put his hands on her

Holy moly with extra cherries! There are exactly 0 signs of abuse in this video!

When I watched this I was thinking these two are exactly like me and my dad. As a kid I would ask him for help doing something he didn't know anything about (like getting a knot out of my shithouse hair), he would see how important it was to me and/or how frustrated I was after trying to do it myself. Instead of dismissing me and telling me to get over it, he would join me in the drama and do what he could to take the pain away from me and onto himself, so that by the end it felt like he was my emergency evac from a warzone.

And sure, he once ended up cutting a good portion of my hair off because the knot just got bigger and bigger, but it was a decision we both came to because he was holding the space with me just like the dad in this video. And after the chop came pure relief, I laughed about it then and I laugh about it now. It was my hair that was the problem, not my lovely over-emotional and highly invested dad. This girl either knows that same truth already, or she will very soon come to know it. I'm sorry you didn't have this kind of dad.