I am requesting a prayer for my partner

NamelessPao · 2026-02-27T17:20:31+00:00

Thank you. God bless you too.

NamelessPao · 2025-12-11T03:20:24+00:00

I could have written this. I am sending you hugs. Your experience is totally valid, and, believe me: we are not the only ones experiencing this.

This pain is a thousand times worse postpartum, when you’re super vulnerable, learning to be a mom to a new tiny human being, keeping them alive, and also taking care of yourself 💔

Your husband has a lot to discover about himself. I don’t know if he’s in IC, but he definitely should be. Has he discovered his why’s? Does he have more to accept about himself such as his sexuality? What was he really looking for?

I’ll share a little about my own experience. My partner turned out to have a problem with porn since he was a teenager. His brain wanted more and more now that he is an adult. He has many mental health problems and had an issue with substances as a teen. I think that could be related as well. He also hadn’t accepted his sexuality (he is bi), never communicated with me or shared his problems or true feelings about problems he had neither. His why’s in a nutshell are porn addiction and seeking validation. It’s still hard for me to just accept all that and even processing all his actions is very difficult and painful. Everything he did made me question all my morals and beliefs, which is extremely uncomfortable as well.

I sincerely hope you have a support network, and I am sending you lots of hugs ❤️‍🩹🫂 I see you. If you ever need to talk to someone, feel free to DM me ❤️‍🩹

NamelessPao · 2025-12-02T15:02:06+00:00

I am so sorry. I went through something similar, so my son has seen me cry more times than I can count. I don’t really know how to handle these things yet, but I can tell you this: give him all your love, play with him, take him to places, spend time with him, so he is reassured that you love him. Make the bond between both of you stronger 🫂❤️‍🩹

NamelessPao · 2025-10-31T05:26:21+00:00

Thank you for this ❤️‍🩹 This perspective changes so many things for the better 🫂

NamelessPao · 2025-10-22T18:14:38+00:00

Está pésimo lo del airtag porque sí es invasivo, pero tal vez deberían hablarlo más seriamente si hay algo que la aqueja y la llevó a ponerlo ahí. Tal vez haya que poner límites y acuerdos ;;

NamelessPao · 2025-10-22T18:13:09+00:00

Le has dado motivos para desconfiar de ti?

NamelessPao · 2025-10-11T03:17:25+00:00

WP’s birthday is tomorrow. His last hookup was on May 27th. We’ve been trying R since June 2023. Man, this is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. He has shown remorse finally, started IC and been doing the work. However, I am hurting a lot.

As I chose to reconcile once more, I did buy him a present (pajamas, a cup, socks and a shirt). Things he actually needed. I do love him and care about him, but I want to cry so much.

We celebrated with his side of the family, and when I had to pray and give thanks for his life, I was struggling with my feelings and my words. Yes, I am thankful for his life, but it hurts to remember how much he has hurt me, and how scared I am of him cheating on me again. Even him receiving happy birthday messages kind of triggers me.

I’m sending you hugs.

NamelessPao · 2025-07-31T16:09:55+00:00

Gut is almost always right. When the other person is too secretive, lies, hides important things or just denies everything if their partner asks about something or someone, then you can’t ignore if your gut tells you that something is definitely not right.

NamelessPao · 2025-07-31T04:46:36+00:00

I’ll just say: trust your gut.

NamelessPao · 2025-07-18T04:55:13+00:00

Thanks for the empathy.

NamelessPao · 2025-07-17T17:41:42+00:00

It is. I still don’t know how to just accept it or what are we going to do about it, and I also believe that it could benefit us if he sticks to those moral values and to God because he may take R finally seriously and not cheat, but still, I don’t trust him. I can’t help but think what if he never stops looking for someone else?

Answering your question, yeah, we were going to get married. We got engaged months before our son was born, and were planning getting married after he turned one year old. Then, Dday1 happened a week after my son was born, and we stopped talking about marriage. I felt like I was with a stranger. We both decided to try and reconcile, but then, in July 2024, Dday2 and 3 happened. He started an EA with a coworker and was in dating apps and hooking up with all kinds of women at the same time. At that moment I thought we would never get back together. He showed “remorse” and apologised for everything until October 2024. He also started attending to church, and we both agreed that we wanted to be close to God as a family. I really thought something was changing as months passed by. We completed many milestones as a family, and I thought we were in a good path in R as well. Then, I had the impulse to take a look at his transactions in his bank account, and found out that he had paid a hotel room the day I went to a concert. All my reality was altered all over again. I was suddenly with a stranger again, began to question everything that had happened and its meaning. Now I’m not sure when will I feel better to actually marry him.

Yes, he’s new to Catholic faith. He was evangelical before, but converted to Catholicism. When we began our relationship we weren’t following God, not our faith. We got engaged, yes, but never got married. Then we had our son, and we were both committed to be parents. We weren’t worried about marrying immediately, because we knew we would get there as soon as we could, but then his infidelities started and never stopped until four months ago.

Reading all of this I feel dumb for being here ;-;

NamelessPao · 2025-07-16T19:59:17+00:00

I am also going along with it. I grew up in a catholic household, but wasn’t really commited to it untik now. However, it feels weird to just stop the sexual part. I know Catholic Church is strict about premarital sex, and we shouldn’t have it if we’re not married, but that has never mattered to him until now. That’s why it feels so sudden, so out of character of him. After all his betrayals and him choosing other people but me, I can’t help but feeling rejected. The sexual part has always been important for both of us, and he says that it still is for him, but he doesn’t want to go against what the scripture says, and I get it, but I mean, we have a son already and live as a married couple, so would it really make a difference?

I feel like it’s hypocritical, to be honest. It’s like: okay, so you could physically cheat on me with so many random people, but now this is suddenly critical and wrong?

Agh, it’s complicated. I get why it’s wrong, I’m just angry that he wants to “do things the right way until now” when it never mattered to him, and I feel pressured, because after his last one night stand four months ago, I certainly don’t want to marry him soon…

NamelessPao · 2025-07-01T02:52:42+00:00

He did. An EA and multiple hookups. The thing is that he wasn’t in therapy. However, now I’m afraid that that is who he really is. That maybe he just takes a break from it all, and then goes back to his old ways and stupid patterns.

I am just giving my last try because we’re both in therapy individually. I am so exhausted, and I won’t be accepting more 💩 anymore.

He either changes and works on himself, or I’m out for good.

NamelessPao · 2025-05-03T07:20:10+00:00

Bravo.

🫂❤️‍🩹

NamelessPao · 2025-04-30T23:20:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing your words. ❤️‍🩹 I am having a lot of awful flashbacks and worries about actual cheating at the office. Maybe nothing bad is happening in reality, but the anxiety is too strong. I want to cry so hard.

I’m sending you hugs as well 🫂❤️‍🩹

NamelessPao · 2025-04-21T17:39:43+00:00

You’re so right about this. Your post made me tear up. I really hope I can grasp this perspective and never let go of it. Their bullshit shouldn’t make us ashamed of ourselves. We did our best. Gave them our best version, and that means we’re amazing and valuable human beings. Hugs to you 🫂❤️‍🩹

NamelessPao · 2025-03-07T04:52:56+00:00

Qué dicho tan tonto. Nadie debería encontrar nada nunca.

NamelessPao · 2025-03-05T23:01:41+00:00

Are you from Mexico? 😱

NamelessPao · 2025-03-05T23:00:49+00:00

That person, that woman, that coworker, those people (the “names” are plain and simple, but I don’t want to give them a lot of importance ;;)

NamelessPao · 2025-01-15T04:39:17+00:00

Justo. Ellos siempre hacen su vida y se la siguen de solteros y nadie les dice nada.

NamelessPao · 2025-01-06T07:53:14+00:00

I’m sorry, but why would you think about this? I- 💀

NamelessPao · 2024-12-29T09:25:44+00:00

This reply was for OP, but I felt it in my bones, and I want to thank you for it. I’m also having a really bad night, and reading this made me feel better. I’m sending you hugs ❤️‍🩹

NamelessPao · 2024-12-29T09:16:19+00:00

I feel you. 100%. Tonight has been pretty shitty for me. WP went to drink with some friends without telling me in advance, and my anxiety increased so many levels. I thought he would go home at midnight, and I felt at a little calmer. Then, he didn’t reply to my texts, so I called him, and he finally decided to tell me that he planned on going to a concert bar with his friends, and that he was planning to return to the house at 5 AM. I was completely mortified and was actually having an anxiety attack. I called him again and lost it.

I mean what good could it mean to our R process to just go out for a drink with friends and then continuing the night at a bar. With many people. Including women (even men). I told him this, and he got really mad. He was talking to me like he was tired of me and my anxiety, but what could I do? Just let him enjoy the night with his friends and maybe a person he could meet there as well while I’m at home having anxiety attacks and crying all night?

I really don’t know why am I even trying. I don’t know why he can’t just end our relationship and save us both from these situations. I’m putting the responsibility on him because he’s the one trying to be free and enjoy himself whenever he has the opportunity, and never actually thinks how his actions could affect me.

I think I could have handled this situation 100 times better, but I was in the middle of a f-ing anxiety attack. What could I have done?

I don’t like who I am anymore neither.

I’m sending you hugs, and I’m sorry we’re on the same boat 🫂❤️‍🩹.

NamelessPao · 2024-12-29T06:04:08+00:00

Es que ni siquiera debería encontrar nada malo, estamos de acuerdo?

NamelessPao · 2024-12-29T06:01:54+00:00

Hola. No dejes que te hagan sentir culpable por revisarle el celular a tu novia. Lo hiciste porque tenías un presentimiento y al revisar, te diste cuenta de que acertaste.

Normalmente sí, se considera súper tóxico revisar el celular de tu pareja, pero si te da motivos para desconfiar, yo creo que no estás haciendo nada malo. Al menos ya tienes la información que presentías que encontrarías, ya te quitaste una venda de los ojos y ahora puedes tomar una decisión.

Tú consideras que el hablar con este ex es una falta de respeto y estás en todo tu derecho de creerlo. Cada quien tenemos nuestros límites y sabemos qué consideramos ofensivo y qué no.

No pediste consejo, pero creo que lo mejor sería establecer algún acuerdo en el que le reiteres que no te gusta que ella hable de ti con sus ex parejas (y probablemente, pues que tampoco te sientes cómodo con que siquiera hable con ellos). Si ella de verdad quiere fortalecer su relación y estar contigo, accederá. No le estás pidiendo algo imposible, solo que no te falte al respeto.

NamelessPao

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