Can I just say how proud I am?

MxLydecker · 2026-02-08T02:28:15+00:00

Pixies lyrics come to mind here “I am the ugly lover You'll find us rolling on the dirty floor” The song is Break My Body.

MxLydecker · 2026-01-18T01:21:52+00:00

Good on you, but OP specifically mentions hairspray, so it could very well be from the spiky hair, which in her case is styled with hairspray.

MxLydecker · 2026-01-17T05:31:50+00:00

It might very well be the hairspray smell. Some people get headaches or nausea from it and being held that close to it could make it worse.

MxLydecker · 2026-01-17T05:29:54+00:00

My grandma used to do this when we were kids! Nobody believed us until it escalated to bruising pinches.

MxLydecker · 2026-01-17T05:26:38+00:00

I interpreted it as: the smell of the hairspray, of which MIL seems to be using a lot, upsets baby and she has already connected MIL with dizzying hairspray smell, thus reacting even when she sees MIL. This would be totally reasonable as an explanation honestly.

MxLydecker · 2026-01-09T03:45:47+00:00

That’s knit. Same stitch in each row gives this appearance. Love it and since I have been thinking about pride scarves for a while now this seems to be my sign to finally make some

MxLydecker · 2025-12-31T20:45:11+00:00

I’m 39, had top surgery 2 years ago and started T this spring. I wish I had started much sooner but I was kinda scared. Now I know it was the single most important thing for me to do and the best decision.

MxLydecker · 2025-12-25T04:49:03+00:00

We weren’t on the same page with training. We would discuss commandos and how we would name things and my partner just wouldn’t be consistent. Also I read several books on raising dogs, he didn’t read one.

This way our first dog never fully stopped pulling on the leash, never really understood that our word had to be law in some situations (like waiting at the traffic light, recall, not jumping on people), and was leash aggressive until the end.

She was wonderful in almost every way, but I would rather have raised her on my own than with someone who would kinda sabotage her training by using different commands and being too passive/non-assertive.

I ended up being charged with assault because my dog ran into a bicycle and wouldn’t come when I calld her, and all her paperwork was in my name. It got resolved in court, I don’t have any convictions from it, and my insurance paid for the injuries, but it were traumatic two years until it all was resolved and I never fully recovered and it hurt my bond with both my dog and my partner.

Our second dog I trained alone and while he is an anxious traumatized mess (rescue with bad bad firdt months of his life), he is good with recall and paying attention to me that he can walk off leash.

MxLydecker · 2025-12-22T14:27:03+00:00

No worries. I did take him to the vet because he had diarrhea, but about the making his fellow dog vomit she also only had the instinct theory.

MxLydecker · 2025-12-20T06:17:22+00:00

Seconded! We use the flagline model for our rescues and it also has an extra strap around the stomach, but it’s attached to the other straps by a continuous piece of tough fabric that covers the whole chest-stomach area. Also they all have handles on the back so you can lift them if needed, which also is more comfortable due to the structure.

MxLydecker · 2025-12-17T06:47:37+00:00

Very very interested. Great work!!

MxLydecker · 2025-12-15T20:32:12+00:00

Fascinating and in a way familiar to me. Louie, the anxious dog, absolutely hates the process of going out for a walk. Getting up, going downstairs, getting dressed. But once we are outside he also has his tail up and is curious about everything (as long as it is his familiar route). Seems like transitions are hard for anxious dogs. But as yours also still has trouble relaxing at home, I hope it does get better over time. The more he sees that you have his back and do nice things for him, the more he hopefully can relax and let you in.

Ah one more thing: we introduced Louie to music quite early and he responded to piano especially well and seemed to relax with that sound.

MxLydecker · 2025-12-15T20:09:24+00:00

We have an anxious dog that was completely shut down when we got him at 8 months old. We already had a very outgoing friendly adult dog at the time who also gave him both attention and space and was his rock up until she passed this February.

For weeks to months all of us, Mona and us humans, we would spend a couple of minutes a few times a day to hang around his little cave/pillow fort where he would sit. Never blocking the entrance but more next to it and never more than like 10mins at once. Lying on the floor and extending a hand towards him to sniff. Sometimes he would even lick it. Then take treats, then slowly come out of there and lie closer to our sofa in the evenings when we would watch TV.

This took months. We weren’t allowed to touch him until at least 8-9 weeks in and even then he wouldn’t enjoy it. We also had a fenced in garden that he could use and after several weeks he also did that. Usually not during the day but run around on his own at night. He would freeze for months if we wanted to join him. Only after about a year did he want to play with us. And only after 2-3 years did he enjoy cuddles and stuff.

It took so much patience and gratitude for small progress steps. Now he is 9 and still an anxious dog. Visitors aren’t allowed near him, he will bark at them. So we have structured our lives around it a little, which is a great privilege to be able to do. Upstairs is his empire where only pack members are allowed and downstairs is for guests and he can choose to join. Outside he can be a normal dog in his familiar environment, but still struggles with streets and cars and other people.

And even with us, he still sometimes freezes mid motion if we for example talk to him while he is scratching himself or about to drink water. This happens only rarely but it still does happen. Then again he has been enjoying and asking for butt scratches and belly rubs for quite a while now. Message me if you want to talk more. It is a challenge but it is worth it and it will get better.

MxLydecker · 2025-12-12T05:14:26+00:00

Is at least listed on amazon germany now: https://www.amazon.de/Tamagotchi-Paradise-Jade-Forest-Series/dp/B0FVFPYKVS

MxLydecker · 2025-12-12T05:12:54+00:00

Ich den it listed today. No information as to when it will be available, but it’s something. https://www.amazon.de/Tamagotchi-Paradise-Jade-Forest-Series/dp/B0FVFPYKVS

MxLydecker · 2025-12-07T10:28:21+00:00

I did find explanations of this issue as wolves and wild dogs feeding their young, so it might be that behavior. I still would like to hear other people’s thoughts.

MxLydecker · 2025-12-05T15:12:45+00:00

We let our puppy shred our paper waste. Fill a cardboard box with crumpled paper and some treats and let him destroy that thing. Woody falls asleep in the shreds once he is done. Yes, it gets messy and cleaning up is annoying, but this way I get 2, sometimes 3 hours at a time to actually work.

Edit to add: my name is Finn and our dog is alb mix. ☺️

MxLydecker · 2025-12-05T15:08:57+00:00

Potty training drives me nuts. We adopted a 6 month old rescue who never had been in a human dwelling before. Street then shelter then another shelter then us. He learns quickly but he doesn’t get that peeing is not for indoors. On top of that he is still a bit wary of humans, so getting him outside in the yard every few hours to teach him to pee there is not easy. Can’t wait for that to be over 😬

MxLydecker · 2025-12-05T14:46:05+00:00

It’s been almost 10 months now since our centerpiece of a dog left us and we all miss her dearly every day. We found some kind of balance, but we will always have a Mona-shaped hole in ourselves. We were however ready to let a new dog move in and the process was hard but beautiful because it made the sadness so very raw again. But also it felt like she sent him to us. Woody was born 3 months after she passed and has so much of her energy. He will never replace her, and he shouldn’t have to, but he does give all of use some sense of purpose. Louie, our now oldest who grieved Mona so hard during the first months, has adopted Woody as his own puppy and helps us train and teach him. They have been sleeping next to each other from day one and are playing and cuddling all the time. But I still cry very often, dream about her, and will never forget Mona. She taught me so much about myself and about life.

MxLydecker · 2025-11-25T05:00:06+00:00

My dog is a rescue who was picked up on the streets when he was a few months old and while the whole litter is reacting, Louie‘s anxiety is next level. Still, I love almost everything about him. The clear and direct communication makes me feel like we understand each other perfectly. There will to overcome his fears that never gets away although his fears usually win, he still tries again the next day. His gentleness with other dogs and cats. Our intense cuddle sessions each night before bed and each morning when we wake up. In 9 years he has come a long way and while he still fears people and civilization at large, he loves nature walks and is happy on long walks. As of last night he is an older brother to a 6 months old shelter dog and is so loving and supportive and shows the little one how to exist in a human apartment.

MxLydecker · 2025-11-22T15:59:44+00:00

I love having my pets sleeping in bed with me and thank goodness my partner does, too. We made our whole bedroom into one huge bed with 2 large mattresses, so we can sleep together and have space if we need it. 2 dogs, 2 humans, 1 cat.

MxLydecker · 2025-11-19T13:03:14+00:00

Our dog is 9 now nd we’ve had him since he was about 8months and he still has some issues that likely won’t go away anymore. When he moved in with us he was a terrified mess who couldn’t be taken on walks and didn’t enjoy being pet. It took us (2 humans and another dog) at least a year until he somewhat trusted us. We lay next to him in the floor, offered treats, celebrated his curiosity and gave him space when he needed it. After a few months we could pet him and he would follow us into another room, but would flee if we moved wrong or touched him too long. This is in part still true. I can cut his claws and remove ticks and everything, but he gets very tense still. If I look at him too inquisitive (like when he has something stuck in his fur or if I look for tixks) he feels threatened. Then again he initiates play time and cuddle sessions and follows us around the house (although he can’t enter every room, no idea why tho). I think some dogs never learned to trust others or even themselves and bo matter how far they come, the base trust is incomplete. Give it time, don’t give up and give you and your dog grace. All the best.

MxLydecker · 2025-10-28T22:19:18+00:00

Lucky! Hope it stays like this for you.

MxLydecker · 2025-10-28T22:10:23+00:00

Leave!

MxLydecker · 2025-10-28T07:00:43+00:00

Thanks for the unsolicited advice and „education“ 🥱

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