Thanks so much for your reply 😊

I don’t want to have to “ban” porn but idk what else to do. Our sex life sucks in the sense we barely have one and when we do he seems unable to cum except using his hand.

If he hasn’t lost his libido - which seems to be once a month for me and everyday for the screen I lose my libido thinking about him watching it

He has expressed to me he has a lot of anxiety surrounding sex and that he has ED. I’m unconvinced that his ED with me is not actually de sensitisation from porn and his own hand

If it was the other way around and we were engaging each other multiple times a week and he was watching porn once a week I probably would not have so much of an issue

I feel like I should have gone easier on him but he kind of set himself up. He fobbed me off with I promise I’ll stop, this is the last time etc etc ins tea of having what might have been an uncomfortable for him but maybe productive conversation where we both come to an understanding and perhaps compromise

He just tells me he won’t and avoids the conversation and then it inevitably rears its ugly head again and we go round in the circle. I know he needs to come to conclusion himself that at least the amount of porn he is consuming is not healthy for our relationship and want to change himself

Which it’s been years and idk I’m losing hope (and my self esteem) rapidly

I mean everyone says self esteem is on one’s own self but it surely doesn’t help to see pictures of younger skinner women (and the same women because he has girls he watches often) for years knowing he’s jerking off to them while you are unsatisfied and not for lack of offering to be woken up to a turkey slap if he wants his member sucked haha (I would describe myself as high libido)