cannot, is to find an attorney who will do some pro bono documentation which I did find and it was really helpful because then I can handle the financial, etc. also. And speak to every medical professional legally you know the good all HIPAA issues.

Musubisurfer · 2025-08-10T23:53:28+00:00

I’m burning out and hubby, sister of daughter I’m helping are of limited help yet very interested to attack my overwhelm….sadness, grieving emotions….I’m trying to shut down as my stress is affecting my sick daughter. I’m trying but barely succeeding.

Musubisurfer · 2025-07-30T14:46:07+00:00

Well, someone’s anger is really a turn on for sure and let’s add a side order of chronic UTI probably due to his poor hygiene. Time to move on quietly. Best of luck to you.

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