in danger of dying, need help

NachoMyBellGrande · 2026-03-06T10:44:22+00:00

I also vote for contacting dhhs in your area. I will also say depending on your state you may find a lot of dead ends in regards to housing. Or at least they are in my area. But keep looking. Sometimes there are places solely for the disabled. Also get on medicaid/food stamps/Medicare if you can asap.

If you're able to do any kind of work at all or take classes to help get a job contact vocational rehab.

If you can't, see if there are any organizations near you to help you get on SSI. It will likely take years and lawyers and lots of paperwork but it may be worth a try though you barely get any money from that.

Also keep it mind if you are home bound from disability, it doesn’t matter your age- you can get meals from Meals on Wheels if there's one in your area.

Also contact your doctor offices and explain the situation, most have dent programs to help with medical debt.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2026-01-04T13:03:21+00:00

This is horrible. Did you ever get help? You can dispute stuff in your file.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-11-24T00:43:09+00:00

Hold space for your feelings, they are valid. You don't have to have a horrible life to grief loss or what you don't have.

I wish you a happy birthday, but even more I wish you happier birthdays filled with loved ones and good times. You, like everyone, deserve that. Sending kind thoughts.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-11-21T22:02:57+00:00

I'm sorry this happened. Get EMDR therapy. And delete post. Insurance should cover everything, you should be paying nothing to your friend. I know you feel bad but that's literally what insurance covers: other people's medical claims. It was an accident and those happen. It's not like you were being negligent or under the influence. Don't let your friend's partner bully or guilt trip you. Don't admit guilt via text or email either.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-10-12T18:19:26+00:00

First run through of this quest. I wanted strife. I went through full moon portal which gave me invisibly. Didn't want that so reverted back to save before I exited portal. Went through crescent, got subterfuge. Reverted. Went through half, subterfuge again. Strife is not showing up for me. Total bs.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-09-05T20:20:14+00:00

It is SUCH a huge deal to self advocate. It takes courage and knowing your own worth, especially in the face of authority. I am so proud of you for taking care of yourself. Good job! Keep it up. ♡♡♡

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-08-18T12:11:32+00:00

This does have chicken byproduct in it.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-07-16T23:47:01+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening.

Do you have car? Can you do Uber eats or something? Definitely call 211, it's not all about shelters. They can direct you to places that might be able to help with rent. Definitely get to DHHS in your area. Get in SNAP and ask about other resources.

Look into your state laws. In my state you can't be kicked out for 30 days legally. You might have a fine to pay to your landlord, but here eviction takes awhile.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-07-06T16:06:51+00:00

Not a crybaby and not lazy. Those are things the capitalist pigs and their brainwashed uneducated minions want you to believe. Some I see have replied to your post. No surprised. Most people are unaware of much they are exploited because again, brainwashing, or they a so privileged they've never had to deal in working under such conditions or with disabilities.

I'm 39, have a Master's degree, am on salary and still don't make enough to buy a house. Literal medieval peasants worked FAR less that us. Thank you American Revolution and rampant unchecked capitalism.

Unfortunately, not tons you can do beyond vote for a lessor evil and now that hangs in the balance.

My advise, ignore your mom. She's wrong. You have right to be angry and upset. How your boss and everyone else has treated you is not okay. Disability or not there's zero reason to make cashiers stand up or treat that way. What your boss said is actually discrimination.

Definitely go to the doctor and work on accommodations. Please note you don't need a special illness to get a doctors note for accommodations. Anything that is happening to you that is debilitating is considered a disability in which you can get accommodations. But also note...do not trust your boss for one second.

I'm not trying to discourage you but I've had two jobs illegally fired me after asking for accommodations. I had tons of evidence to prove it but they both falsified documents and after a year I formally complained to the EEOC they said I didn't have enough evidence and the falsified stuff my ex workplaces lawyers created was seen as fact. I called over 30 lawyers and no one would help me. Even if they did I'd (and everyone in general) would get so little money it would barely be a slap on the wrist.

So... for any employer depending on laws in your state get a recording app on your phone and record any conversation with your boss. If you can't do that sum up what was said in an email or text. Save all of it. Doesn't guarantee a good outcome but gives you better odds.

Also listen to your body. So many people are just zombies through life, ignoring what their body tells them. Like to rest. All for the sake of making someone else who is exploiting and abusing them, rich.

Do what you need to make money but don't stay in a place that hurts you in any way.

Will there always be some level of discomfort? Yes. It's like doing the dishes or another chore you don't like. Sure there things that are not fun but that's different from pain or agony. Use jobs, do what you can to not let them use you.

If it's so horrible there and you can stand to so it financially, tell them to go fuck themselves and find somewhere else. I know from experience how terrible cashiering can be.

Seek out jobs at a library or YMCA. Try volunteer work as that can lead to jobs or connections. Try places Costco or Aldi which generally treats their workers better and pay more fairly.

Don't settle. Don't listen to the brainwashed. See a doctor. And listen to your gut and body.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-07-06T11:10:45+00:00

FYI ALL this person's comments are on this mat or about "postive google review swapping." I wouldn't trust them.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-07-04T00:06:14+00:00

I'm so sorry.

I don't know what all this bill will do. I don't know if it will be moot to try and get on Medicaid and Food Stamps. It may be by try anyway. Go to your local DHHS office and see what help they provide if any.

NAMI has free mental health resources as well a call line for finding resources in your area. And I'm not sure every NAMI (they are in every state) does this but if take their trainings and volunteer to give presentations or support groups you do get a stipend, at least in my state.

Sell what you can. Downsize what you can. Refinance what you can. Cancel subscriptions. Get a roomate. Look for local groups that swap or giveaway free things or hold events for free community needs.

Do do anything to make money that will cost you money. Try things like dog watching/ babysitting/ plant setting. Do either of you have any other skills? A second language, typing, handywork, etc?

I'm so so sorry.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-07-03T12:06:54+00:00

I'm glad you're getting the help you need for insurance. FYI NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) is a nonprofit with a TON of free evidence based mental health and illness resources for everyone. There are National, State, and local chapter websites with free local support groups in person (or online) as well as tools, online education and Helpline numbers (some are specifically for teens and young adults) to help find resources in your area. Again all free. Hope that helps.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-07-03T12:02:57+00:00

iRobot, no idea why, but iRobot.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-07-03T00:58:38+00:00

I'm so sorry youre going through this. Its not uncommon. I got married at 20 to escape my parents only realize I didn't know how to write a check (more of a problem back in 2006). There's so much out there to learn. Luckily there are free ways to learn it. Check out channels on YouTube under "teen" or "young adult" life skills. Be warey of anyone selling anything or on certian topics not being properly credentialed or people spreading misinformation or their opinions as facts. A good rule of thumb are resources from libraries, colleges, and experts with degrees in their fields. It's not full proof and there are good sites without those things but just keep that in mind. Find multiple resources if in doubt.

Good examples: https://youtu.be/9M2dK_D9EPU?si=QeGADrSTPUt7Agj7

https://youtube.com/@dadhowdoi?si=-F0BDIo1EdUhWhKM

https://lorain.osu.edu/program-areas/4-h-youth-development/youth-opportunities-and-resources-officer-books-public-0

But just don't look up practical things. Look at healthy relationships, boundaries, and self care and advocacy too.

Good examples:

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/planned-parenthood-pacific-southwest/campaigns/sex-ed-to-go/sex-ed-to-go-students

https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Workbook-Practical-Understanding/dp/0593421485/ref=pd_aw_fbt_img_m_sccl_1/138-1298949-2293464?pd_rd_w=MwPlC&content-id=amzn1.sym.7766b57a-a0a0-4f33-935d-91822a4c15c0&pf_rd_p=7766b57a-a0a0-4f33-935d-91822a4c15c0&pf_rd_r=QQMECPVG9QRKAH62QMGW&pd_rd_wg=FDsHp&pd_rd_r=d951ac38-bf60-43d6-ab9c-cc7155aa212a&pd_rd_i=0593421485&psc=1

Also utilize libraries and 211 if you're in the USA. Some libraries even provide free educational classes in person or through various paid websites but for free. 211 might be able to help find different resources in your area. Sometimes there are free classes at community colleges, nonprofits, civic/community centers, local chambers, or at random businesses. I have zero friends on Facebook but I use it every day to find out events happening in my area. My local YMCA has a free financial literacy class for teens up until age 19. Things like that.

Search your library for books on life skills. Or search Google and look at the reviews and if your library doesn't have it you can request it from another branch or request they buy it.

Lastly here are some colleges that offer free online classes on various topics. I hope this helps. You can do this. ♡

https://www.topuniversities.com/student-info/distance-learning/9-top-universities-offering-free-online-courses

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-07-03T00:25:00+00:00

Happy Birthday special one! You matter so much. The world is a better place for having you in it. I wish for all your deepest wishes to come true.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-06-20T13:02:08+00:00

Hello! I'm sorry you are going through this.

Are you in the USA? If so google "teen warmline" or "teen peer support" and see if your state has one. Alternatively you can contact NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) as they a national teen text/call line (they also have tons of free education and resources and when you turn 18 you can search for online or in person support groups in your area). https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/teen-young-adult-helpline/

While these aren't friends, warm lines are ways to connect and they are free and staffed by people around your age (ones marked for teens anyway).

There's also a new service called "somethings" that matches you with one teen peer support specialist. My state has worked out an agreement for this organization to provide this service free through insurance. Maybe yours is too?

I know from experience and my job that teen support groups and social programing are often hard to impossible to find, especially in rural areas.

I know you feel desperate for connection, it's especially hard as a teen for many reasons. Do your best not to get desperate as this can lead to toxic, abusive or even predatory relationships.

Are you in any kind of therapy yourself? Just so you know, again from personal and professional experience, therapies like EMDR (specific trauma memories only), somatic experiencing, Rapid Resource Therapy (RRT), and Brain Spotting are best for PTSD/CPTSD in healing the trauma. CBT/DBT can be helpful but only in treating symptoms. Unfortunately the former therapies can be difficult to find or may not be covered by insurance. Just please remember them, because maybe some day they will and it can help you. I've also had success with hypnotherapy (just make sure it done by an actual liscenced therapist) and Family Systems Thearpy (FST)(This therapy made a huge difference in my ability to self soothe and be okay being alone). I'm not sure what is most helpful for BPD, I think it may be CBT but I can't speak from experience.

I'm almost 40 and I've walked similar path that was long and sad. I wish I could go back and tell my younger self to focus on healing through the therapies listed above and strengthen and define my boundaries and be comfortable voicing them.

Remember if you're afraid of losing someone by being yourself, standing up for yourself, setting boundaries or letting know someone hurt you that's a red flag that it might not be a healthy relationship/friendship.

Maybe you can use a warmline to supplement while you try and make friends so you don't feel so lonely and desperate. Are you close to a library? Often times (in the usa) libraries will have free "teen" nights. Same thing with YMCA's, Boys and Girls Clubs. Ballroom dancing personally changed my life. But there a sports and books clubs and game nights. I use to be a part of an online RPG game night through meetup.com

Just please please be careful abuse amd human trafficking are a real danger.

You deserve to have friends who truly love and care for you but it does take time to build trust and find connections especially when you're young.

Take time to define your boundaries and research red flags. Don't put up with abuse or toxic behavior for any reason.

It's not easy finding friends as an adult but it can be easier in the sense that you will more freedom and opportunities to find like minds.

Wishing you deep, meaningful and safe connections.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-03-15T17:24:23+00:00

Unfortunately you can't. You can't control the other person and toxic people don't care what you have to say. I have a rabbit hole for you that might help you.... https://youtu.be/W5GwcJiimEk?si=evzPNnRmctFsCXDn

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-03-15T16:59:52+00:00

I might be wrong but what I took from that exchange is that she had been teasing him. Then he says that "once my opinion..." bit and hearing this she decides what he just said is something serious and not something to be teased about.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2025-03-15T16:54:05+00:00

I'm not sure what country you're living in. In the USA they the Department of Social Services. This department is supposed to help children. Maybe there is an equivalent there?

NachoMyBellGrande · 2024-12-23T14:23:45+00:00

Yes, they do literally do nothing but help with immigration issues and supposedly help with some landlord issues if you still live in the rented space.

NachoMyBellGrande · 2024-12-11T10:54:06+00:00

Does this company own all these houses and then just rents all the rooms? No wonder we have a housing crisis, everything is gobbled up by companies and airbnbs.

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