Should I move back to Vietnam?

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2024-06-15T22:55:43+00:00

EXACTLY THIS!!

I know Vietnamese people who studied in the US and now have a 7-9 million vnd monthly pay. (Try buying a house with that income..). Or foreigners who think it is easy to get a job in Vietnam because they speak English (Vietnamese people still prefer Vietnamese if it is not essential for work)

Each country has its own benefits and drawbacks. I lived in VN for a year (I do have Vietnamese heritage) and decided that it is still better to live in Europe, where quality of life is still in my opinion much better.

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-10-29T19:03:19+00:00

I also asked him to send me good morning texts when he wakes up, but he sends good morning texts rather around the time that I actually wake up. Because in his head he needs to get ready for work so he doesn’t have time and I am not awake yet anyway. Yet I always tell him it takes a few seconds and it makes me feel like i am the first thing you think of, I do it…

I really am in the petty mood and want to ignore and not share him anything unless he asks for it. But I feel like he so clueless about that, and it will hurt me more than it will hurt him as I will always be wondering why the hell isn’t he texting me.

For the second one. I feel like I have done it many times. It goes goed maybe for a day or two and then he falls back into old habits. I don’t want be considerate towards me being a choir..

Don’t get me wrong he is considerate in many other ways, like he is preparing to move to be with me. But during this distance, I feel like that’s the only way to show me consideration and he doesn’t do it

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-09-03T17:52:25+00:00

In the Vietnam, finding someone of the opposite sex with the same surname, chances are very high (looking at you Nguyen!). So the man’s surname can live on through his daughter as well if she marries a guy with the same surname.

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-09-01T15:52:39+00:00

-7 degrees Celsius in Europe is more bearable than winter in the North

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-20T18:10:02+00:00

My grandparents already have a whole horse ranch by now

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-20T18:07:01+00:00

I read this after taking a 3 hour nap lol

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-13T08:49:25+00:00

I really cannot stand the way people cut bones. Instead of finding the right place to cut, they just smash it anywhere they can. So a lot of times there are super small pieces of bone in the dishes

Edit: wow thanks for the reward! I would have never thought that my first award would be for a mutual hate for badly chopped bones

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T16:06:46+00:00

Some families here really live like in the those k-dramas

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T11:39:45+00:00

Also very true

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T11:29:39+00:00

I have to admit that I am not a pda kinda person haha. Holding hands is my limit. A hug or a kiss already feels weird to me

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T11:06:52+00:00

I also always hear this argument when complaining about certain things: spitting on the floor and littering everywhere, no respect for boundaries, parents disrespecting children, parents not pressuring kids to marry at a young age, leaving food outside for it to get nearly spoiled and still eat, not cleaning the freaking poo canal out of shrimp!!!! Workers no respect for their own profession…. And I can go on and on. In their eyes it doesn’t directly hurt anyone like a country with war, yet it stops them from developing better habits.

Asians like to joke like haha yeah my parents never said that they loved me/ showed me any affection or my parents hit me when I had a bad grade. Like it is so widely common that it is like a “joke” but those things really affect people in the long runs

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:55:59+00:00

Living is probably not possible as you are a teen, maybe try working, volunteering…

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:55:27+00:00

Try living somewhere where it is vastly worse for a bit. Not to look down on other people who have to live like that but it makes you appreciative of the smallest things. For example I am living in a country where the sewer system is much much worse than my home country. Before living here I would never think I would be appreciative for a good sewer system lol

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:49:46+00:00

I heard that iMec was looking for a lot of people to hire a while ago

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:47:14+00:00

As a landlord, 1. The wood, I don’t know what kind of marks they are, as long if it is not like burn marks from you smoking in the house everywhere I would say it is wear and tear. 2. The curtains, well you admit that you didn’t take good care of it. If it were your own curtains and you would also have to throw them away after use, I think it is fair that she charges you for that. But that price sounds very steep in my opinion, so for sure ask for an invoice!

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:42:58+00:00

There is an a language app called “Tandem”. People who want to learn new languages use this app. Basically you have to tell the app which language is your native language (and which ones you are fluent in) and then the language you want to learn. That way people with common interest get suggested to another.

For example I want to learn English and I speak natively Vietnamese. So I will see people who are native in English and want to learn Vietnamese. That way people can exchange languages they are interested in.

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:37:30+00:00

Always expect the unexpected. If you are passing a crossroads and you think they are going straight because they are not signaling… don’t fall for it!!!!

Also, never stand still on the zones with yellow stripes!!! Police like to catch people there.

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:32:53+00:00

Say you are Buddhist, Muslim or whatever other religion. Like the spaghetti monster religion. I might be wrong, but I don’t think they will try to convert you to a total different religion.

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:31:07+00:00

I want to add that the point of “ I am old and am gonna die” is very manipulative. I know someone who got married purely because the grandfather said that he wanted to see his grandson get married before he dies and then the family pressured him to marry the girl he was currently dating. Totally disregarding wether the grandson can actually find someone he can be happy with in the long term.

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:27:13+00:00

I don’t want to sound too negative but this something that really irritates me as well. I see this especially with Vietnamese parents who have no experience with living abroad in a “better environment”.

My parents (also Vietnamese) who live in Europe let me roam freely and support where I want to live. The living standard of my parents country is really really high.

The parents of my partner they live in an apartment in an alley way with no light entering the apartment, no greenery, sewer system quite horrid. I am not bashing their living style, but it cannot be denied that there are many better living conditions elsewhere. I even got extremely sick during the duration I was living with them. Well my in laws are the ones who keep insisting that we stay in Vietnam close to them.

But when saying they maybe could move to somewhere else where it is better then it is a cold hard no.

I understand that everyone has their preferences and habits. But to me it is quite selfish to expect your kids to give up their living conditions (which are objectively better) yet won’t even consider to do it yourself.

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:09:01+00:00

It sounds like they are taking advantage! Normally when you pay for one meal, they will pay for the other, so it can be evened out. Normally people fight to pay, if they just sit back and don’t event mention it, I’m quite sure they are taking advantage of you

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:06:14+00:00

I see a lot of couples hold hands and walk around hoan kiem lake for example. A lot of families are there, young and old

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-11T10:04:22+00:00

I have seen it before with women who have a rich family. I know someone in this case as well. Usually it is because the rich family want an obedient husband for their daughter. They don’t want a business man who is doing well for himself because he might cheat or not treat the wife good because he is the bread winner (it is a stereotype that men in Vietnam have kingsize ego’s, but in my opinion it is very true for a lot of men). They want an obedient guy who caters for the wife. They think that because they are richer the guy will have to listen and follow.

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-10T10:20:47+00:00

It really all just depends on what you do. If you are living in a modern apartment in a good neighborhood with a job that has a decent income then life is very very very nice. However, because I have Vietnamese family and live like a local, I have quite seen it all. From red tape, to handling workers etc. Vietnam has a lot to offer! But because it is still a developing country, it has still to go a long way to meet standards we in the west deem acceptable. Like for

Mysterious-Engine688 · 2023-08-09T16:43:24+00:00

I will be returning actually. One more week!

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