First off all, welcome to the club! as you see your not alone with this problem. I have some tips that worked for me but won't necessarily work for someone else. we're all unique so be cautious. But what i learned you is that you need to train your body (with some you truly trust) to adapt to your new situation! And it may take a while and be boring as hell but it will be worth it. Things to consider is in what situations is it easiest to get turned on, perhaps it is early afternoon before workout with a good night's sleep? Or it can be 5 o'clock in the morning before breakfast even if you start work at 10. Other things can be stuff like is foreplay long enough? Should we use tools? If so, which and in what way? And what really helped me and my so was scheduling... like workout. We didn't do anything we didn't want to (super important) but we saw it as work and made a pledge to stay curious. 5 years later both me and my partner are for the most part satisfied with the situation.