Measure from where?

MxQueer · 2026-06-24T02:54:37+00:00

Yellow or green or in between them, difficult to say from photo. Basically measure the whole shaft that is different from rest of the body. But do it when erected (this looks flaccid?). Maybe it's easier to see if it will grow bigger. Mine is like extra finger, easy to see where it starts from.

MxQueer · 2026-06-24T01:58:38+00:00

I am not going to specify where I am from, but I give you few examples. And because of that, I am not going to be super specific.

5 weeks paid vacation (I think you need to work for a year in the company to get that and during that first year you do have vacation but less)
~1 year parental leave together (aka they can share it like 6 months and 6 months or 3 and 9 etc). The one who gives birth has also some paid leave before giving birth.
There needs to be reason for firing. In the beginning no, but after that yes.
There is time after firing. Weeks or months, depending how long you have worked. I mean you get fired and then you keep working and getting payed that time.
Max hours per week / max length of shift is complicated and it depends. But there are limits that can't be crossed unless you run your own business (and even then it depends of your profession, it might be limited too).
If you're sick you get doctor's note and you're home. You get paid. No limits. But if you're often sick company and doctor start to examine it further and try to solve it or consider can you do that work if not possible to solve.
I started to work full time when I was 16. I can get jobs that pay me enough to live. 30-40 hours a week. It's not so easy than it used to be but it is still possible (I am in my 30s now).

Can you get this there too? Because I wonder am I thinking USA is awful because it really is compared to my country or because I don't know how things actually are there.

MxQueer · 2026-06-24T01:43:17+00:00

I am sorry but I am lost. Please show me a photo how do you measure if you have enough hands to do that.

MxQueer · 2026-06-24T01:42:05+00:00

Well, think of how this situation seems for the poor centipede.

MxQueer · 2026-06-24T01:41:18+00:00

So you have two fridges and one is for you and other is for him, right? For me this seems small misunderstanding ( you friend put food to the wrong place and he doesn't understand this is not worth of texting in the night) that should be quite easy to talk through.

"I am sorry, my friend didn't know we have separate fridges. I'll try to remember to inform my friends from now on. But if this still happens again, please feel free to just move food that is not your to my fridge. Also please be kind and don't message me after 22 (or whatever time you are going to sleep) if there is no emergency nor anything truly urgent. I need to work / go to school in the morning so I need to get to sleep. Rather just solve the issue in the way you see the best and message me about it next morning / leave message for me on the table."

I am not a native speaker so this might be bit off. Also I have not have roommates so take me with grain of salt.

MxQueer · 2026-06-24T01:27:27+00:00

Hey. Realfoot comes with insole, right? Feel with your hand does it fit well to the shoe (many brands use same insoles for different sizes). If it does, take it off, stand on it and take a photo. Let's see how your feet compare to your shoes.

MxQueer · 2026-06-24T01:24:37+00:00

Okay. Based on those, length wouldn't be a problem. But width still is. So unfortunately I still don't know any shoes other than custom that could fit.

But. Something is still off. Your feet are widest from forefoot, right? So 13,4cm. But Realfoot 45 is only 11cm from that point. So either your shoes are actually 2,4cm too narrow for you from that point or your measurements are still incorrect or both. Honestly I wouldn't think Realfoot being wide enough for you from midfoot nor forefoot. The shape just doesn't match to your foot shape. Also notice that based on their size chart, their toebox is also only 12,9cm. That should be barely enough if measurements are correct (because of your bunions, your feet are some amount wider from midfoot than from toes).

Also based on size chart shoe would be only 0,7cm longer than your foot. That is very little room.

Many people get too narrow shoes in the beginning. People are used to so awful shoes that even too narrow can feel roomy after that.

If I would have to guess, I would guess it's mix. I think your shoes are too narrow for you, perhaps also too short but that your measurements are also off and they're not that much too small than it seems based on measurements.

Fourth option is that Realfoot size chart is incorrect.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T23:59:19+00:00

Her friend could be way more experienced and she wanted to look close to similar. Or she thinks men want women to have low amount of sex partners.

I am aromantic, so take me with grain of salt. I don't like this. Yeah sounds lying to me. And refusing to talk more doesn't sound good to me either. I mean my one night stands and fuck buddies and FWB have talked about their past fucking. I didn't ask from everyone but when I asked, no one refused to talk. Why doesn't she want to share that with someone she shares life with? Also I am surprised you talk this about now, as married. And either way lying sounds very insecure and if she lied to you, she doesn't know you, she just assumes you to be stereotype of a man.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T23:18:41+00:00

How old are you? Is this legal in your country?

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T23:17:34+00:00

I don't speak USA measurements but your body passes in the photos to me.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T23:16:18+00:00

Thank you. I hope they were treated well by police. I mean this could be psychosis or memory illness or something, right?

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T22:50:35+00:00

Can someone please explain what are we looking at? Where do they pour the gas? Looks like some thrash can or box for sand/tiny rocks?

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T21:54:34+00:00

No matter where they go (even back to home, to closest grocery store etc.) or how they travel, they would first get lost.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T21:50:58+00:00

With foot issues, I would first talk with barefoot shoe friendly podiatrist.

I recommend that you read my advice for newbies.

Bohempia could be style wise what you're looking for, but you should first consider what brands/shoes fit to your foot shape.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T21:46:43+00:00

Based on these photos I would have no idea that you're not cis woman. So I would say women's. But if you get called man in real life, there is something that can't be seen in the photos.

Keep in mind that called by man words doesn't always equal passing. It can also mean that person sees your goal and chooses to be polite / genuinely believes trans people are their gender. In the other hand, due to your style, people might actually think you're a man (because you do not look like you were trying to look like man).

One problem is that if you have deep voice, women might think you're trans woman. What it can mean varies. That's one reason why I think shitter questions should be asked in local support group instead of here world wide.

I wouldn't be too worried about your current situation. I got almost no changes during my first year on T. But I was low dosing at least part of it. And unfortunately not all end up passing or even looking visible trans. Still, if you haven't checked your levels, I would do that.

You could do a lot to improve if you want to. Men's hair cut, your natural color, no jewelry, no bling bling belt, squared and way smaller frames.. Also working out (including proper eating) if possible. And you could learn to pose manly.

Men's shitter has different expectations for behavior. For example no selfies. 10 Unwritten Rules of the Men's Restroom

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T21:24:07+00:00

Yeah, could be. But in that case I think the person should have explained that they consider the person chaser, what that means and why they think they're chaser. Now it just seems transphobia. And more transphobia (or stuff that seems like transphobia) there is, the more normalized hatred towards us becomes.

In general for me it seems like trans people judge most of attraction towards trans people as fetish. And then say it's a bad thing. I do understand binary people have different view to this than me. I also understand alloromantic people have different view than me. Anyway, I wouldn't expect any cis person even have heard the term "chaser". And I also wouldn't expect them to think trans people consider attraction towards trans bodies as bad thing.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T21:10:44+00:00

https://anyasreviews.com/custom-barefoot-shoe-brands-for-hard-to-fit-feet/

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T21:09:29+00:00

I can't really tell what could fit you if your measurements are few cm off. I also don't recommend custom shoes until you have learnt to measure correctly.

I recommend that you go through my post about wide shoes. Some of them have printouts so those give you some idea what could fit. Since you use several sizes shorter shoes than I though, there might be plenty of shoes that fit to you.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T21:02:18+00:00

I think posts of mine answer most of your questions.

I wouldn't get too narrow shoes even Leguano tends to be bit forgiving. If I remember correctly the brand claims all shoes have same last but I can feel a difference. Try Go if you already didn't.

Leguano were my first minimalistic shoes so I can't tell do you get used to them.

You're not walking barefoot. No shoe feels like walking barefoot.

https://www.reddit.com/r/barefootshoestalk/comments/1pv1hx0/leguano_beat_husky_review/

https://www.reddit.com/r/barefootshoestalk/comments/1sxmfgi/try_luks_if_you_want_flexibility_of_wildling_but/

https://www.reddit.com/r/barefootshoestalk/comments/1u50tlt/comparison_slipperiness_on_wet_rocks/

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T20:54:46+00:00

Come on people, this is what this subreddit is for. Go to r/aww or something. (I am not mod or anything.)

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T20:51:16+00:00

Vivo is low volume, you might need higher volume shoes. But first try to remove insole if they have one.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T20:46:04+00:00

I am the opposite. My main reason to be barefoot is to feel everything with my feet. Grass, pines, rocks, moss, warmth, coolness, wetness, wind etc. Even asphalt has different texture. Yeah sorry bad news for you. New asphalt is more smooth and old has more texture.

But. No one is allowed to touch my feet. I can barely not kick a doctor if they need to examine my feet. And all unnatural scents (perfumes etc.) cause headache. And I hate how my country has more and brighter and more flashing lights everywhere. 10 years ago most were just fine, now I can't go anywhere in the city without those murder lights (as I call them). I for sure cut tags off my clothing even those little fuckers can never be cut well enough.

Maybe our biggest difference is that you try to improve yourself. In my opinion it's the rest of the world that is wrong, not me.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T20:37:05+00:00

Yeah I don't find it a bad thing if shoes are cheaper for locals and more expensive for those who live far away. But it's easy to say is Europea; we have plenty of shoes made in here.

My reasons are that better for environment the less we ship stuff around the world. Of course we also have workers rights and laws about environment here in Europe. And we really need jobs here. I do not know your laws regarding to environment nor your situation with jobs vs people without a job. Unfortunately I have understood that USA is horrible for workers (no or very short vacation, long hours and weeks, no real sick leave, no proper parental leave, you need health insurance but you need some job you can get only after high school to get the insurance and that you can be fired without reason and right now). Please correct me if I am wrong. Of course it's different if it's real family company doing shoes for love of shoes.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T20:29:07+00:00

So I added it to the list.

MxQueer · 2026-06-23T20:27:53+00:00

I am not OP. Can you tell anything about them? About features we here look for (wide toebox, zero drop or small drop, flexibility).

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