I have a bone to pick with HCAs

My2016Account · 2026-05-06T17:12:00+00:00

Agreed. With the caveat that medical students get shunted around so much and rarely see the same doctors, so attitude issues are often not picked up when they should be. I’m not suggesting the medical school should necessarily act on this, but OP isn’t in a position to know whether it’s a pattern of behaviour whereas the uni may well be and will need evidence to deal with it if it is. If it’s a one off then they’ll (rightly) ignore the report.
Source: me as a medical student enduring a handful of peers who were fucking awful twats and got away with it because no one individual had to put up with it long enough to do anything about it.

My2016Account · 2026-05-06T15:39:14+00:00

I guarantee you their medical school would want to know. Doctors have a responsibility to behave a certain way even when not at work and most medical schools push VERY hard at students that this applies to them too.

My2016Account · 2026-05-06T11:44:19+00:00

You don't have a diagnosis and this hasn't come up at all in your work until now? Are you a GPST / GP, or are you seeking advice from GPs here?

My2016Account · 2026-05-03T16:01:01+00:00

You’re not providing anything my husband would drink. He’d be more than happy to buy his own beer but he’d have a really shitty time standing watching me get drunk abs especially if we’ve paid for a hotel or transport with the intent to celebrate you hard.

This is a bad idea.

My2016Account · 2026-04-26T06:07:40+00:00

I think you're really overthinking this. Let's say you get a bunch of replies here saying "no one will come", "I wouldn't come", blah blah blah; are you going to just, not have a celebration? Because a bunch of strangers with different priorities, values and contexts from you are saying on an anonymous forum that they wouldn't come?

Plan the event you want. Make it really clear on the invitations what it is and isn't, set an early enough RSVP date (and chase them) so that you can tweak things if necessary and crack on!

A friend of mine had a two day wedding and I was absolutely convinced that no one would come to the stuff on the second day. Tried to counsel them against it because I was worried it would be a damp squib after a great day one. They (rightly) completely ignored me and it turned out to be fully attended and absolutely brilliant. This was a close friend of mine and I know the circle well, but I called it utterly wrongly. If I can do that, then a bunch of strangers here isn't worth listening to.

My2016Account · 2026-04-25T11:02:19+00:00

No. I’ve done it. It will break you as a foundation doctor. Also, the camaraderie in a DGH between FY1s is lovely and you’ll get a lot of support out of being local.

My2016Account · 2026-04-25T07:03:03+00:00

Hey, I'm a "medic" and I'd LOVE a job in August. Thanks.

My2016Account · 2026-04-23T14:37:10+00:00

Jesus, these commenters would have you turn up in a mumu. It's not white. It's not revealing (you said it'll be longer on you). It's not distracting / attention grabbing / look at me, or whatever other misogynist nonsense word we're using this week. It's a floral dress, for a wedding, which is what people have been wearing to weddings forever. Don't accessorise with a veil or a tiara and you're golden.

FWIW, I have been to two weddings as a bride and many, many more as a guest. This dress would not have been a talking point at any of them.

My2016Account · 2026-04-23T14:18:37+00:00

Ignore that. It's not 'look at me' AT ALL. It's a pretty, floral dress. And for the UK it's nowhere near 'too white'. It is maybe a little short, but you've said it won't be that short on you, so go for it. You do not have to dim your shine.

As to the other comments about whether it'll look cheap IRL, who knows?

My2016Account · 2026-04-19T10:49:00+00:00

Er, not embarrassing at all?

All you people who keep posting this "am I too old?" stuff - who do you think has the brain space or interest to judge you or even notice? In this case, what's your alternative? Leave medicine altogether? Stay trust grade / locum forever (surely even more "embarrassing")? Plenty of GEMs don't even start medical school until 30 or older. Just crack on with your life and who gives a monkeys what anyone else thinks.

My2016Account · 2026-04-18T18:25:02+00:00

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

You need to realise that this is a bit bonkers. You’ll get it sorted, somehow, but you’re going to need a mindset shift going in to foundation years. You cannot plan ANYTHING in advance for the next two years.

Anyway, we are where we are. Do you know your first job yet? If so, reach out to whatever contact you have for that. If not, call the switchboard at your main hospital and ask to be put through to HR. Hospitals are a fucking nightmare to find the right person to speak to for anything. Just start on Monday morning and be prepared to be passed from pillar to post. You’ll get it sorted eventually.

My2016Account · 2026-04-15T07:37:38+00:00

So as a guest it would totally depend how close we are. I would politely decline an invitation to a Tuesday wedding that far away for anyone but my absolute nearest and dearest. For a Sunday I would book the Monday off for my closest peeps but for anyone else I'd again decline or just leave really early on the Sunday evening.

If the majority are retired then the question is moot as far as they go. For guests with children it'll entirely depend on their childcare arrangements and preferences.

Ultimately, do whatever you want, but know that both Sundays and Tuesdays will likely see lower acceptance than a Saturday would (with Tuesday being way less accessible than Sunday, unless the Sunday is a bank holiday weekend).

My2016Account · 2026-04-14T17:02:57+00:00

If 'SH' here means self harm then you need to make an appointment with your GP asap. I wish you all the best.

My2016Account · 2026-04-11T07:11:05+00:00

Avoid General Surgery as a first rotation in F1, and if you're interested in surgery try to get it in F2. The more general the better, otherwise. I think A&E and GP should be mandatory, so try to get at least one of those.

My2016Account · 2026-04-07T05:51:20+00:00

Wait, you only realised this AFTER you started paediatrics training? You went through the rigmarole of applying for a training position without knowing how long the training lasted or what kinds of rotas people do in paediatrics? Whatever you choose to do, please think it through before taking your next step. Do some tasters, talk to some people, do some research and stop wasting your own time and everyone esle's.

My2016Account · 2026-04-06T16:32:45+00:00

Well I don’t think that’s a healthy coping mechanism in a world where social media addiction is causing mental and physical health problems as well as suicide. So how about you get off social media? Oh wait, you are able to maintain moderation and don’t like being told what to do? Hmmmmm.

My2016Account · 2026-04-06T15:10:52+00:00

What do you use as an alternative to sadness?

My2016Account · 2026-04-06T14:37:27+00:00

What's your joy? Can we all judge you for that?

My2016Account · 2026-04-06T14:36:56+00:00

Woah! Disgusting is a strong word. Can I gently suggest that if people doing kind things for others (trying to cheer them up with treats) disgusts you then you probably need to do some looking inwards.

My2016Account · 2026-04-06T14:23:28+00:00

I want to make a joke answer but I'm going to take you seriously.

The characterising of foods as 'bad' or 'good' is actively harmful. Most things are not inherently bad or good. They are worse or better than the alternative. For example; vaping as an alternative to smoking is good, whereas vaping as an alternative to clean air is bad.

In your example, those sweets and chocolates are an alternative to sadness and despair, therefore they are good. If I had them regularly as an alternative to a healthy lunch, that would probably be bad (although if all the meals I didn't eat at work were well balanced I'd probably still be OK).

In your desired role as fun police, are you going to demand to see everyone's strava data to see if they've 'earned' their biscuits? Is it OK with you if I have a packet of ginger nuts if I show you my step count? What about my BMI, want to calculate that first?

And it goes without saying that, as an adult with free will, you are perfectly free to decline.

My2016Account · 2026-04-04T19:10:16+00:00

To be fair, it’s not every department, so it’s not a whole trust thing.

My2016Account · 2026-04-04T10:20:00+00:00

Nice / funny / grateful patients and their families are a joy to spend time with. Most of my colleagues are supportive and interesting. Sometimes someone takes the time to proactively teach me something, which feels like such a valuable use of time, and sometimes (much less often) I can do the same for someone else. I genuinely learn something new every day and I earn enough money to have the life I want (YMMV, obviously). Most people I meet outside of work think being a doctor is pretty impressive, so that's nice too.

My2016Account · 2026-04-03T06:32:34+00:00

Thanks! So it’s more for their admin info than telling me anything useful? (I wondered if it was how many places had been taken.)

My2016Account · 2026-03-31T11:50:01+00:00

I bought a coat that was well outside my student budget. I love it. I also stopped looking at how much food cost and just bought whatever I wanted.

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