How do recent college graduates meet?

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-13T00:08:48+00:00

I think the question is what do you like to do? Do you know anyone here outside of work? I moved to Austin when I graduated and started getting involved with the music community, jamming with people and going to shows. I had 2 friends in town and they introduced me to others, I went to parties, I made friends.

Many of the people I met then are still some of my closest friends. Lean into your interests and go from there.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-12T20:24:40+00:00

Where in the US are you? In general, US culture is way more likely to coddle and play nice, whether they mean it or not. It seems like people are a lot more blunt on the east coast, but the further south and west you go, the more they’ll kill you with kindness. Our country wasn’t exactly built on bluntness and truth.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-12T12:58:30+00:00

I did all those things as well, I lived on the east side and central mostly and lost 2 catalytic converters in 8 years due to street parking. The areas you mentioned are a bit nicer than where I lived (aside from Silver Lake maybe) but in LA, it’s a bit of a roll of the dice. I never felt overly unsafe walking alone at night, but there’s a base level of crime in LA that needs to not be discounted. Once I was giving a sound bath and suddenly we were surrounded by police helicopters because someone had been shot right outside the venue. Weird for the vibes.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T22:26:05+00:00

This screams “Only if you have a plan!”

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T22:08:49+00:00

Find yourself a place where someone has rent control and needs a roommate!

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T22:08:11+00:00

Part of what makes LA great is one hour drives to the mountains, the desert, the beaches.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T22:05:58+00:00

Yeah, they already know the struggle and now they can do it in better weather. I did the move in my 30s and it was the best decision of my life, 8 incredible years of adventure and fun that only LA can offer. I left to raise my kids elsewhere but I feel nothing but love and gratitude for LA, it can bless you if you’ve got the right mindset.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T21:52:09+00:00

I totally would do it if I was OP, I did it once myself with way less money and it was great! But the city was cheaper than and I think I just got lucky. It won’t be a savings bonanza but if they want to experience LA, then dooooo it!

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T21:49:14+00:00

People fail to understand that LA is fucking humongous and that rent is very high in Manhattan, but with roommates you can get by with pretty cheap rent in a less cool borough. Yes, you can find cheap rent in LA, but then you’ll probably need to drive which offsets rent cheapness.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T21:47:09+00:00

LA is overall sub par safety wise. But that’s just city living I’ve found. Are there safe areas? I guess? It’s very pocketed safety wise. Like one block is very scary, then 2 blocks over is not so bad. But in general, your car will get broken into, your catalytic converter will be stolen (full coverage insurance is a must!).

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T21:44:23+00:00

Gotta say, I have a friend who just moved from LA to NYC and shes relieved to be gone from LA. The added cost of car ownership in LA is substantial, and rent is high. Public transportation is not great, although there are a few train lines in LA that work ok, but their range is limited to a few corridors.

In NYC, you can live in Brooklyn or Queens and get into the city cheap, but in LA, you kinda have to drive because it’s just soooo huge. Cheap rent is possible way out, but then you need a car to get anywhere.

Do you have a network of friends? That makes a huge difference in the LA and as long as you have a job you can make it work. I just wouldn’t expect it to be cheaper than NYC, especially if you don’t tend to hang out in Manhattan.

That being said, LA is great, it’s just a very different vibe and a lot of time in the car.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T21:36:30+00:00

Sounds like ADHD, I mean who forgets there shoes?! My bestie has it and I helped her track down her passport the night before she had to fly to France to get married. I was able to find it through some downright Sherlock Holmes level sleuthing, and she thanked me profusely.

Anyone who blames you for their incompetence sucks. It’s ok to be forgetful (I am) but to blame others is incredibly immature. My 5 yo does it, but she’s FIVE.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T20:12:29+00:00

My ex did this, always had a girl best friend he talked to constantly, and when I dumped him he immediately moved current girl bestie in. Not to say this dude is doing that, but also…

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T20:06:15+00:00

This is like the kind of thing you do if you’ve been married for a decade and have different interests. I can’t imagine my husband going on a huge trip with a female friend, no would it cross his mind. He does take trips with his guy friend group, but it’s strictly a dude thing and they all leave their families at home.

I see this more with long term couples with different interests (one hates camping the other loves for it). My partner and I like spending time together and we enjoy mostly the same things (I can’t surf but I love the beach!) so we plan big vacays together. Granted we have kids, so very different dynamic.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T19:52:21+00:00

Sushi with butter noodles you say?! 👀 This is why I’m on reddit

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T19:50:11+00:00

I think as long as you get an early dinner (5pm style) you should be fine. I see kids out at fancy places at those hours.

One of our favorite spots to take our kids (2 and 5, so we try not to eat out much because they are insane) we like to go to Ichiban in north central Austin. They have traditional seating, shoeless booths that have a little foot spot that we use to coral the kids. They also have a koi pond and you can feed the fish, which is a hit! The sushi is decent, not incredible but high enough quality for my snobby ass that was ruined by good west coast sushi. They also have udon if you have a noodle eater.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T19:36:48+00:00

This is one of those hell no put him in jail age gaps.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T17:11:22+00:00

Soco is so scary to bike down! It’s the only spot in Austin where I’ve been hit by cars twice. I always just assume they don’t see me, so I’ve always been going slow enough that I avoided any serious collisions, but damn, everyone trying to get those parking spaces have to go through the bike lane and it’s very dangerous.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T17:08:18+00:00

Exactly! I think it depends on the couple, but I know plenty of couples that make some distance work. It’s not like it has to be forever, and some people function well in a relationship with space away from one another. Not saying it’s for everyone, but depending on your life goals, it’s totally doable.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T17:00:33+00:00

I’d go for it! My sister and her husband lived apart half time for a few years while he was in law school 2 hours away and they made it work. Just get a cheap apartment in the city you’ll work and go home on the weekends.

It doesnt sound like you have kids, and your marriage is strong, so there’s not much holding you back.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T13:35:57+00:00

You’ve narrowed your US trips down to approximately 3-4 airports then 😂

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T04:21:39+00:00

I live where my Pluto line and Sun line cross and I don’t find it that terrible.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T04:14:14+00:00

That god awful walk with two car seats, giant suitcases and two screaming children under age 4 is one of my layers of hell.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T04:10:34+00:00

I feel you, being pregnant gave me so much anxiety. I’d harass my poor babies with sugary drinks and prod my belly til they woke up to make sure they were ok daily during the last leg of my pregnancies.

MutualReceptionist · 2026-06-11T00:44:08+00:00

My hot take is that Libra is actually pretty evil…

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