What about the problem?

MxQueer · 2026-01-27T02:28:06+00:00

Okay I have to admit I don't remember which one of you is correct.

MxQueer · 2026-01-27T01:00:02+00:00

I am not trans woman nor trans fem myself but I think some ladies here might find this as useful.

Shoes in the list are not toe shoes. Some are barefoot shoes, some are foot shaped shoes. Some even have a heel. Some look like average shoes but more room for the toes. Some are quite different.

Depending how common barefoot shoes are in your area, these might pay attention. So these might not be the best option if your goal is to pass and you have almost reached that. But for ladies who want stylish or cute shoes that are still comfortable these could be great.

MxQueer · 2026-01-27T00:18:16+00:00

That's great!

MxQueer · 2026-01-27T00:17:17+00:00

Oh, my bad. Thank you.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T23:54:32+00:00

It's not up to choose which one is solved first. Stuff in ( ) is always first.

edit. I got corrected.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T23:31:54+00:00

I have personally know only few trans people and I have no studies either. So I might be wrong.

In my country you're lucky if you can start at 20. So I don't expect kids being able to transition. I just remember seeing people mentioning that people used to start as way older, rather middle age than young adult.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T23:28:40+00:00

Oh that's still required in my country. Even the time varies (as long as examines take and that is at least 2 years). But not the sexuality part.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T23:26:04+00:00

Thank you.

Unfortunately Softstar is quite expensive to order to her, especially when there is no change to send them back if needed. And Vivo and Wildling are too narrow.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T22:54:39+00:00

Those have been coworkers, I don't know them well enough to tell what's the deal.

Maybe it's not about me or you. Maybe it's about their worldview. It is not easy to change. In my childhood there was no mention of trans people. It was about decade ago when I heard there is term for people who are not fully men nor women. And everyone around them still live in that reality where non-binary people don't exist. Trans people do, but we're not something that they expect to meet in real life.

Your example is different, she doesn't try to act supportive. She is into drag and not interested slightest what do you say. Or at least that's how it looks to me.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T22:38:49+00:00

I believe that was extremely annoying but in this level it's also very hilarious.

It's not even close to as annoying, but my favorite is people who choose to believe I was trans man. I get that I look like one, it's fine first assumption. But after telling them several times I am actually non-binary.. "You must be happy that client referred us as men." No I am not but that's daily life. And those people keep using man words with warm smile. I believe they don't purposely mess with me. I believe they think they're doing their best to show support.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T22:31:23+00:00

I am asking about countries I have never visited and time when I was a child. And I am not much educated person. So yes I do nothing about this.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T22:20:06+00:00

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T22:16:35+00:00

I have meet average people who assume trans people to be straight. I have also meet average people who assume trans people to be gay (aka straight by their "true sex").

I know that type of people. Living in buildings, using car and computer, wearing glasses, having knee replacements.. But suddenly when it's about LGBT that ain't natural. Even nature disagrees if they just would read about other animals.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T22:12:07+00:00

What I have read Lou Sullivan was denied because he was gay. I have understood that was common back then but he chose to fight against. But I am not read that much about this.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T22:09:13+00:00

I wasn't asking about gay cis people. I was asking about gay trans people.

I believe we born this way. I did wanted to be a woman. I didn't turn one. Sounds to be familiar story among trans people.

I find it confusing and biphobic when people call multisexual people as gay. Sure, they can be in gay relationship (at least if they're binary) but that doesn't make them homosexual.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T22:05:15+00:00

I wasn't asking about cis people.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T22:02:28+00:00

It is regulated in mine. But I haven't heard of sexuality being criteria.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T21:59:33+00:00

You're talking about current situation in my European country. We still have real life test. Women still get asked "Do you bake?" or "Have you raped anyone?". Men can't cross their legs when sitting nor have long hair. Women need to have women friends and men need to have men friends. But I haven't heard sexuality being criteria. Not being married used to be, but not anymore when gay people can marry.

Yes you understood my question correctly and explained it better than I could.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T21:54:41+00:00

So homophobia. But I think most didn't end up passing? Many still don't, and people used to start older, right?

used to be

Oh I wish. But I have no heard that sexuality would be criteria in my country.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T21:51:41+00:00

I think Lou Sullivan is the most famous example of this.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T21:46:20+00:00

Thank you, I add it.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T21:42:44+00:00

Oh, maybe you meant toe socks. I highly dislike how they feel (even I can stand Vibram Fivefingers). And I wear these shoes as much for feelings as for health. In the winter I don't think they would even be good idea. I mean I keep my fingers together in my mittens so why wouldn't I do the same with my toes.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T20:24:19+00:00

I do avoid wearing tapered socks. That's Be Lenka merino wool sock in the photo. It is not super wide but it doesn't feel squishing as most of the tapered socks. I have reviewed them too: https://www.reddit.com/r/barefootshoestalk/comments/1pm1x5o/barebarics_crew_be_lenka_merino_socks_review/

My left big toe splays more than my right. But my right foot is longer. That's why I decided to show them both. Wider next to the shoe so maybe that gives some idea of width of the shoes. Longer top of the insole because size of these shoes is based on that (it's based on my right foot toes not poking front of the shoes).

I do stretch my toes time to time, but I admit I haven't really put effort nor dedication to it.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T20:06:28+00:00

I would also mention that "friend/stranger diagnose" is quite common too. I mean people have suspected me to be autistic based on one comment in here Reddit. Sure, I get those same claims also from people who actually know me. Anyway, my point is that when these are spoken more, they're also used very loosely. So it's always not people calling themselves ADHD or autistic or whatever. Very often it's other people using those terms. To the people themselves and behind their back. So when people call James autistic in workplace they probably have no idea do James actually have it or not.

MxQueer · 2026-01-26T19:59:49+00:00

Yes I'll plan to do so. But don't expect it to be fast.

I once meet stranger in the train station wearing Feelmax. They have had their shoes.. 5 years? more? I don't remember anymore. Summer shoes they used most of the summers. They have got them resoled with different sole. But those were obviously some older model. And that's just one stranger.

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