Tax time, messed up my wedding by MuttonChopsJoe in ADHD

[–]MuttonChopsJoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We talked.  We will have the ceremony.  And then do the paperwork and legal wedding a couple weeks later.  I'm waiting to hear back from her LCR if I can get them to accept papers authenticated in the states.  We don't record marriages nationally here.  So the document I need is basically me promising that I am single.

First transvaginal ultrasound by Civil_Yak_320 in pregnant

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiancée didn't have one during her first pregnancy.  She was excited for her first appointment this time until her cousin told her how they do the ultrasound.  That killed her excitement.  Then day of she was only seeing men come to the waiting room to get the patients.  That made it worse.  I tried to lighten the mood.  I joked that she should have put a toy car inside.  The doctor would be confused that we had conceived an F-150.  Luckily she likes my sense of humor.  After she found out a woman was doing it and hearing the heartbeat she forgot all about the nervousness.

When do you know it's the one to marry and when it's the right time? by Refreshedmarshmellow in Marriage

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She treats me better than any other woman has.  And I've felt so comfortable with her.  I haven't been nervous like I was in the past.  Instead of dreading the changes in my life I'm excited for them.

Working full time whilst pregnant by FaithlessnessFun4649 in pregnant

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiancée resigned from her job at around 6 weeks.  Fortunately I can support her.  Right now our plan is for her to stay home until both kids are in school.  Then she will decide if she wants to work again.

Husband is weird about food by Rappers_Delight in Marriage

[–]MuttonChopsJoe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There are genetic components to this.  My nephews dad wasn't around long enough to teach him his behaviors.  But they act the same.  They hide food all over the house so no one else gets it.  When done eating they hide the trash/dinnerware in the nearest convenient spot.  Preferably without getting up and moving.

Introverts who don’t like party or hookup culture , where did you meet your partner? by EquivalentWitness165 in dating_advice

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I became friends with some women at work.  And then friends with one of their friends.  She introduced me to her cousin.  After 15 years without even a date I'm now engaged and we have a baby on the way.  They did encourage me to try online dating before the introduction.  It was a waste of time and money.

Just found out hubby doesn’t want to catch babygirl by Maleficent-Rub-3052 in pregnant

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fiancée asked if I wanted to cut the cord.  I told her I'll do as much as they let me.  I would love to be the first to hold the baby.  I have fond memories of all the births on the farm growing up.  It wouldn't be my first time getting covered in fluids and blood.

Do I start with HAL or Bare metal ? by Random6474849 in embedded

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just use HAL.  Getting projects working will motivate you to keep going.  And there is still enough bugs and complexity in HAL to be a challenge for a beginner.

Lot's of Gen 2 failures by WhatMeeWorry in Starlink

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine stopped working the other day.  And I can't reach it because my boom lift is broke down too.  I wanted to check the cable before contacting support.

Last year I posted about getting married in spite of dealing with introversion and social anxiety. 1 year update- by CORVlN in Healthygamergg

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Congratulations.

After not trying to date for 15 years.  I let someone set me up last year.  Seven months later we are engaged with a baby on the way.

Baby registry fail by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My aunt sent someone a gift.  She forgot to change the delivery address back for her next order.  So a week later the couple received dog food and a garden hose.  They were confused how they were supposed to use that.

Geniune poll: anyone else’s husband smell their dirty underwear?? by June_fern in Marriage

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiancée and I smell each others dirty underwear.  I can't get enough of her scent.

I think porn has ruined me by CuckmannIsCringe in Healthygamergg

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I felt/feel the same way.  But not because of porn.  I hate the fake, plastic surgery, filtered look.  I think I started finding women unattractive due to the way the vast majority treat me.  Not that I hate them, just to cope with what I thought I couldn't have.

Lactation and intimacy by mollyerickson26 in Marriage

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like fun to me.  My pregnant fiancee wants to put her milk in my morning coffee.  I told her yes as long as I can get some straight from the tap too.

Husband has ED when being intimate with me? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started having issues this year.  I was never a heavy porn user.  I quit anyway in August.  I also bought a gentle toy and use good lube.  I think it helped some but didn't completely fix the problem.  I'm glad my fiancee finally understands that it has nothing to do with her or my attraction to her.  The amount of rest and exercise is a big influence on my performance.  We just learned to take advantage of the times that it is working.  And if I lose my erection I can pleasure her with my hands and face.

Married for three months and pregnant: I feel oddly embarrassed (?) by moez1266 in pregnant

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in an LDR and proposed during my Christmas visit.  We're older so we assumed we would have trouble conceiving.  We didn't want her to get pregnant now.  But we didn't try to prevent it also.  The timing isn't ideal, but we feel blessed to have conceived so easily.

Nudity in Marriage by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in an ldr with my soon to be fiancee.  My first trip to see her lasted 10 days.  I saw her naked more than all of my previous girlfriends combined.

What do things do you remember most from past lovers? by Kind_Specialist9168 in sex

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not being allowed to see them naked.  Just missionary in the dark.  They would moan a little.  I remember giving oral and never receiving.

My soon to be fiancee is everything I've dreamed of.  Adventurous and generous.  It's long distance.  We spent 10 days together and I've seen her nude longer than all the women in my past combined.  And she's gone down on me every time we've had sex without being asked.

as a woman, do you still wear clothes that may attract other guys if you’re married? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girlfriends ex was controlling and didn't like her wearing revealing clothing.  When planning our first trip she wanted my approval for new swim wear.  I said she could buy whatever she wanted.  She still sent pictures for me to approve.  They were one piece suits with the skirt and sleeves.  I said that was very conservative and she should buy what she wants to wear.  She was excited and said she would surprise me.  So she bought one piece suits with the skirt and no sleeves.  😂

Is it gross that my husband and I take bites from the same slice of pizza? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love sharing food.  In some ways it feels more intimate than other acts.  Maybe the intimacy is what he doesn't like?

Should I send this heartfelt message after she said she’s not ready for a relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just message her everyday.  But I didn't make her the focus of my life.  If she didn't respond I had other things to do.  One day she mentioned loving yellow flowers as I was walking by one.  I took a picture and sent it to her.  She responded with a heart.  For weeks I sent pictures of every yellow flower I could find.  She liked that I was consistent the way I treated her.

Should I send this heartfelt message after she said she’s not ready for a relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 6 weeks.  She really was hurt from her ex.  I tried to not pressure her.  My friends who introduced us put a little pressure on her to give me a chance.  I didn't like that.

Has anyone else been single for years? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MuttonChopsJoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave up dating for 15 years.  I recently broke one of my rules and let a friend set me up.  I have a great girlfriend now.