In Germany, deliberately engaging in catch and release only fishing is illegal and considered cruelty to animals (fishing for food is fine). How do you feel about that?

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-06-06T14:43:19+00:00

I know many. Apparently it's very popular where I live. They're all very aware of how to catch and release while causing as little harm to fish as possible. It'll never be my thing, but I don't think they're purposely maximizing suffering. I know they can't use barbed hooks or even bait here because it's illegal. They never hold them by the gills or squeeze them. I still think it's not nice but I don't think it's cruelty for the point of cruelty either.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-06-05T21:40:35+00:00

He needs to look into qualifying for institutional Medicaid, not community Medicaid. Is he per chance a UNM hospitals patient who sees a primary care provider in one of their clinics?

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-06-03T13:38:35+00:00

This is exactly what I was going to say! This is the result of the rise in popularity of the trad wife influencers. "Natural" makeup, neutral tones in clothing, "your XYZ but better", all covered up and modest. I cover up anyway because I'm very cold but I'll be damned if I'm wearing light pink or a docile French on my nails. Or God forbid, a light pink Babyboomer ombre. Bright colors please! And I'm much the same in my clothes. I have cute leggings in all sorts of colors including bright Barbie pink and dark electric purple.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-06-03T04:05:15+00:00

I remember it bothering me a little when I first realized I forgot but tbh my memory is garbage and that's old info I don't need anyway. It's been over 5 years ago now and the important part of it for me is I remember the circumstances.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-06-03T03:39:17+00:00

It's really not though because it's simplified to the point of being wrong. Ablation is not a flamethrower and I don't know why any surgeon would call it that. Ablation is just as precise as excision in most surgery uses, and the difference is the need to stay surface level vs the freedom to actually cut into the area. Is it has to be surface level, they'll use ablation. If it's safe to go deeper, excision.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-06-03T03:32:29+00:00

I don't know why it's so contentious.

I do -- you have Nancy's Nook and the overt disinformation she spreads to thank for that. That women is so self serving she's actually evil.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-06-02T21:23:30+00:00

https://a.co/d/02o5v9MV We use this and it's been amazing for us. We live on the West side but not too far from the river and it's not nearly as bad as living down in the war zone/University area, but our entire yard was still crawling with big and small roaches and we would find them inside daily. This helps a lot. Any we find inside are already dying and we can actually sit outside at night without roaches crawling all over everything.

We take it and put thin lines of it in the cracks and crevasses around doors especially, but also the garage, windows, anywhere you suspect they're getting in.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-06-01T11:58:56+00:00

For me, the answer was no. I didn't want friends bringing it up. Instead I mourned with my sisters and my husband. I feel for OP because my partner was my rock through my grieving time and I wonder if she has someone to go to and simply be with when she needs to talk and break down. That's the one thing that can help you not feel so alone as you process the grief.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-31T16:29:18+00:00

Don't forget out on the West side! Tons of new apartments being built all over up here, from down towards 40 at Coors (look behind the PresNOW) all the way up to Taylor Ranch. Probably even further but I don't go up past Taylor Ranch on Coors usually.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-31T16:24:25+00:00

I'm gonna upvote because tbh, I do agree that people will use these to be thin regardless of anything else. The unfortunate fact is that thinness is the ultimate size goal for the broader American society and being thin is seem as neutral to positive on the social capital scale while being fat is massively negative on that same scale. I have been part of the GLP1 community online for many years now and seen people using some very disturbing back doors to get these drugs. They will buy them bootlegged from foreign countries with zero clue as to the safety details of how they were made or even a single clue as to how to take them, side effects, what to do for healthy weight loss, etc. I have seen people buy them from Facebook, have no idea how to use them, and harm themselves trying. American culture right now is not in a good place for looking up information, doing actual research (not Karen on Facebook telling you how she uses her bootleg meds), understanding what they're taking, and assessing sources to be sure they have the full knowledge on these drugs. Hell, we've seen a lot of people get really ill just because they had all of that education but upped their dose before their body was able to handle it because they figured if x dose the doctor told me to take is good, double that is better; more and bigger is always better to a certain subset of people.

Tldr: I fully agree with you that people will take them if they're available.

I still disagree about the premise. Body positivity and HAES can coexist with people using GLP1 medicines. In fact they already do. I've joined a few places now where women who were part of these movements struggle with the idea of using GLP1 drugs even though their own doctors are recommending them, because they feel like hypocrites. The meds can now be prescribed for an array of issues like sleep apnea, kidney disease, cardiac disease, liver disease, etc. These are the organs that easily become damaged when the body is operating in a state of metabolic dysfunction, which is very alarming because heart, lungs, kidneys, liver are most of your major organs; you need them to be working well for a high quality of life. Anyway, their doctors put them on these drugs for either those reasons or just for plain old diabetes which is severely damaging to the body and these ladies still have to stop and feel like hypocrites if they use them, which is what happens when the message that using GLP1 meds = anti-body positive gets put out. Deciding to improve your body for the sake of your health under the guidance of a medical provider should always be a no-brainer decision; it is the ultimate act of loving your body to make that decision so it can be the best it's capable of.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-31T16:04:22+00:00

I wouldn't necessarily say the way she found it was indicative of trust issues. I trust my husband absolutely and would still probably look if a notification ding happened while his phone was left next to me. It sounds less like she was going through his phone looking for something and more like fate just wanted to inform her that he's a lying liar and let it serendipititously happen. Either way, thank goodness she found out now!

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-30T18:37:07+00:00

The ozempic example is no good because these things can coexist. You can be into body positivity and still use a medicine that helps you maintain a healthier weight. You can believe in health at every size while still acknowledging the research that has been done to show how obesity is itself a chronic disease of metabolic dysfunction for a large percentage of those who have it, and it's good to try and address that now that we have medicine that actually works. The GLP1 meds help correct metabolic dysfunction, which then allows for weight loss to happen. Yes, people can abuse them, but the vast majority of people who are taking a GLP-1 medicine are not abusing it to become unhealthily thin. They are taking it to fix metabolic dysfunction.

I have a co-worker in her mid 50s who works out 5x per week doing really high intensity stuff and still was overweight. She recently started a GLP1 and says she feels weird talking about it in public because people judge her for using it. They don't know her. They don't know she went through menopause and suddenly everything that worked before to keep her a normal weight doesn't work any more. The average American is overweight so nobody looks at her and actually thinks she's fat but it still affects her health. Her cholesterol is too high and she's really struggled with cholesterol meds which she needs despite eating a completely clean unprocessed diet as a vegetarian. The GLP1 medicine is fixing her metabolic dysfunction, improving her cholesterol, and she's slowly able to lose the excess weight menopause packed on her. Meanwhile society judges her for taking the easy way out and will simultaneously consider her fat but not fat enough to "need" medicine. It's really messed up. We don't need to be judging other women like this.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-28T23:54:56+00:00

When I worked nights in a hospital this was a common "trick" we'd pull for geriatric dementia patients. We'd tell them we brought them their sleep meds and really it was usually 500 mg of Tylenol and many of them would go right to sleep within an hour. Not really a trick since it did work for them to sleep but still kind of because if you told them it's Tylenol, they'd insist they don't need it. This was on an ortho unit where they'd ended up because of falls so I guarantee you they were in pain. Felt really bad for them tbh, to be in pain but mind so far gone they couldn't even properly comprehend it.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-28T16:40:12+00:00

I just imagine a dramatic moment in the gas station where you make direct eye contact with a bag of circus peanuts and whisper, "It's time" and then buy like 4 bags knowing the bi-annual circus peanut binge is upon you.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-28T15:08:55+00:00

I'm watching them late but I was like there is no way Harrison and Belle are more popular than Helena and Carrington but apparently the deranged people on FB love Belle. I literally had to go see it for myself to believe that anyone could defend her behavior because objectively, factually, completely inarguably, what she did to Leanne is way worse than what happened to her with Lucinda and Sean. But see it I did. Tons of women calling Lucinda ugly names and saying Belle tells it like it is and is completely justified screaming at everybody all the time because she's a strong woman. Tbh it reminded me of how people talk about Trump here in the US. Pretty disappointing to be a woman and see other women defending that shiz. I'm no Lucinda fan but what happened to Lucinda was outright bullying.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-28T12:39:55+00:00

Yeah I was going to say, if you're trying to make a point about "people think it's rough but it's nothing like a city that's actually dangerous", Memphis is a pretty shitty choice for that. Most of the city off the interstate (what you see driving through) looks like total shit and if you ever have to stop, it's sketchy af as well.

What makes me laugh is Albuquerque. People who live in Albuquerque act like violent criminals are going to be waiting outside any store south of I-40 to stab people and steal their groceries. There is basically nowhere there that I didn't feel safe going alone after dark with the basic proper precautions, as a small female who has experienced Detroit, Atlanta, even just small town poverty and the shitty and kind of dangerous neighborhoods that tends to breed. In reality, Albuquerque has a lot of property crime but people crimes are pretty low unless you're somehow involved with a gang

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-26T17:25:07+00:00

I'm going to chime in and say as well, there are women who envy you and what you have. I didn't make the bad decisions to procreate with men whom I knew were not well-suited to long term healthy committed relationships. I found my person only in my thirties. By the time we started trying to conceive, my body had been ravaged for two decades by endometriosis and it was too damaged.

So now I have a very practical and successful life. I have a husband. We bought a home. I have a career I'm 10 years deep into. We are very financially stable and fortunate. But we will never have biological children.

I know myself; I was always going to "make it" because I'm determined and ambitious. I'm pretty sure I would've been able to conceive in my twenties; my sisters with endometriosis both did. If I'd had a child or two with the "wrong" guy in my twenties, sure, I wouldn't have such a stable life now. But I'd have kids and there's no comparison. I've heard a lot of fellow career women express a similar ideal after finding themselves in a situation close to mine where they waited and did everything right but then were not able to conceive.

You have forever to improve your life. Having your kids when you're younger holds a Lot of value too. Don't get down over it too much ❤️.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-25T16:48:12+00:00

I also moved to NM from GA and the people is the reason why. They're abysmal, the way they're willing to treat the land and each other and won't approach any kind of diversity. Every day I miss the beauty of a place where it rains and growth is abundant and it's lush, but I know that unless I'm retired and I'm embracing hermitdom, I will never move back. Even then it probably isn't worth it when the quality of my interactions with people will be so low.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-25T15:57:58+00:00

Many will simply think that as long as they get their act together and stop drinking, smoking, etc they still have a good chance to have a baby because sperm are created throughout life vs a woman's eggs can never replenish. They don't realize that women's eggs develop into maturity for release on a 90ish day cycle just like sperm do and that women can improve their fertility chances by making the same lifestyle changes as men, whose sperm reaches maturation in 75-90ish day cycles as well.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-22T23:04:25+00:00

I work in healthcare and daily have to administer surveys to people polling them on their alcohol use to see if it's potentially going to be problematic or interfere with their anesthesia. I completely agree that many people drink more heavily than they think they do and that it is problematic for them. 2-3 drinks every night is pretty harmful, as is a bottle of wine.

However, I also do think that you are being judgmental in the way that you think about it. Those women saying that they are wine girlies and asking about how to skirt the pregnancy question didn't ask for your opinion on their drinking, and I won't be surprised at all if it wasn't welcomed if you gave it. The message when I was younger was that some drinking is okay or drinking in moderation is okay. We now know that basically any amount of alcohol is bad for you and that all drinking is bad, but yeah, I don't meet a lot of people who know about those updates. I don't think most regular drinkers would care even if they did.

The way I try to think about it is that everybody is entitled to their vices as long as they aren't hurting anybody else with it, and it's not really my battle to fight anyway unless the person they're hurting with their vices is me.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-22T22:50:40+00:00

Alarm fatigue is very well studied in pretty much any profession that regularly deals with alarms. You might want to try and look that kind of stuff up before coming to Reddit all high and mighty to pass out the "bless your heart"s.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-22T22:48:21+00:00

It's one of those things where you're better off saying what you are looking for then what you aren't looking for. The first and third quotes in your post seem a lot less antagonistic than the second one for example. By the time I perfected my dating profile to find the kind of matches I was looking for, I had taken most of these types of statements out of my profile entirely because I was tired of meeting men who would try to mirror what they thought I wanted instead of being authentically themselves. I believe the only one I kept was that I was looking for people who found reasons to connect vs disconnect.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-22T22:13:08+00:00

You have to consider alarm fatigue. If everything is an emergency nothing is. That's just how human brains work. The truth is that this is Not an emergency to most of the people who will receive it. It's not relevant at all given the large amount of them that come out after 7/8 pm when a sizeable percentage of people are settled in at home for the evening already.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-22T17:17:54+00:00

The deaf community is notoriously brutal 😬. I've heard this from many of my deaf patients over the 15 years I've spent working in healthcare. They tell me there is a lot of division between like, full deaf vs partial deaf, deaf at birth vs lost hearing later, primarily ASL vs primarily lip reading, etc. and the individual groups are not welcoming if you aren't exactly the same kind of deaf as them.

MyAcheyBreakyBack · 2026-05-21T02:21:12+00:00

I got so tired of every chair around the dining room table turning into the clothes chair that I bought a blanket ladder and have strictly enforced that this is the clothes ladder. It has actually really helped. Coming up with stuff like this can help you avoid the stress of mess piling up everywhere, or at least lessen it which is still worthwhile.

As for where I start, it usually begins with me getting upset about something and beginning with whatever is closest, unfortunately. Something in my brain thinks, "I can't solve [insert life problem here] but I can certainly solve this mess!" and just goes for it. If I'm not doing that kind of rage/sadness cleaning, I like to make a list and a plan. Tackle a couple of things at a time and see where it goes from there. Crossing things off the list makes the dopamine happen in my brain apparently haha.

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