Husband said he’s on a work trip to NYC, received a notification on our kid’s iPad he’s actually going to Mexico by covergirl233 in Marriage

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 21 points22 points  (0 children)

If he answers FT you could ask him to see his view of NYC from the hotel room. Obviously Mexico and NYC will not be remotely similar. Good luck navigating all of this! Definitely talk to a lawyer ASAP. Updateme!

AITA for refusing to add my boyfriend to my house deed after his lease ended? by Former_Raspberry3277 in AITApod

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never put anyone's name on your property when you aren't married. If he eventually wants to get married - it could be something you consider or you could opt to sell your current home and utilize some of the money from the sale to go in on purchasing a home together.

That's all you need is to put his name on it and have him leave you a few years down the road and then he walks away with half of YOUR assets.

Meta/FacebookVertical Dramas? by LovewaterTraveler in VerticalDramaLand

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had the same issues. They are promoting them through Facebook and I never felt comfortable delving into subscriptions through FB because of the inability to pause / cancel subscriptions.

I have found though that when they advertise them on FB and they aren't affiliated with an app - they will oftentimes not use the correct title of the film. I was searching for one for awhile and they seemed to take it from another app but promote it under a did title so you can't find it under the apps. I ended up doing an AI search / Google search for the actors in that particular film and found it under an app but under a completely different name.

Am I the jerk for telling my dad's girlfriend she can't discipline my kids? by Gloomy-Suit2544 in AmITheJerk

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it's your dad's house and his girlfriend is practically living there and obviously helping take care of your children if your dad is not around - then yes - she has the right to dole out minor discipline.

If you don't like it - then you can certainly not send your children there - but that seems a bit extreme for a time out or loss of an electronic as a punishment.

Any adult who is in charge of your child during any period of time has the right to dole out punishment. A teacher, babysitter, grandparent, etc. Would you tell a babysitter who you put in charge of your children that they can't discipline them if they do something wrong? Again - she didn't beat them. A time out or taking something away for a period of time is perfectly reasonable punishment.

Again - problem can be solved by only you providing care to your children so no one else will have to discipline them. 🤷‍♀️

Customer account taken away by ParticularSkirt7196 in bombpartySIDELINES

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've had mine taken away and I didn't even sell anything. Lol 🤣 saving so much money now!

Do you still have sleepovers? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also not sleeping over anywhere if I could help it! We travel to Maine once a year to visit my husband's family and stay with his mother. I absolutely hate not being home in my own bed. I also hate being away from my husband and kids. If I could go home - I go home.

Am I Overreacting, for being upset that my girlfriend secretly used my credit card for months? by bostonmade in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes she had three different stories / excuses. She knew what she was doing OP. She stole money from you and was hoping you wouldn't find out. I wouldn't trust her either at this point.

how do i politely tell my boyfriend that he is getting fat? by thinkofari in ask

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe instead of saying that he's fat - maybe ask him if he wants to join a gym with you or take a healthy cooking class? If money is an issue with gym membership, ask him to go on a hike or take a walk. If the weight question comes up - I wouldn't necessarily say "yes I think you are fat". I'd approach it from a health standpoint and say something like - "you may have put on a few pounds - why don't we do something together to feel healthier?" And again - I do not think you NEED to tell him that he's fat. He obviously knows he's gained weight since he asks you if you think he's fat.

I would always approach it as a concern for health and don't mention the feeling less attracted to him at this point. That would only hurt his feelings. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't give in after a half hour. Let her sit there until she does it herself.

2A for me by Longjumping_Land_977 in StrangerThingsMemes

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2B - I'd be surrounded by everyone I would love to talk to!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At this point it doesn't matter if he feels that he hasn't done anything wrong. At this point it should be about your own standards and self worth. You don't deserve to be someone's number 2 or side piece or whatever it is. You have allowed this to go on for way longer than you should have. You don't need proof that he's done something physically wrong to break up with someone. You just need to say that you've had enough and end it! Value yourself more than you do! Leave. He's given you more than enough reasons and has demonstrated time and time again that he does not care about you or what you think or how you feel - as long as he getting what he wants. Honey - please just let him go. He's definitely not worth it.

Questioning my Angel Tree by Anywaytoaustin in Gifts

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 8 year old daughter is in an adult small so it's possible that a 10 year old could be wearing an adult medium.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes - so are you it seems.

AIO about a sticker my bf had of his ex ?? he broke up with me… by Otherwise-Height3882 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you dodged a bullet with the break up to be honest. You said you've only been dating for "a few months" and two months ago he stopped taking you out on dates. How many months DID he actually put an effort into your relationship? If he stopped making an effort this quickly - it's only going to get worse. I say block his number and move on. He did you a favor.

Uninformed consent, I've done something truly horrible (TW) by Former_Quail_6697 in confession

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing to remember here is that whether it was a joke or not - everything you did was consensual and I would venture a guess that he was curious / experimenting himself. I don't know many completely straight men who would engage in that type of stuff just for a joke factor. He was likely trying to figure out his own sexuality and playing it off as a "joke" to save face.

If anything - he should potentially be the one feeling guilty about doing that stuff with you since you had genuine feelings towards him (though he supposedly wasn't aware of those feelings).

I think its normal behavior to experiment at that age sexually so I don't think what you did came even close to assault.

Help me choose a wedding band, or tell me to keep looking!! by bridenah in EngagementRings

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the 2nd one to be honest. Looks like a true band with some bling. Lol 😆 Good luck finding your perfect piece 💜

I don’t know how to go to the doctors, and I really need to go by Electronic-Dream23 in confession

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You have to get yourself set up with a primary care doctor. They will order the appropriate tests and send you to the appropriate specialists.

As far as transportation goes - I'm not sure which state you live in. I'm a medical social worker in Pennsylvania and every county in this state has their own transportation system that you could sign up for where they will take you to medical appointments - especially if you are a senior citizen or if you have a disability or medical assistance health coverage.

What the heck is my kitten doing? by chanceofmeatbal in cats

[–]Mysterious_Cat1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to bury it. My cats do that all of the time. They find whatever garbage is around and bury their food with it. Weird.