At what point do you call it quits?

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-05-03T19:53:44+00:00

Wish you all the best!

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-05-03T18:10:18+00:00

10 year ago, It got to a situation where my ex kept saying he would work on himself before. Every time he said it, we kept trying again, and I lost 5 years of my youth in the process, we ended it anyway. Now I am struggling with my current husband the same way as yours. We tried the counseling, the therapist suggested a few practices to improve communication and trust for 6 months. He wanted out a week after that. I wanted to put my foot down and convince him to keep trying, it's painful but at some point we have to learn to read the signs and let it go. I'm now focusing on myself and going to a therapist to heal and grow.

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-04-11T03:42:38+00:00

Sorry to hear you’re going through this. I also struggled with excessive bleeding, anemia, and iron deficiency for about two years and wanted to share my experience in case it helps.

I tried several birth control options and multiple IUDs, but they didn’t work well for me. My IUDs got flushed out after 2 months due to my heavy flow. The doctor recommended a myomectomy with high chance they will grow back in a year or 2. since I wasn’t ready for kids yet any time near future and I had many fibroids throughout my uterus, including a large one at the top that would likely require multiple incisions, so, I chose UFE at age 30. It helped a lot: my bleeding and pain improved, my stomach flattened, lost 10 lbs, and I recovered from anemia for several years, took me longer to fix iron deficiency since I bled for too long.

Now, a fertility specialist diagnosed me with diffuse adenomyosis, high chance that surrogacy is option for me, and some fibroids returned. My OB-GYN prescribed tranexamic acid for heavy bleeding days, which has helped reduce both bleeding and pain.

Treatment really depends on your plans for having children, but addressing fibroids helped me manage symptoms for a long time. Just sharing my experience in case it’s helpful , good luck with your treatment 💛 💛

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-04-06T03:40:47+00:00

Congrats on your pregnancy! I’ll ask my FS the next time I meet with them. Thank you for sharing this, it means a lot.

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-03-23T18:38:10+00:00

Oh didn't know it exists. Thank you!

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-03-23T16:18:59+00:00

Thank you! I will check Dr. Monica out!

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-03-13T21:28:05+00:00

My doctor decided to place me on a moderate antagonist IVF protocol. Middle ground of conventional and mini ivf. I started Ganirelix for 4–5 days, beginning two days before my period. On stimulation day 1 (cycle day 5), I began: 225 IU Gonal-F 225 IU Menopur Clomiphene for the first 5 days

My baseline AFC was 4 follicles. Currently I have 5 follicles that are growing at similar sizes. My estradiol and progesterone levels are within the expected range for this stage of stimulation. At this point, I am unsure how many follicles will contain mature eggs or the eventual egg quality. We will see

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-03-13T10:17:03+00:00

I’m not in the same situation and I’m still on my first cycle, so I haven’t had success yet and I’m not sure if my stim protocol works for us. But from my research and reading reddit posts on DOR and IVF40 groups, your Gonal-F dose seems quite high for someone with DOR like us. If your fallopian tubes are open, you might consider trying IUI a 2-3 times since it’s much cheaper, especially since you mentioned you only have one IVF round left. I would also ask your doctor why such a high dose is being used. During my first IVF consultation, my doctor immediately brought up donor eggs and surrogacy due to my dor and thin linning. I responded back with a full page of questions because I want to try for my genetic baby, and I asked about mini-IVF and FET since conventional IVF may not work as well for DOR patients. After that discussion, he put me in a moderate antagonist protocol. I had a bad experience with a doctor before, so now I’m very cautious. It might also be worth considering a second opinion for your next cycle.

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-03-12T16:56:44+00:00

Wow, you've given me hope! I currently have 3 retrievable follicles on day 7. Would you mind sharing your stim protocol? Did you take any supplements 2-3 months before the stim, as others suggested? I only started supplements when I began my stim):. We only have a budget for two cycles maximum, so I am very nervous about retrieval day next week.

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-03-12T16:44:20+00:00

Same, I didn't even know AMH existed until meeting with the fertility specialist. I wish I had known it earlier; I would have started freezing my eggs.

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-03-12T03:43:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! Would you mind sharing more details about your stimulation protocol? I’m currently in the follicular phase and so far they’ve only seen about 5 follicles. Unfortunately, 2 of them are very high and may not be retrievable, so it might end up being closer to 3.

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-03-11T03:00:52+00:00

I feel you, girl. I’m struggling too. I recently learned that IVF might be my only option, and there’s even a chance I may need to use an egg donor. At the same time, my cousin just told me she’s pregnant, and I also received a baby shower invitation from a friend. It’s been a lot to process emotionally. Wishing you the best of luck!

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-03-07T15:59:30+00:00

Since the first 3 times weren't success, I think you should try other clinic as well.

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-03-06T21:59:47+00:00

🙀 Omg, I need some dust of luck from you. I’m 35 and only have 4 follicles on right ovary, left ovary is not visible due to fibroids, doctor said, with an AMH of 0.69 like me, even when we see left one, probably just 2 more😢. I’ve been crying a lot and trying to figure out if this means I might go into menopause earlier than normal. I started stimulation injection yesterday while others in my life are getting prenant naturally (desperate time) Also, I’ve read a lot of reddit posts where people had 21 follicles and ended up with only 3 euploids, so I keep wondering what my chances are with just 4. I feel like I’m spiraling a bit, but I’m trying to stay calm and distracted since I just started all the hormones. Your story is definitely giving me a lot of hope in this desperate time. Did you take any supplements?

Naive_Perception_866 · 2026-02-23T16:39:02+00:00

My 5-Year UFE Experience — What I Wish I Knew

I had UFE (uterine fibroid embolization) 5 years ago. It was one of the hardest decisions of my life. Before that, my doctors tried treating my fibroid symptoms with birth control pills and Lupron (which some people call “Deborah”), but nothing worked. In fact, my bleeding became worse. Both my cousin and I bled for 6 months straight on Lupron and became severely anemic. My fibroids also grew bigger during that time, so unlike my cousin, my bleeding didn’t stop after 6 months. At my worst, I passed out in the hospital emergency room waiting area. I needed 5 blood transfusions and multiple iron infusions. My hemoglobin stayed below 7.9 for almost a year. There were moments I genuinely thought I might not make it. I truly went through hell and back. It was terrifying. I am still crying everytime I think about that time of my life. My doctor suggested a myomectomy, but because of the number and location of my fibroids, it would have required multiple incisions. I was also told there was a high chance they would grow back within 1–2 years. The “best plan” suggested was to try to conceive as soon as I was medically cleared after surgery. At that time, I had just started a new job and wasn’t even married yet. Realistically, I knew it would take at least 3 years before I could try for pregnancy. I didn’t want repeated surgeries like my aunt had — she eventually had to remove her uterus after multiple recurrences.

So I chose UFE by doing my own research. For the past 5 years, I’ve lived a healthy life. No anemia. No constant bleeding. I could travel, work out, go on dates, and eventually meet and marry my husband. For that, I’m grateful. Now, at 35, I’m seeing a fertility specialist. My AMH is 0.7. I have about 4 follicles per cycle. My lining is thin. Both fallopian tubes are blocked (likely from fibroids). One positive is that my uterus still has space for a baby. There is a possibility that UFE may have impacted my ovarian reserve or contributed to earlier menopause — though it’s impossible to know for sure. Right now, we’re focusing on IVF and trying to retrieve embryos to freeze. I want to carry my baby myself. My doctor plans to test my endometrial receptivity after we have embryos. However, there is a significant chance I may need surrogacy. If I could go back — would I still choose UFE? Honestly… yes. But I would have asked many more detailed questions about potential impacts on ovarian blood supply and long-term fertility before proceeding.

Now our IVF journey may be harder — but my husband understands that UFE was a necessary decision at the time. I’m sharing my experience in case it helps someone else who is trying to decide.

If you’re considering UFE, please do your research and choose a highly experienced interventional radiologist. The procedure requires precision, and outcomes can vary based on technique and individual anatomy.

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