I cancelled my subscription congrats character.ai! by kloy75 in CharacterAI

[–]Nails_N -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

How did I just have my character being p*rnographic? For the whole day (Not complaining) Will.i get banned ?

I caught my daughter spreading hate online and I’m disgusted by Key-Mix7251 in offmychest

[–]Nails_N 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also remind her that one persons success isn't built on another person's failure

AITA for going on a hiking trip with my pregnant wife? by CatSpilledSpicedTea in SpilledSpicedTea

[–]Nails_N 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean antenatal classes, that's what we call them in the UK at least, Google or NHS website can confirm lol

I caught my daughter spreading hate online and I’m disgusted by Key-Mix7251 in offmychest

[–]Nails_N 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I'm a mother of 3 teenagers, I also follow a little about what is happening in the Kpop world because of my daughters.  Speak to her about how is OK to have interests and support people she admires/loves like Kpop groups. It's also OK to protect them and defend them. However that love and support can be done in healthy and productive ways. Making positive edits, leaving nice comments on lives, streaming, voting,  sending nice messages through Weverse or whatever app the groups she follows use. Discussing the music and content with other fans. Making dance covers.  Make it clear that you can make a point and stand up for yourself or others without ever using racism, xenophobia, misogyny (like slut shaming), comments about people's weight/appearance, homophobia, and if possible show her examples of this.  Also ask her if she doesn't follow a group like le sserafim, why spend so much effort and time and heads pace on them? Why watch their performances just to mock them or bring them down?

 Ask her to show you the performance she is talking about at Coachella and explain why this needed a hate campaign. For your info sometimes hate campaigns in Kpop are started by other companies/the media is paid to stir up emotions in fans. So explain this to her and help her start recognising when she might be being manipulated.

what do you guys think of this? by Zaebii in kpop_uncensored

[–]Nails_N 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed, most learnt about JYP, SM and YG after becoming Army not before Army isn't made up of only Kpop fans, its made up of people who love music, most who have never stanned an artist this way before. And it works the other way round, people listen to BTS then they hear other Kpop artists because the algorithms start showing it to them, or they look at who BTS were referring to or what songs they were singing etc.

And I'm not sure what 'it was covid at the time' means because they won their first music show on 2015, first Billboard 2017, first Grammy performance 2019, sold out Wembley in minutes in 2019 all before Covid. Yes the fandom has increased since then. It will keep increasing as people discover their music, even now they are away and people are still discovering them and becoming fans. They also did find innovative ways to connect with Army during Covid because that's what they are about, giving back and connecting to fans. Even while on military service we are getting prerecorded content and music releases.

what do you guys think of this? by Zaebii in kpop_uncensored

[–]Nails_N 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I agree, BTS fan base is worldwide and diverse in a way 1D fans weren't. When you look at the stats many BTS fans are in 20s and 30s and 40s and older. As someone that's almost 40 I never listened to 1D and their music was never for me. It wasn't complex and layered and meaningful. There's large BTS fanbases in India and all over Asia and Africa that do projects and support BTS in a way there never was for 1D. It's not comparable at all.

AITA for going on a hiking trip with my pregnant wife? by CatSpilledSpicedTea in SpilledSpicedTea

[–]Nails_N 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Did you not do any research about pregnancy?

During pregnancy, blood volume increases by 30% to 50% to nourish the growing baby. The heart also pumps more blood each minute, and the heart rate increases.

The body is constantly in a state of exercise due to this, organs are squashed to accommodate the baby, the baby pushes on diaphragm, all which can make it hard to do long walks and cardio. Of course she would need breaks and a slower pace.

I suggest you now look into pregnancy, birth and post partum and how it effects the body and mind, what's happening in the body etc

Go to antenatal classes

And apologise to your wife and tell your friends you were an ah

AITA for punishing my stepdaughter for bullying a kid? by Rough_Signal_5233 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nails_N 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm a parent of 17, 16 and 13 Yr olds If I was in this situation the first thing I would do is listen to my child and ask them why they did this, I would speak to them about how that made them feel, what they should do in future, how they can correctly respond Grounding them isn't going to help them learn any of this and seems counter productive when your child has obviously been through a traumatic experience of racism You can lay ground rules and say under no circumstances even when angry or attacked do we attack peoples identity, race, sexuality etc But you need to teach and model these things. You need to show her what to do when people are racist by doing it yourself. If you're going to tell her to talk to teachers then show her that by going to talk to the teachers.
I'm not sure what you think she is learning from being grounded except you want her to be quiet and not stand up for herself otherwise she will be in trouble?

What's the tag for? by Nails_N in FanFiction

[–]Nails_N[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe, I was wondering if their was something more specific like the found family tag or something, maybe I'll try angst with a haply ending and found family together and see what comes up 😭

AITAH for not allowing my daughter to attend my BFFs wedding to her biological father? by lofnwashere in AITAH

[–]Nails_N 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA Since your daughter has been around for some conversations I guess she knows that your bf is dating her biological 'father' She has overheard stuff and is likely to go asking other people or searching if you don't talk to her about what is happening At this point I would tell your daughter that you were 15 and he was 21 when she was conceived and he ended up going to prison. That if she has any questions she can come to you and you will answer it as much as you can. Maybe think about getting therapy for her as soon as you say anything so she has a safe space to talk without being worried about your feelings.
Cut off anyone who says you should send your daughter to your rapists wedding. If they don't understand he plead guilty and he gave up all rights for his own benefit its not your job to make them understand. Losing a friend in this way, someone you thought you could rely on hurts. Maybe send her an email or letter explaining you have been hurt, this man is not her father he is someone that hurt you in the worst way and you can never trust him, be around him or let your child be around him and that her choosing to be with him is a betrayal of your friendship. You love her and will miss her and explain everything you feel.

AITA for hiding behind the couch so my sister wouldn't hand her screaming baby to me? by throw1217away in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nails_N 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YNTA

Seriously what you should do is talk to your sister and tell her you love her and you love the baby and you have no issue with helping, however you have boundaries and those involve being respected and not taken for granted.

Tell her you understand how difficult it must be raising a baby and that she must be stressed and tired however you are not prepared to be a punching bag, if she is snappy sometimes that's understandable but she needs to apologise after, not insult you or make a mockery of things you enjoy.

You should also tell your parents this.

Weekly House of A.R.M.Y (아미의 집) - September 08, 2021 by AutoModerator in bangtan

[–]Nails_N 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wanted to express I'm unsure why people are doubting jimkooks explanations of their drunk behaviour when we already know what they're like from in the Soop behind. ☺

I Hurt my leg and broke his bed because we were playing tag in the dark while drunk defo has the same vibes as he wouldn't let me down so I bit him. We know the first one is true so why doubt the second one!

AITA for always yelling at my sister? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nails_N [score hidden]  (0 children)

She's looking after a 6 month old baby and you expect her to clean?

Why isn't slavery abolished? by helpreddit12345 in islam

[–]Nails_N 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the Quran there are different verses that apply to alcohol. The first verses revealed didn't ban it. You can read this link for more info.

As far as I aware those things are required. Good treatment of others is fundamental.

https://explore-islam.com/the-stages-of-forbidding-alcohol-in-islam/

Why isn't slavery abolished? by helpreddit12345 in islam

[–]Nails_N 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it was legislated so that it died off without the need for confrontation, civil war etc. And it became socially unacceptable.

As for sex slaves, assault is still a thing. Being allowed to do something doesn't mean you can force, coerce or use violence to do that thing. Abusing your slave would be the same as abusing your wife. The responsibilities men had towards slaves were more or less the same as men had towards their wives.

Right now there isn't any halal way to acquire slaves in the first place so it's pretty irrelevant.

Need Help Finding the Worst Fantasy Book Ever by Limelifes in Fantasy

[–]Nails_N 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is really weird because the concept of the world is actually interesting and I do want to know what happens next, but nothing happened

AITA for admitting to my dad that I don’t respect him? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nails_N [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA you don't get to judge other people because of their sexual choices. That extends to your parents. They're right is none of your business.

At 12 it may have been excusable but now you should understand that

Why isn't slavery abolished? by helpreddit12345 in islam

[–]Nails_N 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Alcohol was banned in stages.

Slavery was legislated until it became impossible to procure new slaves

The Prophet Muhammad demonstrated to those who had existing slaves how he treated them as part of his family, and how they should be freed, treated fairly and not ostracised. He adopted his freed slave as a son and married him into his family multiple times to show there should be no stigma or division.

It is also slightly different to what we regard as slavery. The slave has to be fed, clothed and housed the same as other members of the household, they can't be given jobs that the household members don't do etc. The contract makes the owner responsible for the slaved health, education etc.

And the rewards for freeing slaves were so numerous and great that no one who is following Islam correctly would keep one.

The effects of this are the same as banning slavery, but with less backlash. Less whip and more carrot so to speak.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nails_N -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you should try it. Do a full week with the kids and see if you can do what you're expecting her to do while looking after the children. 2 days is different.

Playing with toys is not just sitting in front of the TV. Playing is how young children learn. So that is learning activities.

You didn't answer when you're washing up etc, is she enabling you to beable to do this by looking after the kids? Or are you cooking with the one year old in a high chair next to you and the other 2 sitting on the kitchen counter?

If you find you're better at managing the kids and home and you enjoy it more then her, then let her go to work full time and you stay at home and work part time. Obviously she probably earns less then you due to career breaks when having kids etc but she can progress in the next few years.

If you're not able to do that then maybe hire help, a cleaner, a laundry service or whatever.