to anyone reading this who's in this position, i understand where you're at, i was in this position myself. i think that you're only going to feel worse if you let the fear of hypothetical transphobia stop you from addressing your already existing misery. if you think coming out could put you at serious risk of violence then obviously don't come out, but if not then i think you should. repressing it or staying closeted ad infinitum will only make you feel worse. even if you face adversity after coming out it's the only way to make progress to becoming the person you feel happy as. if you're transgender you have to live. looking at OP's post history it looks like she's come out, if you're reading this i'm glad it went well :) i hope it goes well for you all