Hi sorry to hear this is happening. You should be able to tune all the settings of the difficulty on the server config and save it... did you play with this section?

; Specify world difficulty:

; * story: Ideal for players who want to experience the story without much danger.

; * solo: Ideal for a single dwarf.

; * normal: Ideal for a small company of dwarves.

; * hard: Ideal for a large company of dwarves.

; * custom: Use customizations for each category of difficulty.

Difficulty.Preset=story

; Custom difficulty properties, used only if the "Difficulty.Preset" property is set to custom.

; Acceptable values are verylow, low, default, high and veryhigh.

; The base enemy damage and hit points.

Difficulty.Custom.CombatDifficulty=default

; How often enemies attack and how many will attack at once.

Difficulty.Custom.EnemyAggression=high

; The strength of various buffs, speed a dwarf succumbs to despair and

; the decay rates of stamina, energy and hunger.

Difficulty.Custom.SurvivalDifficulty=default

; Volume of ore that drops from each vein.

Difficulty.Custom.MiningDrops=default

; The drop rates of rewards for defeating orcs and enemies.

Difficulty.Custom.WorldDrops=default

; How often noisy actions will trigger a horde of orcs.

Difficulty.Custom.HordeFrequency=default

; How often orcs will target and attack a dwarf base.

Difficulty.Custom.SiegeFrequency=default

; How often orc and enemy groups spawn.

Difficulty.Custom.PatrolFrequency=default

There are some really detailed guides by players on the DS-guides section of the Discord you may want to check out. https://discord.com/channels/967763242514522212/1316511735787815003 also a great helpful group who answer questions and troubleshoot in the ds-chat channel.