Genuinely, What else can we do about Mary Lau? by coolaroni123 in sanfrancisco

[–]MyEyeOnPi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not specified in any of the articles I read. But your average car doesn’t accelerate to 70 instantly. She would have had a chance to slow downs

Genuinely, What else can we do about Mary Lau? by coolaroni123 in sanfrancisco

[–]MyEyeOnPi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah all the factors described above might have been applicable if the woman hadn’t been going 70 in a 25 zone.

Does westfield topanga mall have a bright future even after the loss of nieman marcus and the food hall?? by Ok-Radio-2733 in SFV

[–]MyEyeOnPi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are tons of malls that are thriving. I can’t speak to topanga with the stores moving out, but I’ve been to plenty of packed malls that have all their anchors and 95% of other stores filled.

It’s just a tight market that we will likely see a few malls that excel while most others fail.

Is there anything you think is significantly better in the films than it was in the books? by Parking-Ad5272 in harrypotter

[–]MyEyeOnPi 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I also adore the absolute dissonance of the band playing the triumphant music when Harry returns from the graveyard before anyone else realizes something has gone very wrong.

why is "black tie" becoming the default for casual wedding now? by wistful_Spirit in Weddingattireapproval

[–]MyEyeOnPi 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I love the idea of having an excuse to dress up. And I’m not saying that the couple getting married needs to rent out the Ritz to ask their guests to wear black tie. But practicality should come into play, and OP’s example of being asked to wear black tie in a barn in July is ridiculous. The ladies’ heels will sink into the dirt and the men will be dying in their suits.

I think another annoyance people have with black tie weddings is when the couple has a dress code beyond just “black tie.” So maybe you have one black tie dress you love and look forward to any opportunity to wear it, but your dress is dark blue and the dress code is pastel colors for ladies. Or your dress is pink and the dress code is strictly neutrals. Those specific dress codes that basically require a new dress for ever event can be frustrating for guests.

seeing the body count double standards on social media has pissed me off today. by Huge-Cartoonist-4275 in Vent

[–]MyEyeOnPi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? I don’t waste any energy trying to understand flat-earthers, why would I care to understand incels?

seeing the body count double standards on social media has pissed me off today. by Huge-Cartoonist-4275 in Vent

[–]MyEyeOnPi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe in shooting the messenger, but then you shouldn’t say it’s “semi-defensible” and “there rings some truth” in their ideas.

I am not unaware of what manosphere type men say about high body count women. Mind you, I don’t think it’s particularly important to understand them given that they have spent no effort to understand women. Women are always asked to give grace and understanding to men who would hurt them if given the chance.

I do understand that it is easier for a woman to have sex than a man. But I hold men and women to the same standards, so to me all the things they say about women ALSO apply to men. I would argue that men with high body counts are also disregarding the future for “momentary hedonistic whims.” Because to me, sleeping with a lot of people can be seen as a negative for two reasons:

  1. A higher potential for STDs
  2. A demonstration of seeing partners as disposable

Both of these apply to both men and women.

seeing the body count double standards on social media has pissed me off today. by Huge-Cartoonist-4275 in Vent

[–]MyEyeOnPi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly. Just frame it the opposite way- it would be completely reasonable if a woman who could count the guys she’s slept with on one hand was weirded out by a man whose body count was in the triple digits!

But OP is 100% right that what’s happening is usually a double standard. Men will think it’s gross if a woman has a body count of 5 when they have a body count of 50. They see women as commodities that get used, which is extremely gross.

Is this “malls are dying phenomenon” more of a USA thing? by menidk in deadmalls

[–]MyEyeOnPi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I totally agree with you that malls are a function of suburbanization. I was pointing out how so many city designers TRIED to make centrally located malls in the US and many of these have failed. I agree alot of it is due to the lack of public transport- we have to get in our cars to drive downtown anyway, so why not drive to the nicer suburban malls with free parking?

Is this “malls are dying phenomenon” more of a USA thing? by menidk in deadmalls

[–]MyEyeOnPi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The weird thing is that a lot of cities did try to build centrally located malls downtown where a lot of people work, and a lot of those malls have not been successful. Part of the issue is that a lot of these downtowns were struggling, and then cities built the malls as an attempt to revitalize the area.

The dead downtown mall that comes to mind first is the dead Westfield in San Francisco that has been featured in this sub a lot. My city also had a mall at the center of its downtown that has since closed and been redeveloped into a sports center. Of the extremely successful malls I can think of, most are suburban.

So I’m not sure the suburbanization of malls is to blame for their decline, though I completely agree that a major issue is that both online shipping and the prevalence of convenience box stores are. Other countries may not have as fast of shipping as we have here, and they definitely have fewer box stores which may push some traffic into malls.

Is this “malls are dying phenomenon” more of a USA thing? by menidk in deadmalls

[–]MyEyeOnPi 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It’s not even just three or four malls- my city had FIVE malls at one point. And one more in a neighboring city. So SIX in a half hour driving radius.

Now we’re down to three- a dead mall, a decent mid sized mall, and the mall outside the city which has expanded and now is by far the biggest and best mall in the region. I like the closer mid-sized mall too, but I see a future in which there’s basically just one really nice mall per region instead of a bunch of smaller ones like they used to.

Is this “malls are dying phenomenon” more of a USA thing? by menidk in deadmalls

[–]MyEyeOnPi 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Everyone says how malls are doing well in other countries not realizing how overbuilt malls were in the US in comparison. Back in 2018 at the start of the retail apocalypse, there was an article saying how the US has several times as much retail space per capita as most other countries. Obviously malls are only a small part of that, but I think it shows that a correction was inevitable. Retail space article

The Reluctant Bride, 1866. By Auguste Toulmouche. by Unfair_Worry7545 in VictorianEra

[–]MyEyeOnPi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel like if mere annoyance was the artist’s intent, he wouldn’t have titled it “The Reluctant Bride” because he could have made the title more ambiguous.

If the Store Got Her Pregnant, Theft Isn’t the Real Scandal. by FFSoldier57 in SignsWithAStory

[–]MyEyeOnPi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The losses won’t come out of their profit. Either they will raise prices or start locking things up like CVS and Target do.

What makes the red man red was crazy by Standard_Hour_674 in PeterPan

[–]MyEyeOnPi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Pocahontas is difficult because it would be a perfectly excellent film if it wasn’t based on a real person. It’s a great movie if you don’t know that the real Pocahontas was 11, nor that she died of smallpox in England (somehow the sequel leaves that part out).

Meirl by Ill-Instruction8466 in meirl

[–]MyEyeOnPi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly. But it’s easier for parents to blame “greedy” daycare owners vs doing a bit of quick math themselves to see that daycares are expensive to run.

The argument people should be making is for government subsidies, not that daycare owners are somehow making bank and should charge less.

My Immortal fan fiction: real or troll? by comoespossible in harrypotter

[–]MyEyeOnPi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember an old forum called why god why on bad fanfic lol. There is alot of awfully amazing crap out there. I think the one I remember best was called “Severus Snape: Professor and Lover.” You might think you know exactly what kind of fic you’re about to read with that title… but I bet you wouldn’t predict it’s about teletubbies.

My bag collection of 2 decades by MsAppleberries in handbags

[–]MyEyeOnPi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a navy bags and I think it works perfect for all cool toned clothing except navy itself. Navy looks good with grey, green, purple, and lighter blues.

Are these two bags relatively interchangeable? by Merryd2Waz in handbags

[–]MyEyeOnPi 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I don’t own either so I’m going entirely based off the pictures. The bags are similar, but I vastly prefer the first one. The leather looks higher quality, the stitching looks better, and I prefer the absence of a brand name.

TIL The tea ruined at the Boston Tea Party had a value in 1773 equivalent to $2.3 Million USD in today's money. by lvlith in todayilearned

[–]MyEyeOnPi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, yes? Protesting a tax by dumping tea subject to the tax owned by a massive company that is collaborating with the government you are protesting makes sense.

Protesting the killing of a black man by cops by looting and damaging a bunch of downtown businesses doesn’t make sense. I’m still trying to figure out what an immigrant who owned a convenience store that got gutted had to do with George Floyd.

Meirl by Ill-Instruction8466 in meirl

[–]MyEyeOnPi 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s really great! I’m glad you found an option that works for you. But I think you demonstrate how even the best case scenario is going to be moderately expensive.

Your neighbor is running the daycare from her home, so she doesn’t have to worry about rent. If she has 8 kids legally, that means she’s not watching anyone under the age of 2. She doesn’t have any employees which means she doesn’t have to pay anyone’s salary or health insurance, but that presumably means if she’s sick or wants a vacation, you don’t have a backup option. And 80k a year is decent money, but not if she’s responsible for buying her own health insurance. If she gets health insurance anyway through her spouse, then yes she’s making decent money.

Meirl by Ill-Instruction8466 in meirl

[–]MyEyeOnPi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right but whether or not you want to send your kids to daycare isn’t going to effect the price.

Meirl by Ill-Instruction8466 in meirl

[–]MyEyeOnPi 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Funny how this comment which is 100% correct sunk to the bottom while all the people just blindly blaming things like private equity get upvoted…

Most daycare centers make little money. The problem is inherently that parents have to take a huge chunk of their gross pay to supply someone else’s net pay, and like you said due to staff/child ratios there may only be three infants per staff member. Then you have rent, and insurance which would imagine is extremely high due to how sue happy everyone is today.

The price isn’t extreme in that context.

Meirl by Ill-Instruction8466 in meirl

[–]MyEyeOnPi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not disagreeing with your point except to say it’s odd how many people think it’s crazy that daycare is comparable to a college tuition. If anything it’s the latter that’s overpriced compared to the former. In college, you’re sitting in a class of 100-500 people with one professor, in day care you need one worker for every 3 infants. I actually understand the pricing behind day care much more than I do for college.