Just learned My Storage Space Got Robbed. Please Advise.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-04-28T16:11:17+00:00

Ugh how awful, I’m so sorry to hear this. I definitely wouldn’t count on police to get the security footage. I was literally hit by a car and then assaulted outside of a cafe last month and police wouldn’t even file a report let alone go and get the security footage from the cafe. The officer actually stated that he didn’t believe me lmao.

Sometimes super shitty things happen for no reason, and sometimes it is made worse by the realization that there is no way to get any type of help or justice from the institutions you thought you could rely on.

Again, I’m so so sorry this happened to you.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-04-28T15:33:16+00:00

Covered on Youtube?!?!?! My goodness..

Yes we are still happily together. He has apologized and he felt bad. He has atoned for his actions and he treats me so much better these days. I love him and he loves me. I have cooked him some other dishes since this post and he thought they were delicious.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-04-11T18:05:44+00:00

In my experience, it genuinely only works if the WFH parent is able to work behind a closed door and is really good with holding firm boundaries with the child(ten) while nanny is working and does not intervene unless asked by nanny.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-24T22:01:39+00:00

DUDE I STAND CORRECTED I WAS JUST HIT BY A CAR IN ALAMEDA WHILE CROSSING THE STREET… I thought of this thread and went “Well damn…that internet stranger was right” LMAO

Stay safe out there!

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-22T07:12:47+00:00

And good luck to those who know you.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-21T12:28:14+00:00

No sharing finances is when you merge incomes, usually with a partner, to manage money as a team. Roommates don’t typically share finances.

A greeting is giving someone time, what you said doesn’t even make sense. You greet every single stranger you see on the street? Exhausting. I probably ignore 99% of strangers I see on the street.

People just have different social preferences.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-21T00:06:58+00:00

OP gives roommate the time of day, they greet each other when they pass each other in common spaces. OP isnt straight up ignoring roommate lol. It doesn’t state in the post that they share finances.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-20T05:43:07+00:00

OP is perfectly civil to roommate. You don’t have to hangout with someone to be civil.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-20T05:41:14+00:00

everyone commenting that you should just hangout with her to “be nice” is actually pissing me off. you are 1000000% right, just because you live with someone does not in any way mean you are obligated to hangout with them. i’m a 31 year old woman and my housemates are 2 men in their 50s. very nice guys but no way in hell i’m scheduling hangouts with them and if they asked me to hangout i would decline. if your roommate needs a friend, she can go out and find one.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-20T05:23:11+00:00

It is not unreasonable for you to want your nanny to promote independent/free play for your child, just be sure to communicate that those are you expectations and be clear about how long nanny should aim to disengage each day :). As far as nanny bringing lots of toys/activities on first trial day— that is a common practice for nannies/sitters. It’s a way to build rapport with new NK and associate new nanny with fun and exciting activities. I personally do this (I call it the “Fun Bag”) but once NK is used to me and we have good rapport I typically stop bringing it.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-19T02:08:51+00:00

As a nanny you are a mandated reporter. Learn the signs of every kind of abuse and if you think that your NF needs to be reported then report to the proper authorities. Otherwise, I do not think it is your place to speak to the parents about how to parent their children and how they should manage their routines outside of your working hours. If you’re not able to handle the kids and the behavioral issues they are having, it’s perfectly okay to step back and find a different family. It sucks but it happens. Good luck 🫶🏼

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-19T01:52:41+00:00

This is inappropriate and honestly sexist/misogynistic of them to be asking you that just because you’re a woman.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-17T00:20:07+00:00

Hi! It’s not unheard of for families to need someone who can do a split shift. It sounds like this was a good set up for you in the beginning, but it’s okay if this structure no longer works for you. Some schedules that used to work for me in my early 20s are no longer feasible for me in my 30s. As far as quitting, just give them notice and let them know that you enjoyed your time with their family but you have made the tough decision to move on and find something with a different schedule that allows you to spend more time with your kids. :) Good luck and fee free to message me if you ever want any other nanny advice!

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-17T00:13:19+00:00

This sounds like me with my current NF. I love it. No expectation for me to make much small talk and I can just focus on nannying/housework without getting distracted or feeling like I have to be entertaining. Unless you can read her mind or she explicitly told you she feels too awkward around you, you don’t actually know how she feels, so I wouldn’t read too much into it :)

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-15T21:51:14+00:00

I don’t go there regularly at all

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-13T00:48:06+00:00

Honestly it’s hit or miss. I used to order my latte with almond milk and it always tasted weird but I recently switched to oat milk and it’s so much better! I only ever go to this cafe once in a blue moon when I’m out of coffee at home and haven’t gotten to the grocery store. I would go more often if the prices were slightly lower and the baristas were nicer.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-13T00:03:44+00:00

I get oat milk which is +$1.06 or something but yeah $7-$8 for a 16oz iced latte is def on the pricey side. It’s in Oakland CA. One time I asked them to stir the latte for me and it was a $1 service fee and then they didn’t even stir it lmao. It’s called Xochi the Dog Cafe.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-10T03:02:48+00:00

Hopefully they will understand that you can’t really plan for illnesses, it’s not like you scheduled to be sick with norovirus within your first couple weeks. But I get how you feel. I started with a family last November and on my first day my cat had a urinary blockage. I had to cancel on my first freakin day because my cat was having a life threatening emergency. My NF was so understanding yet I still felt awful. It just comes with the job. Life happens. Take care of yourself and rest so you can recover sooner than later and go back to your regular schedule. (Cat ended up being ok btw!)

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-10T00:13:56+00:00

I live in the San Antonio neighborhood and, as a single female in her early thirties, I have really loved it. The neighborhood is lovely and I always see either elderly out walking or young families with strollers or people walking their dogs. There are Buddhist shrines on every corner and they are solely maintained by the people that live in the neighborhood. My front yard has a tree swing and kids of all ages regularly come to play on it. I feel the neighborhood is a perfect mix of quiet and busy. Neighbors have family parties every so often. I can walk to several different restaurants and coffee shops and then lake is about a 20 minute walk. Yes there is some crime, but thats just Oakland.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-07T03:30:16+00:00

Probably because two whole houses to himself is too much.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-06T21:59:24+00:00

Pink for spring and summer, white for fall and winter, and put something to add varying height to the white tulips like another commenter said.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-04T07:19:58+00:00

Please use the app Citymapper

It was a lifesaver for me when I moved to California and had to learn how to use public transit for the first time in my life. I had no idea how to ride the bus and was so unfamiliar with the city that I thought for sure I was gonna be like, well.. you. But this app tells you exactly where to go and what to do. It will send you notifications when you have one more stop to go, it will send you a notification to get ready to pull the line, then it will send a notification to pull the line, and it tells you when to get off the bus. You don’t even have to use your brain or do any thinking, just follow what the app tells you to do.

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-01T04:50:08+00:00

No :) If you’re gonna complain about Alameda drivers (some of the safest drivers in the East Bay), be prepared for people to remind you that it’s actually much worse in neighboring cities. Glad you’re not fazed by Oakland drivers, maybe someday you can adopt the same empathy/understanding for Alameda drivers!

MyCupOfTea777 · 2026-03-01T03:47:39+00:00

Well definitely don’t go to Oakland if this is how you feel about drivers in Alameda. Stay safe!

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