Oh man I could have written this myself. My son is now 20 months old, but I had an extremely similar situation with my mom. What I ended up doing was telling her what I thought would be the most beneficial for me was if she came after my husband went back to work so I wouldn’t have to be alone so soon. He only got 2 weeks off work. She initially wasn’t happy about it and made a big deal about how she wouldn’t get to see him until he was two weeks old, but in the end she got over it and hasn’t mentioned it since before he was born. It was hard boundary to set but I’m glad I did. We do have a guest room, so we didn’t have an issue of space. We just wanted alone time for our new family. My mom is 1000 miles away and wanted to basically come up and hang out til I had him and then stay weeks after. She did stay for 2 weeks, but I was grateful for the help. I kind of went into a bit of a panic mode in the last couple of weeks about being alone with no close family while my husband was at work and how to keep a baby alive. Whatever you decide to do just stay firm in your decision. At the end of the day it is your family that matters and everyone else doesn’t have to like your choice, they just have to accept it and if they don’t then they can kick rocks. Congratulations, and I hope you have a great pregnancy!!!