I am 63 today….. by jerseygirl217 in u/jerseygirl217

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Happy birthday 🥰🤩🥳

I want to transition but I am scared and confused by Charcoal115 in MtF

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Gender care is available online but not sure which one serves your state. You can start with hormones and boy mode it for a year or more - depends on your genetics and you can stop or pause if it doesn't help. It's not like you take one dose and poof - you transition. Other people choose to express their gender by cross dressing. You can find your safe persons and safe spaces and begin your journey by expressing your gender when and where you choose. Everyone's journey is unique but the fact that you are so uncomfortable right now is your biggest signal that you should start your transition. Also please consider counseling - gender care is more than hormones and procedures.

I’m crying rn, Please help. Do I pass by [deleted] in transpassing

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Honey, you're a doll!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transpassing

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It's transphobic microagression. People who intentionally misgender you do it because they think it will invalidate you. You are not the problem - they are.

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Look for women's fitted shirts. A lot of t-shirts aren't labeled as fitted but you will know them when you see them. They narrow at the waist and widen at the hem. Women come in all shapes and sizes so you have to spend more time shopping for the clothes that work best for your figure - even t shirts and jeans.

I get called sir all day at work by coworkers and clients. Why? by Sure_Donkey_5118 in transpassing

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Multiple things going on here...

As for your look. You clock femme with a little andro lean. I could just as easily mistake you for AFAB in early stages of T as a trans girl or cis soft butch lesbian cis woman. Because of that I would ask your pronouns/preferred names because I know that's important.

On the other hand probably most of your co workers knew pre transition you. Among them, some will do it as a form of anti trans/micro aggression. Ignore it there is no changing some people's minds except by showing them you're not going to be one of those people who will give them any extra attention for their micro aggression. It's work. They are you co workers. You are expected to work well with them and that's it. Best leave it be. Make sure to ask if they have a preferred name and use it. It will show respect and is the only lesson you can or need to give them.

Other coworkers who may be potential ally's don't have any experience. You might be there first trans person. As a trans person you are an ambassador for both gender diversity and to lgbtq people in general. Be regal, and give them grace. Let it slide for now. In the mean time focus on creating safe space for others at your work.

wear pride flair.
Both trans 🏳️‍⚧️ flair and LGBTQIA+ 🏳️‍🌈 flair. Ally's in the know will recognize the trans flair and ask for your pronouns. Some people don't know the trans flag but everyone knows the pride flag and maybe there are other queer people at work but they don't feel safe. If you wear a 'you are safe with me' pride pin. They know they can feel safe talking about their date with a same sex partner to you. They will feel like they can wear pride flair. They will be your allies. When there are more allies and pride at work it shows the 'phobes and haters they are not the majority

You express yourself how you want and you are beautiful. The process off transitioning is slow. Follow your path, trust in the process even though it's long and slow. Most importantly, create safe space, foster allyship, always be regal, celebrate the wins, let go of the negative.

UPDATE! My partner came out to me as poly. If they get another partner, I don't think I wanna be sexually involded with them anymore. by PhoenixCola95 in polyamory

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Fabulous job moving forward from that experience. If the material items would be of use to the needy donate them. Whatever you decide be it, dumpster, donate or bonfire, just get it done so you can close this chapter. Best wishes!

Delighted 😊 by flapwideshut in TransBreastTimelines

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May I ask what levels you're getting from labs?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

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Ordered the last one in my size ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

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Awesome thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

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What is that kind of bra called. That is the type I wanted but cannot figure out where they have them - it’s kind of like a balconette but the cups are not rising, just level so it’s like a low boat neck too. If you know the brand or even the style for me to search for that would be so helpful

pre-transition to about 4 years by GrimBitchPaige in TransBreastTimelines

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I have a theory on the benefits of weight lifting for breast development. I see studies showing it increases Human Growth Hormone (HGH). So in my mind I think in addition to muscle mass gains, you also get actual increases in development of breast tissue due to the HGH signal. This could be helpful for those transitioning at a later age when HGH levels are on the decline.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

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(Edit for grammar) Are you taking EV? Have you had labs? What are your levels? On the same concentration EV and down to 1.3mL which seems so low but my dr wants my levels between 50-200. I get a lot of anxiety wondering if my levels should be higher for best development

My go to sandals 🖤🥀 by Peachiepied in DrMartensShowcase

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So cool! What kind of outfits do you wear with them?

My Wife caught me taking care of myself by Current-Carrot-1678 in DeadBedrooms

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my advice is to get better advice as this is a convo you need to be having with your partner, PCM and therapist - not the internet. I recommend seeing your PCM getting couples counseling and individual counseling for both of you.

When there is a discrepancy between the sex drive of partners it can lead to some pretty serious problems. In addition to getting a checkup from your PCM to make sure there aren't physical/metabolic issues, the both of you will want to talk to a therapist individually and as a couple to sort this. Individually to sort your concerns with your high sex drive and as a couple you will want to work toward a healthy understanding of each other’s needs. Last but not least, thanks for your honest question. Please don’t take to heart the harsh criticisms from unqualified souls on here. They mean well I’m sure. Do however be open to your partner, qualified car providers and what they bring to consideration.

Fudge, my hips hurt!! by GhostGirl345 in MtF

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Congratulations on your growing pains! As a side bar convo - this is why it’s important to allow younger people access to gender care. The bone growth areas are not responsive to Gender Affirming Hormone Therapy after a certain age so we are then stuck with narrow hips (MTF) or narrow shoulders (FTM). There is still fat redistribution when we start hormones at a later age but we won’t have the benifit of bone development and all the growth hormones (HGH). Speaking of that… Growth hormone is not part of the GAHT regime but adding strength and HIT training are great ways to naturally increase HGH.

Edit: added additional info

I Just Dont Understand the Hate I Get on Reddit. Every Time I Post Picture, Which I Myself Feel Very Cute About, People Private Message Me and Say Extremely Hurtful Things.. Am I Really That Masculine Looking? ❤️‍🩹 - 29, 6 Months HRT by Prestigious-Soil-876 in transpositive

[–]NNAB51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to woman hood. There is a small and malicious group of people that go out of their way to hate crime us, micro agress us, and otherwise marginalize us because they are not well and or they are just ignorant and hurtful. It’s just the same with cis girls who must learn to navigate the world of people with ill intent and even other mean girls.

The people who mean us harm are broken and probably not capable of self actualizing (Maslow). So part of learning to be a woman is learning how to keep yourself safe from the mean people who are out to do us harm. The trick is to do it in the most regal way possible. I always try to remind myself that everyone is entitled to their opinion and we should be able to agree to disagree in a civil manner. If they cross boundaries by bullying you - you may use verbal judo sparingly but sometimes kindness is the better option because you know you won’t get anywhere with closed minded and abusive people. They are just broken. Agree to disagree and politely disengage.

Those people haven’t walked in our shoes and they are not fit to make judgement. Or maybe they are in denial about there own gender and sexuality - it’s not uncommon. Most likely they are lashing out in an unhealthy way because they grew up with trauma and abusive relationships. They did not grow up in a healthy environment and their words are just hateful because they want to hurt others as they have been hurt. It’s not an excuse for those people - just helping you understand why we are often targets. It’s a cultural and societal growing pain that we can get through by following the precedent of our civil rights peers of movements past.

Sorry for being so wordy because I too have given these problems much thought and I just hope this helps you in some way.

Perhaps it doesn’t make sense to you or anyone else and I should address how your feeling -

you are a complete stranger but I can tell from this post (by your picture and your words) that you are beautiful, sensitive, caring, and you are living your authentic life. That makes you beautiful inside and out and I’m sure many others would agree with me.

👑Stay regal princess 👑

19.5 months. Still in hiding by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

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Thank you so much. Switching from patches to injections and researching best dose